Your preference…be honest!
I would like to hear about how important a man’s phallic length is. Every adult film I’ve seen has the macho studs sporting cocks of equestrian proportions, and it sure LOOKS like the women or men enjoy having every orifice filled by them. In the real world, however, how does a big dick rate compared with your partner being competent in foreplay? Would your personal preference be a horse-hung mate, but you’ll settle for other things in lieu? If so, what rates higher for you in that instance? Your feedback could be most enlightening. —Phlyon Zawahl
From Avg. Joe
My wife and I have been together for going on 15 years, married 11. I have always had a bit of a complex and admittedly a fascination with big dicks, although I’m the furthest thing from gay or bi-curious. I measure 6″ x 5″, both can gain about 3/8″ when at peak arousal. These numbers put me above average supposedly, but like most men of average endowment, wish I was packing some more meat. I am, I honestly believe it too, the only man my wife has been with. Our sex has been very fulfilling, in that I get more aroused and personally get off more on trying to make her have more and more enjoyable sex all the time through drawn out foreplay and masterful oral.
I have (which I am becoming to believe was a mistake) introduced a realistic toy of 7″ x 6″ into our play on occasion. She did not like it until recently, when I took extra effort to make sure she was at peak arousal. With a bit of lube, she has had the most tremendous orgasms ever and squirted for the first time… I derive tremendous pleasure from the fact that she explodes with it, but at the same time, it has given me a complex.
My fear now, which I am trying hard not to let shut me down, is that she will want the real thing with a good man pushing… So yeah, no doubt, more of a good thing seems to be a better thing. I’m hoping our love, trust, respect and dedication to making the best of what we have together will be enough. I am at fault, but her eyes (and vag) have been opened to bigger and possibly better things… Hopefully, it won’t ever cause too much insecurity in me, or case infidelity in her. I don’t think I can share her, but am admittedly scared for the first time ever.
This is so funny, what a coincidence! Our story is quite similar: although my wife has had a few other partners before we married, she tells me I am the largest… that’s nice! I guess at 7 3/4 inches and thick, I would be above average. I do need to be careful and gentle at first, but soon she is urging me on and well, she loves it. Especially if I rub her clit at the same time… occasionally we orgasm together in a frenzy, and that is awesome!
To extend her pleasure, I bought a realistic dildo (about 6 inches; well honestly, I got her two— one 6, the other 8, and had her try both. The 8 inches was too big for her.
We use the smaller one when I go down on her, and she will come over and over again with my tongue and the toy. She also uses a Rabbit several times when we are having sex. It’s wonderful for her to come so much, but it has never replaced me. I think of her pleasure and that’s what counts.
BTW, what we’d really like to try is another guy with her. Bigger or smaller than me, it wouldn’t matter. I’d like to see her, and she’d like to show off. We just haven’t found the nerve yet.
From Delilah
I am a 30 year old woman living on the east coast. Based on my experience, taking the lovers that I have enjoyed who had not just competent but superior foreplay and technique, I have to say, sorry gentlemen, size matters!
First of all, the size and foreplay ingredients cannot be completely separated. My current b/f is my biggest (by far) and just watching that long, fat cock sway, plump up and become rigid is a huge turn on. I love to touch it, wrap my fingers around it (they don’t touch when he’s hard) and feel its mass and weight. He will sometimes slap my butt or thighs with it and the meaty smacking sound it makes is unbelievable. True arousal occurs between the ears, not the legs, so those sights and sounds add very much to my pleasure.
And yes I was a little frightened of it at first. But he took his time, massaged me, relaxed me, ate me and lubed me. The sensation of being so filled — girth and depth — was way beyond anything I’ve ever experienced. I don’t always come from penetration but the first orgasm came quickly and was shattering. And he wasn’t even all the way in! Since then, I’ve happily become very adept at taking every fat inch. So for me — other things being equal — the bigger, the better.
I am a 31 yr old female but Im not the norm. I was with women most of my life from a young age but it is penetration that does get me off. but when I am with a man I prefer men of average size.. im i guess small down there i dont know but its just too much if a guys huge
I want and have ducked a few cocks in my day 8 inches long enough for me I love to be on my knees between your legs sicking his cock with his hands on my head guiding me up and down on his fat Cock
I personally dont like a longer penis, I have a tilted and shallow vagina. I have been with boyfriends who thought that foreplay was not nessacry because of their big dicks…. And they were the lousy lovers i ever had. On the other hand a guy with an average or even smaller package have been awesome lovers because their egos dont get over blown.
i don’t have orgasms thru penetration. i have a small clit (clit envy). i find long cocks painful. and also men who have big dicks tend to be overly focused on penetration. in my lengthy experience 😉 it is rare that they go down on me or finger my clit. many of them don’t even know what a clit is. aesthetically i do love the way a big cock looks, especially cut cocks, but for penetration, i’d prefer something average. and i’ love giving head and it doesn’t matter the size. as long as the man is receiving pleasure, i am happy.
Being in the lucky position (no pun intended) of being in a swinging relationship, I’ve been able to experience a large variety of shapes and sizes. For me, big isn’t better. I’m not particularly turned on by looking at a huge cock and physically I’m not a fan either. I like being pounded hard, and big ones don’t do the job as well as average. Can be painful, bc the guy isn’t going to hold back to make sure he doesn’t penetrate too far. Not a fan of giving oral to a large cock either. No room to really do your thing with your tongue and lips when your mouth is stretched to capacity. I know many women are size queens, but not me. Give me a nice average length with some good girth and I’m a happy camper.
Reading all the comments still leaves the question unanswered regarding size. Maybe my comments will help in some way. Most men think they aren’t well endowed enough and a lot of this can be blamed on watching porn. These men, myself included, see large penis’s satisfying women in ways they’ve never experienced so they assume big is better. Most porn movies involve women enjoying sex with huge men behind their partners back as this is what men fantasies about. A fantasy is something us guys don’t want to happen so the more unrealistic the better. For example look on any porn site and you will see interracial sex up there as one of the most watched. None of us guys want our partners fuckin a big black cock behind our back but the thought of it really turns us on. Forget foreplay, if you can talk to your wife about her having sex with a large black man in any situation at all it will turn her on. The key to a successful sex life is talking to your partners about your fantasies. Don’t believe me, read all the comments here. Most are about sex with other men
We introduced a couple into the Lifestyle and took them to their first house party. We decided to break them in and when the guy dropped his pants, he flopped out this cock that was close to a foot long and about the size of her arm. My wife was on her knees in a flash, doing her best sword swallowing act, which shocked me.
Normally, she’s on the woman instead of the man but she said that she couldn’t resist and got him off four times that night. Twice in the mouth and twice in her pussy. My dick is around eight inches and the usual complaint I get is that my dick is too big but it looked small next to his.
I perfer men that are showers. Be around 6 or 7 inches long and 5 1/2 around. My husband of 20 years is not any of those dimensions. His total opposite but he tries to please me. On a whole he does pretty well but sometimes I wish he was bigger. I perfer cumming that way.
I honestly think that penis size is not important. My current partner has issues because of medication and so penetrative sex is almost impossible but I have to admit that my sex life has never been better. I’d much rather have it this way than having a large penis although maybe if you could have superior foreplay as well as erect penis regardless of size that would be even better