Why Do People Cheat

Is one partner not enough?

Men are dogs. Ok, some men are dogs. I have been cheated on, time and time again. See, I think they just get bored or something of that sort, because even now mine has been caught trying to do more than window shop. And each time it was with one that was bigger than I. So be happy with yourself, and to hell with them.. Besides, we can live without them. That is why we have hands and they made vibrators...   —Rena

What's the three words you never want to hear while making love? Honey, I'm home.   —Ken Hammond

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From Helen
I had an affair a few years ago with a man I meet on a business trip. I was a virgin when I married and had started to think about having other men's cocks. I wanted to feel a longer or larger cock than my husband's since I enjoy the different size dildos we have. But I also want the feedback from a man as I hear him moan as he is about to come, or the watch his face as I suck on his cock.

On my business trip, I meet a man who asked me to join him for dinner. We just seem to hit it off and I was in a flirty mood and found his attention very flattering. We got back to the hotel late and went to the hot tub. I hadn't packed a swim suit, but I wanted to join him and so I decided to wear a bra and panty set which matched and would look like a sexy swimsuit with the little bit of lace it had on it. He seemed to enjoy the sight of it when I took off my clothes to get in the water. I was very flirty taking every chance to touch his arm, lean into him and laugh, and even sit on the side of the hot tub with my semi-shear panties.

I was sitting on the side of the hot tub and massaging his neck and shoulders when he leaned his head back into my crotch. I moved my hands down over his chest and felt his nipples and stomach. When he turned around and started to rub my thighs, I had a tingle go through my entire body. It wasn't long before he was brushing his hand against my panties and if they hadn't been wet from the water, they would have been from my wetness. When I didn't stop him, he continued on and I felt his fingers rubbing through my panties, then under my panties, and I reached down and pulled them aside. He knew what to do and his mouth was all over my pussy. I wouldn't even let my husband do this in public like this, and here I was with another man being eaten out at the hot tub. We left and I took him to my room. We were naked and on the bed as soon as the door shut. I couldn't wait to feel his cock in my pussy and it was a great night. We had a few more nights of passion and then it was time to head home.

I loved the feel of another man's cock even though my husband is a great lover. I could hardly wait to get his cock in me once I got home. I now have fantasies about a threesome with two men pleasuring me with their cocks and mouths.

From Anonymous
I have been on both sides of the cheating issue.  First, when someone cheated on me.  All I wanted was an explanation why, but never got one.  It wasn't until I had cheated that I understood why there was no explanation.  When I cheated I was wondering if the woman I married was a mistake.  It was a short affair and I never told my wife.  I realized my wife was the right one for me and telling her would only make it worse. 

That was many years ago.  Communication and openness to try new things and keep things fresh and exciting in and out of the bedroom is the key to a loving relationship in my opinion.  My current relationship is predictable from the time I wake up until I go to bed.  Sex is routine, orally nothing is allowed now and visually I don't get to see anything.  I read books, researched online and talked to people.  Minimal to no success with the ideas.  My scenario is that I put in all the effort, but my wife was not interested in trying.  My wife allowed work, kids, cell phones, religion, friends, to take precedence over our relationship.  As that happened we drifted. 

Number one on your list has to be each other.  Otherwise I'm convinced things won't work.  After years of trying to do whatever it took to make our relationship better and not getting a full fledged effort from my wife, I gave up.  When I gave up the boredom and awkward relationship only got worse.  Now I've decide a physical relationship is no longer worth the effort and I don't try anymore. 

I have not physically cheated on my wife since I quit trying to work on our relationship.  However, I now am enjoying what I would classify as an emotional affair with someone I am around regularly.  Lunches and after work gatherings have made me feel better about myself and the possibility that romance and love can still brew inside one as you get older.  What I have with this woman fills the gaps in my life at this time.  I know not what my future holds but have learned over the last few years what is needed, man and woman have to be the top priority to each other to be monogamous.

From Mikel
Why do we cheat? Well I guess the beat answer I've heard is that although we love vanilla ice cream we would still like to sample the other flavors. Even though I love my partner there are situations where I would try chocolate, strawberry, or chocolate chip with nuts and cherries.

From Syracuse, New York
I was faithful to my husband for twenty years.  I started working at a new place.  My boss and I spent hours and hours together.  Working with someone and seeing them at their best is an incredible turn on.  We starting flirting with each other and I enjoyed the attention.  We were by ourselves late and we kissed each other.  We have been fooling around for over a year now.  I still care for my husband and would never do anything to rip my family apart.  However, my lover makes me feel wanted.  It is nice to have someone who aches to touch me and tears my clothes off.  I do things with him that I would never try with my husband.  And to top it off, we work together better now because we now each other so well. 

From Martin
I have had a few chances to cheat and it was a combination of opportunity and intrigue that caused me to cross the line once. It was with a co-worker and we both were married. We had a friendly relationship and she asked me to teach her to play racquetball. We played racquetball once or twice a week either at lunch or just after work. It was fun and she started to tease me a little bit by tugging on my shorts. I would warn her that I would get even with her sometime, but she just laughed at me. But there was a time that she pulled on my shorts good and they came right down and she laughed as I stood there in my jockey shorts. I got her back and made sure I pulled hers down to her knees in one quick move. She had on a nice pair of white bikini panties which really looked sexy on her. This began some accelerated flirting.

The courts we played on were at a small private club with very little usage, so we found ourselves alone most the time. She would come to the men's locker room to get a clean towel when I was totally naked. She would knock on the door and say she needed a towel. So I would wrap a towel around me and take her a towel. Once she just opened the door and stuck her head in to announce she needed a towel. I was totally nude standing right in front of her when she did this, so I just pointed to the pile they left in the locker room and told her to get it herself. After this, she would just walk in and get her own towel whenever she needed one with me changing or in the shower.

There were some other guys in the locker room once after we finished playing and so I thought I better take her a towel. I didn't want her to get surprised by them if she happened to come into the locker room and I thought turn around was fair play. So I walked into the woman's locker room with a towel and caught her topless. She hurried and grabbed a towel to cover up her nice tits, but I got a nice good view. I explained the situation and she said that would have been embarrassing for her, but she said I should have knocked. I told her next time I would, but then she said it didn't matter. We sat and talked for little while and she didn't worry about the towel covering her tits. I  noticed that my cock was nice and hard since I had a hard time not enjoying her tits. Then she once got out of the shower and found she didn't have a towel, so she came walking into the men's locker room nude to get a towel and dry off. I was surprised but did enjoy seeing her nude. She had a great body with nice large firm tits. I noticed she had a nice trimmed bush on her pussy. Soon after this, we had finished playing racquetball and were talking when she invited me to come and shower with her in the woman's locker room so we could continue our conversation. We began to take showers together in the woman's locker room. Nothing physical had happened, but it was exciting to be nude together and a few times I felt myself getting hard and having a difficult time not getting a full hard cock.

Things were a little slow sexually at times at home with my wife and it made it even more difficult to control my erections. Then it happened that all this came together. We were in the  shower together and I was feeling my cock getting firm gazing at her soaping her sexy body. She looked over and then stepped over and took my cock in her hand. It instantly went fully erect and with her soapy hands, she started to stroke my cock. It felt so nice and I didn't want her to stop. She took me all the way with her hands and I shot cum all over the shower. We weren't sure what to do next and decided to enjoy some physical time together since we both enjoyed being together like this, but agreed to not have intercourse.

We started to wash each other in the shower and with my hands moving over her tits and ass, it would give me an erection every time. This was her key to give me a hand job and I would finger her pussy. We would do some humping in the shower with my cock rubbing on her bush and she would allow me to fuck her titties. She enjoyed having me ejaculate on her and I really enjoyed watching my cum land on her tits. My wife doesn't let me cum on her, so this was very nice. The ultimate was when she was stroking my cock and she knelt down and took my cock in her mouth. She was very good at oral and she knew what she was doing. She brought me all the way and when I started to cum, she left my cock in her mouth and swallowed every last drop. My wife had only done this a few times and she had never swallowed, just spit it out. My wife had gotten to the point of not finishing me off orally at all, so watching this woman give me this pleasure was hard to turn down. 

I had wondered how her pussy would taste and after she had given me a couple of blow jobs, I offered to return the favor to her. She took me up on my offer and we moved a couple of soft benches together. She laid down and spread her legs. I looked at her luscious pussy. She kept her labia shaved clean and left a nice trimmed landing strip above her labia. I went down and it was even nicer than I imagined. She was very responsive to my lips and tongue and fingers as I worked on her pussy. She finally orgasmed and I felt a small release of her juices with her orgasm. I made sure to suck it all up and enjoyed the taste. She informed me that her husband didn't like giving oral and she really misses it. She hadn't had an oral orgasm for a long time. We enjoyed the time together and had some great sex this way. I got transferred not too long after we called things off . We got to the point that we both wanted to fuck each other, but had agreed not to which for some reason seemed to prevent us from doing it. And we knew we had to stop seeing each other for awhile. So my transfer came at a good time just as all of this was ending.

From Joe
My girlfriend cheated on me last week, I found out because I went to her apartment and was just about to knock on the door when I heard her moaning, so I went outside and peeked in her window and saw some guy on top of her on the couch, she had her legs up on his shoulders and he was just plowing away at her. He had a huge penis it was at least 9 inches long and really thick, at least twice as big as mine. He didn't even have a condom on and we have always used one, we have been together two years now. They did it for about 20 more minutes then he came in her.

 I haven't told her I know she is cheating but just watching them I could see how much better sex with him must be, I know he stretched her a lot, the next day she only wanted oral and she told me to suck it gently so I know he hurt her.

From LeRoy
I have been married for 33 years and have fantisized about other women and have even went on lunch/dinner meetings/dates with female colleagues at work who have suggested we get together. Well what in hell would it be called getting together. I refused to get physical but the conversations are very provocative and interesting to say the least.

My wife has the sex drive of a toad. She has become physically unattractive and her health has went to hell because of poor decisions made from doctors telling her what to do. I have been fortunate to be in relatively decent health, I walk and exercise, she won't even walk. I've asked her repeatedly to walk with me and talk. We don't have sex because she either doesn't care to, or if we do she makes a comment like "I'm gonna just lay here, you do the work". Wow, what a sensual thing that is. No wonder I have ED.

When I read these posts about why men cheat I find one comment used most regularly. "BOREDOM" I couldn't agree more with a saying I read recently, a quote from mother or grandmother to daughter "if you don't take care of your man, someone else will". I use a different shake in business that's on the same note. "If you don't take care of your customer someone else will". I'm in my twilight years of working and refuse the thought of divorce. It would change my life drastically.(financial and mental)

I've been intimate friends with my right hand for almost all of my married life and will most likely continue that relationship. My wife would be revolted if she knew. She used to use sex as a tool to get the things she wanted, that quit working a long time ago. It really pissed her off. Looking back I should have changed direction 25 years ago, but hindsight is 20/20 and we can't change the past.

To cheat or not to cheat, that is the question and cheating is not the answer. Men choose your spouse carefully, and never get married if you like variety, unless you get a rare women who understands how to keep things interesting.

From Gigit
My first husband got his secretary pregnant with twins. My second husband was much older than me and became disinterested in sex because I had gained weight and he wanted a "better target".  Needless to say, it was years before I got back in the game as my self-esteem was too low to feel sexy.  The icing on the cake was when I got breast cancer and had a mastectomy at age 47!  I never expected to find a man who would ever be interested in me, despite the miracles of modern plastic surgery.

Well, I decided to re-invent myself and start on-line dating.  Somehow when I got all dressed up and became the new persona, I felt and acted sexy!   At this point I was 50 years old, a few extra pounds, and one fake boob, but I had more dates than I could handle!  They were all married men.

These were handsome, sexy, professional men; and they were all up front about their marital situation.  Most had been married for over 20 years, the kids were grown and out of the house, and their wives just weren't interested in them anymore!  All I had to do was flirt, listen, and treat them like they were the sexiest man I had ever met.  I listened to their fantasies, and, if possible, I made it happen.  For the first time in my life, I was in control, I was sexy, desirable, and getting what I needed.

Women should know that their husbands cheat because they want to feel like a sexy stud again.  Their bodies are 50, but in their minds, they want to perform like they are 20 again, and many do that first time!   Almost every man told me that their wives no longer give blowjobs, and certainly never swallow, so I did!  I love oral sex performed on me, so I shaved smooth and wore sexy lingerie; men love that!

The thing is that men are just as romantic as women, have a rich fantasy life, and most truly love their wives.  If/when they cheat, it is 1-2 times, and they feel so guilty that they quit. I was told many times that I remind him of what he "once had" at home, and he was going to try again.  I listened, then happily sent them back home.  Many are still email friends, nothing more.

Men cheat for different reasons than women do, but that is another story. 

I certainly don't advise women to take the route that I took.  Mine was a unique situation and perhaps what I needed to validate my own sexuality.  If you are just looking for one-night stands without any drama, you will do well with married men.  I made the mistake of falling in love and after 4 years, he still has not left his wife.

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