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Big Dicks vs. Competent Foreplay

Your preference…be honest!

Greek Satyr with fantastic cock and ballsI would like to hear about how important a man’s phallic length is. Every adult film I’ve seen has the macho studs sporting cocks of equestrian proportions, and it sure LOOKS like the women or men enjoy having every orifice filled by them. In the real world, however, how does a big dick rate compared with your partner being competent in foreplay? Would your personal preference be a horse-hung mate, but you’ll settle for other things in lieu? If so, what rates higher for you in that instance? Your feedback could be most enlightening. —Phlyon Zawahl

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    From Anonymous
    I’ve been with a total of 9 men. One was small, but he and one of the larger men were the best lovers I’ve had. They knew how to get me ready with their mouths and tongues.

    One of the larger ones was the worst. He went for penetration before I was fully lubricated and aroused and it was uncomfortable, even slightly painful and it wasn’t my first time having sex.

    That said, some of the larger men were able to bring me to orgasm while penetrating me. There is something to be said for that feeling of being completely filled and the pressure as he pumps in and out.

    A medium sized man was also one of the best. He tried various positions, knew what to do. In a scissors type position, he managed clit stimulation and deep penetration which brought me to the most intense orgasm of my life. I couldn’t even speak for a few moments after because I was so intensely experiencing it.

    Knowing what to do is a must, but size does help too.

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    From Anonymous
    Not the size? Why continue this lie? Seriously? I’m sure if you were met with a penis the size and girth of the larger crayola markers, you’d be completely unthrilled. As a woman, I can not lie. Size matters to us, just as much as tightness and boob size matters to men. We all lie to each other on this subject and lie to ourselves about it as well. If a man has a half inch girth, no matter how he uses it, that thing won’t do anything at all. Be honest.

    I’ve been met with the Crayola Marker dick, and OMG, if it wasn’t for actually having feelings for the man, I would have run away as fast as I could, Good thing he wasn’t a permanent part of my life.

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    From Sizes
    I will say that guys with really big cocks scares me. It don’t scare themselves from what they got cause the society’s perceptions is that larger is better, prettier and more usefull in sexual intercourses. I do think that there is just a few ones girls how honestly can admit that big cocks feels good. To the rest of us it is pain. About the foreplay: if it is right performed and I mean right we don’t need a horse cock to satisfy our sexual lust. I feel sorry for guys with an idea that size is everything.

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    From Bubbles
    Hey frds, have slept with few men … most of them small in size and I have not been happy with the experience. With years I have realized that definately an average size is fine, anything 6inchs and above, but the most important is the thickness that really matters the most. The circumfrance can really make a woman feel ecstasy and it can sustain most of the positions as it fills the vagina well and does not spill out were as thin penis have major limitations for positions as they pup out very easily.

    I love a thick and a long cock, but nothng bigger than 7 inches please as the sizes above give tremendous pain during and after the intercourse.

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    From Zanne
    I was a very early masturbator, and I’ve been doing Kegel exercises for many years. So I have a super tight pussy and although size doesn’t really matter it’s nice to have a healthy sized one. I get my most intense orgasms orally, so it’s all about the foreplay for me. Men who love to give oral and can do it well are few and far in-between. And even though I’ve had more than my share of cunnilingus devotees, I am greedy and can never get enough.

    Guys, read the book: She Comes First. You will never have a problem with a woman sexually again. No matter how big or how small your dick is.

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    From Lars
    This is a very interesting and important topic and I am glad to hear all the women saying the truth, even though its their own truth. There are some men lucky enough to be having a large penis. I belong to those guys that are below average, my penis is just under 5 inches and I do admit that I have always been envy on guys who has a large penis.

    Both men and women are making fun of men who has a small penis, I don’t think it’s by intention to hurt guys like me, but it does, I really wish I had a large penis, but I do accept that it’s small. I have had women that have been honest about it and left me because of it too. I also know that I have never been able to satisfy a women sexually through intercourse. These are facts to me, I don’t want women to say size doesn’t matter, just to make me feel better, if they enjoy it, then they should go for it. I am sure I would if I was one of them.

    I am single and I am sure that my lack of size is one of the reasons. I am sure there are women out there that would be ok with my size, I just have to find her. So does size matters, yes it does to most women and foreplay too.

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    • sayre

      Ive been with someone “small” and he continues to get plenty of action. (He had 3 kids when I met him) For one he’s convinced its a litter bigger than it is.. but he is confident.. he got built and he knows what hes doing in bed orally and having sex what positions to try ect

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    From Black Girl
    I have had the opportunity to have been mounted by both Black and White men. Until recently, I too thought that men of color could be counted on for poppin’ the most in terms of size (being hung and all). Then I got a wake up call. The men that are endowed with the huge ram rods usually deliver a lot of pain, not pleasure.

    Well, one night while on a 3rd date with a tall, strong, dark man of color, things got hot and heavy and to the point of our clothes coming off. As I began to feel all over his beautiful warm black body, I just had to reach down to grab hold of his manhood. I just could not wait to explore every inch of it! What a shock! The brotha was packin’ about 4 inches at the most. I caught myself before blurting out, “Where is the other half, baby?” My jets were cooled big time, but we continued on to the point of having sex.

    Ladies, that was THE BESTEST pounding ever! A joy stick of that size hits your g-spot with every thrust. Getting laid by Mr. Donkey Dong himself just promises you a banged up’d uterus and and a coochie that looks like it has been turned inside out! So, does a mans race make a difference? no! Does size matter? Yes! For myself, smaller is sooo much better. I can’t get enough of that humble sized wien wien! And by the way folks, equal opportunity is the way to go. I love all flavors of men. I am so happy to be a woman!

    For small tooled men out there, just add some soul to your push and pull along with a slight roll to them hips of yours and your woman will hit a high note like Minnie Riperton. No Lie.

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    From Anonymous
    Foreplay! Foreplay! Foreplay! Several posters are accurate when they say that a when a woman says this it usually means she is small. I also agree with the poster who said that Kegel exercises will make the difference in your enjoyment of sexual intercourse no matter the size.

    That said, thicker means more to me than length. Long dicks usually hurt me and before marriage I didn’t do long ones twice. But I have to be honest here and say I enjoy a dick best after oral sex. It’s too bad men don’t realize that their tongue and lips will get them all the devotion in the world. I can be fucked silly after a good tongue bath that brings me to multiple orgasms.

    I’m thankful for this site and the honesty of so many women who are finally letting men know the real deal. Sorry guys, the penis just isn’t the whole story. Although it’s definitely the lead character that depends very much on it’s co-star. Without the co-star there’s no story. And if there’s no story, it’s just plain boring.

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    From Dennis
    I’m a fairly well endowed man, (8 and 1/4 of an inch). Now the pleasure it gives me is enormous while I don’t think it does much good for girls other than visual stimulation, if any. I rarely go all the way in except for anal. But I will say it provides me with a little confidence in first pulling it out cause I usually get a comment like your big or wow or something, but not always by the way ladies pretend it’s big even if it isn’t.It’s a huge confidence booster to hear someone say you’re so big. I mean I knew I was well endowed in high school because it used to get comments in the locker room but I was embarrassed and thought I was a freak, so it all in perspective.

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    From Liz
    Six months ago I would have answered quickly that foreplay was definitely most critical for me. I’ve had sex with a variety of sizes – some too big for certain positions, some too small for certain positions. In any case, the foreplay was always critical and there was no sense that a bigger cock could replace this element. I married a man of reasonable size but extraordinary talent.

    After being married for several years however, and getting hornier every day, I had a surprising experience as I cheated for the first time last fall. I had been getting close to a friend and we finally crossed the line and started kissing, and he kept saying how that we wouldn’t be able to stop if we started making out. In that moment, I thought, no way – I’m not having sex with you – I can definitely stop. Then as we rubbed against each other, he pulled out the hugest dick I had ever seen. And I WANTED it. I had him inside me in seconds, and it was unbelievable. And we’ve continued to have sex for months – never with any foreplay to speak of. For a cock that size, now (this was different when I was younger), just knowing that it’s there enough to drive me wild instantly.

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    From Alabaster
    I want foreplay. I don’t care how big you are, your size alone is not going to make me beg for your cock. However, your skill in using your MIND (the most erotic organ), hands, mouth, and afore mentioned cock should make me beg 🙂 I do have certain preferences though. For length, I prefer an “average” man (5.5 – 6.5 inches). If his cock is much longer than that it bottoms out and becomes uncomfortable or even downright painful when he presses deep. Also, that length seems to hit my G-spot just right. For width, I like 2-3 inches in diameter (5-6 inches circ). My pussy is tight and becomes increasingly tighter the more aroused I get so anything thicker, even with copious lube, is uncomfortable for me. My ass is even tighter so I definitely don’t want anything bigger in there!

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    From Anonymous Male
    Now that I’m older, I am embarrassingly lacking in the endowment department. When I met my current girlfriend, I mentioned this to her early in our relationship. She has accepted me as I am. I make up for it through foreplay. She pleases me by wearing the sexy clothing and heels she knows excites me. Then through the use of some consensual light bondage, role-playing and my slow and soft teasing touch, my girlfriend achieves climax every time. I enjoy pleasing her.

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    From Candyheart
    I’d take foreplay over a large penis size anytime. But have to admit that with the right amount of foreplay, a long hard dick (seven, eight, nine inches is very desirable) with two inches in girth and a slightly larger fat mushroom shaped head. Also, hard long tongue and a greedy mouth that enjoys sucking a fat clit and sucking wet pussy.

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    From Sarah
    I think it’s a sad commentary on US society that men figure their worth via their penis size. So much so that men are willing to watch a big dick fucked their girlfriends, wives, lovers. Very sad indeed. Think of it this way: women, or men who want to play with big dicks, can simply buy one. It’s call a dildo – any size shape color you want. However, a smart, witty man with a keen sense of what makes a good lover, and is a joy to be with, is damn hard to fine, impossible to buy.

    I’ll take a good guy who is a good lover over a dick-head any day. And when I desire a big dick, I simply introduce a big dildo into play, and have the best of both worlds.

    Come on guys, stop measuring your worth via your penis. Measure your worth as a lover by careing more about pleasing your lover, than about the size of your dick.

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    From Mary
    A long penis is not much fun, and a women really can’t do much with it – too long to grind, too long to suck it comfortably, and it looks snake like, not at all attrative. It’s all about the girth. A thick, short penis is perfection, that along with a man who knows what he’s doing is truly heaven on earth when it comes to sexual satisfaction.

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    From Mary
    Long dicks do not make make it for climatic sex, and certainly not pleasant sex. It’s the thickness we girls want, fatter kicks longer anytime. Long dicks just bang the hell out our insides; thick dicks feel good, lots of friction on all the good spots. And, if it’s too thick, lots of foreplay and lube will fix the problem. But too long, there’s simply no fix, it’s just uncomfortable. Guys with 6 inches of fat dick rule!

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    From Danielle
    For me, ‘competent’ is the most important word here. My preference lies with average or slightly smaller than average sized dicks: too large and it’ll hurt, too small, though, and it may slip out during an intense fuck, which can be anything from a shame to annoying to painful. I like to feel his balls against me hard when we fuck which for me is easier when he’s not too large.

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    From Little John
    Speaking as someone who is seriously under-endowed (my cock is a meager 3.25 inches when fully erect), it is my experience that cock size can actually be a very big issue in the bedroom (or perhaps that should be a very small issue). The majority of women I have dated have reacted very negatively when they have seen my cock for the first time. These reactions have ranged from giggling to breaking off the relationship right then and there.

    Fortunately for me, I have now found someone who can see beyond such things, but it has taken a long time. Since then, I have learnt that there are ways of getting around having a tiny cock (oral sex, carefully chosen positions, a strap-on, etc), but it is still a serious knock to the ego to know that 9 times out of 10 your partner isn’t going to reach orgasm from your cock alone. Just thought I would share that with you.

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    From Veronica
    Honestly, I never thought much about it until a girl friend told me about how her well endowed lover was pleasing her. I’m a 48 y.o. widow of 5 years and got back into the dating game about 3 years ago. I have 3 kids and I noticed that after the last one that intercourse wasn’t as intense as in the early years, though even then I never was able to achieve orgasm from intercourse.

    Boy what a difference with my current boyfriend/lover. He is very well endowed, about 8in. long and 5 and a half around. (yes we measured ). When I first saw his erect penis it was very exciting and such a turn on to handle and suck it, though I can’t begin to get all of it in my mouth.

    Intercourse is a new exciting experience. As other women have said, there’s no substitute for that “full feeling”, the friction and stretching that I now get. His thickness is stimulating my clit and the extra friction is apparently rubbing my G spot, or whatever is happening. I also love the pulsing feeling at the back of my vagina. I’m now experiencing multiple orgasms from intercourse, and some incredible final ones. Of course it doesn’t hurt that he’s a handsome, well built guy and very romantic too. Also, and very important, he is very patient, always waiting until I’m very wet and ready ( It doesn’t take long! ). We also use lube.

    I’ve read that a minority of women experience intercourse orgasms. I wonder if they’re the ones with well endowed lovers?

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    From Susan from Canada
    Great topic! I absolutely love a guy licking and sucking my labia and clit and licking and fingering my anus to get me going. I can become so turned on by foreplay I can’t decide where I want the man to fuck me first. The length of a man’s cock has never been of interest to me, but rather his penis ‘girth’ size is another story – the thicker the better.

    I am 5′ 2″, 125 lbs., and petite in build. I have to be really honest here and tell you that ultimately, I want my legs to be pushed wide open by a man, then to be filled up to my maximum by him. There is no bigger turn on for me than being totally full of massive maleness. One day I hope to meet him wherever he is. I am just about having an organism thinking about that thick cock as I write.

    In answer to your question – yes, I want foreplay and a big one. A small cock just would never do it for me I’m afraid. I wish there was some way to find out how big a guy was before getting to the point where you are already in the sack. Perhaps I need to get the nerve to discreetly try and ‘cop a little feel’ when still at the kissing stage.

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