People are weird. Just last night some guy told me, “Porn is not for women!” I was like, “WHAT?” Ugh…I’m a woman and well damn, I love porn! Oh and yes, I have lots of porn on my computer! —Christine
Porn is not for Women, or is it?
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From Tom
Emma, the definition of pornography is not “the graphic sexually explicit subordination of women through pictures or words.” [see Emma’s entry below] Gay porn made for gay men that doesn’t have any women in clearly exists. “By logic and common sense, pornography for women is a contradiction in terms.” No offence, Emma, I think you’re projecting.
From Emma
The definition of pornography is the graphic sexually explicit subordination of women through pictures or words. By logic and common sense, pornography for women is a contradiction in terms. We’re more than half the population and there are entire industries and cultural institutions for Women. Something as simple as an aid to masturbation would be easy enough to create to pander to Women’s tastes. Since it does not exist in any practical form with billions of people on the planet, it is proof that this idea is nonsensical. The idea that it might exist is a projection of the Male mind.
From jojo
A while ago a friend and I went into a sex toy shop. A man came in and sidled around the shelves. Whilst we were bantering, he looked up and said “I didn’t think women came into these places.” I waved the vibe, she waved the cuffs and I said “Who do you think uses these things?” The look on his face told me he’d not thought of that angle. I think he’ll send his woman next time. By the way I like porn
From Judith
I am a straight female who, after watching porn for a number of years, finds it predictable and boring. However, I do like to masturbate while watching my favorite DVD of a younger woman going solo. I try to do what she is doing and orgasm along with her. My guy will sometimes masturbate along with my on-screen playmate and I, but says he would rather just watch me. I think that’s special.
From Anonymous
I tried getting into porn when I was younger, but what I saw was obviously intended for a male audience. Now that I’m older, I can’t support an industry that exploits women this way. Why do so many people, especially woman, want to ignore this ugly reality? You can have sex and masturbate without getting off to other women being exploited.
I once had a virgin boyfriend learned his sexuality entirely from porn movies. He was the worst lover I’ve had. He actually thought I would enjoy defecating on him! Disgusting. I have heard other similar things from women who were involved with men who are porn addicts.
I can’t support an industry which continues to mis-educate men as to what women actually enjoy sexually, sorry having sex with dogs does not do it for me, neither do any of the other degrading and misogynist things I’ve seen in and heard about porn.
Not sure women are exploited as we all have freedom of choice and if its not choice then some men are exploited too.
I love watching porn if it’s tastefully done Solo women, hetro couples or threesomes. And lesbians. I live alone so it helps me when masturbating.
I hate weird stuff but it’s always lurking.
And let’s make it harder for kids to watch. It’s not appropriate at all.
From Anonymous
This may seem rather simplistic, but I think the only reason men seem to like porn more than women is that they don’t have very good imaginations. I kind of like some porn, certainly a nice change of pace sometimes, but when I’m in the mood for self-love, the porn in my head is simply way better than anything that exists anywhere else. Any combination of men, any location, all of them saying and doing exactly what I want. The only difference between that and porn is that mine requires a good enough imagination for the fantasy to seem real.
From Stacy
I’m much more into soft porn than the hard stuff (which is what my husband likes). I think I’d get VERY hot if I were to watch two guys going at it…but my husband would freak out if I asked to rent a DVD like that. I know what works for me is reading erotica…and again, when I read about two guys having sex, I get very very hot and bothered. So for me, the bottom line is, let me read instead of watch.
From KarenJ
I run an adult paysite for women [For the Girls] and I’m extremely pleased to find this page. The comments here back up what I’ve long believed – that women are capable of enjoying sexually explicit material just as much as men.
Of course, the vast majority of porn out there IS designed for male tastes, and I know that while women find porn a turn on, they also feel somewhat dissatisfied with what’s being offered.
I’m doing my best to change porn from within, which is why I’ve been writing women’s erotica and making sex sites for women for almost 4 years. One of the biggest obstacles to making good porn for women is finding decent content. So often photos of sex rely on overused conventions and stereotypes that are quite frustrating. You know – the woman always wears high heels, the “money shot”, the facials etc etc.
From Jane Lane
I’d have to agree with most posts here. Porn IS about women, but perhaps it goes deeper than that (no pun intended). Usually, curious or horny (or both) people watch porn, like a discovery. I admit to watching it, and I admit to liking it, I am a woman, and that comes as a surprise to many men as it’s almost a dream for them to have a girl who likes it.
The aim of being alive really is to procreate, to have sex and increase the population. Human beings were built with a sex-drive and porn is just one of those natural things that spawns from such a reason. I see it as an exploration of sexuality, and if women were not supposed to express and explore their sexuality, then what a biased world it is.
You either like porn or you hate it. Everyone’s seen porn sometime in their life, but not everyone admits to it. The one thing to remember is that you shouldn’t be ashamed of yourself for such a thing. once you’ve seen one porno, you’ve basically seen them all..
I really enjoy watch people fuck… naked… and enjoying the sexual side of themselves…
From Robert
Again, I’d like to start by thanking you for this site. This is the first site I’ve found that really discusses erotica, porn, sensuality and sexuality.
The question at hand, is porn for women? Yes, and no. I’m a guy who loves porn. I’ve been watching since I was about 9. And back then porn was better in a lot of ways. It was still on film. The set ups were no more realistic, but it was more beautiful and women were stronger. The sexual revolution empowered women. And it was the stronger more mature women that I really loved, and still do.
I’ve been really disgusted with the modern trend in porn, to be brutal and demeaning of women. It doesn’t appeal to me at all. But I’ve also been disappointed with the few porn designed by women. I found it too soft. I would love to see more of a story with strong characters and great sex! But I also jack off to porn I wouldn’t share with my wife.
I would love suggestions on porn that is good for couples.
From Anonymous
I have often felt that women are an untapped market in the adult film forum. Most adult films are currently written for men, with men’s desires in mind. I believe that if a movie is made from a woman’s perspective, about a woman’s needs and desires that more women would opt to rent them. Especially married women.
If a movie portrays couples that make love as couples satisfying each other’s needs that it would truly revolutionize the adult film industry. I believe we are targeting the “wrong” sex and totally missing the point.
From J. Corvo
Until I joined ERWA I had no idea, not a clue, not even a hint, that women were as interested in erotica and “porn” as most guys are. When you look around at society in general, there is little to indicate that women are a dominant force in the consumption of porn. They are much more likely to be the subject of it.
As women, when was the last time you sat in front of a sex video and wanged away? Were there any men around to watch you? Come to think of it, when was the last time you walked into one of those creepy sex video shops and bought one?
That may be an unfair question. The last time I was in one of those places I would have sooner picked a live cockroach out of a spittoon with my bare hands than picked up one of the videos.
But, my point is, how are guys supposed to know you are not your mamma’s good little girls who despise porn as sexist objectification and ugly degradation (in other words-a guy thing) unless you tell us what you like. Tell the guy so he knows, don’t tell him and discount him as an idiot.
From klittykat
I Love Porn! But unfortunately, it’s all so predictable. The stuff that gets me off is not readily available. For example, my first orgasm was with another female. She rubbed her cute little pussy all over mine and gave me a clitoral orgasm. Since then, I’ve been studying my own orgasm, what it looks like in the mirror, how it feels when I manipulate myself in different ways, how I can hold it back, how quickly I can force an orgasm, etc.
Everything I’ve known to be a genuine female orgasm, clitoral or vaginal, are not portrayed in adult films enough to give me a satisfactory selection of movies. A lot of times, I’m stuck a-whackin’ off to the same rare scene that turns me on, but that gets old after a while, and then the hunt begins again. I’ve seen a few that had women having real clitoral orgasms, and I’ve seen the pussy twitching as it orgasmed. These type films are always few and far in between.
From Brulee
I love porn. I’m a 32 woman. I am interested in women exclusively, but I love hetero porn. I don’t like male-male porn, and the lesbian porn doesn’t feature “real” lesbians. My problem with a lot of porn is that it can demean women to the point that I am not turned on at all by the action. The two men/one woman stuff (two dicks one chick) is kind of horrible to me.
I like hardcore, don’t get me wrong. I love seeing a woman enjoy a good pounding, but she HAS to be enjoying it. A lot of porn where she is swallowing loads and loads of cum, getting screwed in the ass, and gagging on a 10 inch dick does not often look like a good time. That’s a real turn off. I have yet to find a site where there is some good erotic stuff that is still very hardcore.
From Varenius
I go through phases where I’m really into porn and phases where it doesn’t interest me at all. I am heterosexual but I prefer to look at naked women — perhaps because I identify with them when I see them pleasuring themselves or men or other women.
I become very aroused from porn, and have since I was a young girl. I think a lot of porn involves issues of dominance and men controlling women, and this doesn’t please me, but porn in the pure sense of people having sex is a healthy and enjoyable addition to my life.
I find it immensely exciting to look at porn with a man and talk to him about what he thinks of a woman’s breasts or vulva.
From Anonymous
I’m a woman who likes porn, but not dominating or demeaning situations. I’m strictly heterosexual, but I love woman/woman and man/man porn. Even better, I like to read erotic stories of romantic sexual encounters either between a man and a woman, or woman/woman or man/man. What excites me the most about lesbian or gay erotica is when one or both partners aren’t lesbian or gay but end up enjoying the situation intensely.
From ShyGurl
I love all of you out there! I thoroughly enjoy your comments on this site. Anyway, yes women, definitely this woman, like porn! I prefer images of women but that may be because 1) I’ve never seen two men in a romantic/sexual scene and 2) the men-women scenes are too artificial, totally heartless (boring) and oftentimes way too violent.
I like the way women ease up to one another and then get busy! I saw a snippet of a video series featuring professional porn actresses with amateur exhibitionists. Hot, hot, hot! No plot to speak of but the sheer enthusiasm of the amateur was very sexy!
I’ve got to find a way to get a good video in the house. My husband is very conservative (alas, my toys do not get shared). After all these years of bad-talking traditional porn I don’t know how he’s gonna take it when he sees me getting busy by the light of an erotic video.
I write erotica, translated loosely – porn, for my wife primarily, then send it on to a site that I’ll not mention.
If I can get to her mind, then I have done my job and I find that I get the best feedback from my female readers. Men don’t always like it since it has far too much romance and buildup to it.
I’ve read a few comments about the “exploitation of women”. At the risk of sounding insensitive, the women willingly decided to go into the business. Unless they were kidnapped and forced into performing, then they are exploiting themselves for the money. Is some of it disgusting and repulsive? Yep, it is. But they volunteered to do it, and like it or not, it was their choice to make.
YES! Of course woman love porn. My husband and I enjoy it both together and alone. I like to watch to learn new things as well as to get turned on. It just makes me hot!