Big Dicks vs Competent Foreplay
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From Anonymous Male
Now that I'm older, I am embarrassingly lacking in the endowment department. When I met my current girlfriend, I mentioned this to her early in our relationship. She has accepted me as I am.

I make up for it through foreplay. She pleases me by wearing the sexy clothing and heels she knows excites me. Then through the use of some consensual light bondage, role-playing and my slow and soft teasing touch, my girlfriend achieves climax every time. I enjoy pleasing her.

From Anonymous
I am a gay man, and have to admit a big dick does it for me over foreplay. As much as I love foreplay the sight of a big dick turns me on. I can't abide sucking a small one and size really does matter when I'm taking it in the ass.

From Anonymous
Foreplay! Foreplay! Foreplay! Several posters are accurate when they say that a when a woman says this it usually means she is small. I also agree with the poster who said that Kegel exercises will make the difference in your enjoyment of sexual intercourse no matter the size.

 That said, thicker means more to me than length. Long dicks usually hurt me and before marriage I didn't do long ones twice. But I have to be honest here and say I enjoy a dick best after oral sex. It's too bad men don't realize that their tongue and lips will get them all the devotion in the world. I can be fucked silly after a good tongue bath that brings me to multiple orgasms.

I'm thankful for this site and the honesty of so many women who are finally letting men know the real deal. Sorry guys, the penis just isn't the whole story. Although it's definitely the lead character that depends very much on it's co-star. Without the co-star there's no story. And if there's no story, it's just plain boring.

From Anonymous
Just when you thought this topic had been exhausted...

Anyway, arguing about this is like trying to convert someone from Christian to Hindu, from Republican to Democrat, or from PC to Mac. It ain't gonna happen, and each side is SURE that the other is wrong.

The fact is, people have different sexual preferences. Some choose big cocks because they try one and like the feeling (physical). Others say that they are turned on by the idea, regardless of whether they ever even get a chance to be in the same room with one (psychological).

Some have the opposite opinion (I'm resisting the temptation to say they they're usually the guys with small cocks), thinking that size doesn't matter.

No one is right except for him- or herself. If you like big cocks, go out and find one (or two, or three)! If you don't, then go to China, baby!

It's all good if it's good to ya!

From Susan
We are in our fifties and like our sex, and both quality and quantity are important to me along with lots of caring, loving foreplay. My husband's cock is normally the regular length but it often gets longer when he gets turned on and excited by our foreplay and the extra inches really matter to me and I tend to orgasm well before he comes. 

A few years ago we went to a lifestyle party and one of the guys I met did have a big cock (10 inches I guess) which was an amazing experience, resulting in some very satisfying sex since the guy took ages to climax.

From Anonymous
I'll take foreplay over size any day, hands down! (Tee hee!) I had a lover who was the god of foreplay. He was a foreplay Santa and every night with him was Christmas! Foreplay with him was so good and so long, my body would get incredibly wet and throb so much, I would end up begging him to put himself inside me. I think in the end the incredible foreplay made my orgasm so much more intense. I have to say - later I married a guy with a larger dick, but he just wasn't as skilled or generous. I hate to admit it... Santa was a better lover.

As for size, girth is nice to have. Length doesn't do much for me, and too much length scares me. (If a woman is using something like a diaphragm, length can end up being painful.)

I wish men would get over the size thing. I think the entire obsession with penis size is a creation of male society. I don't think women care about size as much. It is all about technique. Women can only feel about two inches inside anyway. Think about it, guys -  childbirth is painful enough without the birth canal being even more sensitive. It's a gift of nature to not be more sensitive there. The most sensitive area of a woman isn't directly stimulated by the penis during intercourse, and so requires a man to have skills. In fact, I like to think of my entire body as an erogenous zone - so don't put all your hopes of pleasing a woman into your inches!

From Robert
My wife has been with just another man in bed (me apart of course) and she sometimes tells me she had the sensation of being more dominated and feeling so full as he was more or less 8 inches x 7 inches wide, I feel a bit jealous but can understand it and in the other way she prefers to remain marries to me even when he is richer, bigger penis and tries to marry her .

From Leta
I had a large guy when I was young that hurt and it's because they have to take it slow and he didn't, even with foreplay, too much too soon. I had smaller guys which was not painful because I'm small vaginally, but I didn't feel dominated. 

Then I met my keeper! He's 8 inches long and I dunno what girth just that it's really wide all the way around with a really pronounced head. We took it slow and steady and now, nothing could compare to the feeling of complete domination and fullness that I get from him. He doesn't have to do or say anything to make me feel like the woman, we're gentle and yet I'm still feeling like he's the big bad man!

Another note: There's a condition that makes a guys dick look smaller than it is and WOW what a shock when penetrated. These guys have a fat pad around their dick to protect it better in cold climates - any men that suspect they have this should look it up because it can be confusing and humiliating for them.

From Ghost Rider
Hi Ladies: I know it must look nice to some of you ladies to find a guy with something that looks like a summer sausage hanging between his legs. Believe me ladies size is not everything. If I were a lady, I would want someone who knew how to use what he has in place of going for size. I'm a firm believer in "Its not how big it is, but how well the guy uses it." 

I'm average in size and prefer to be that way. If size is everything, there is a lot of ladies out there that seems happy and there seems to be a gods plenty of kids spread around. You know that there is only a small percentage of guys equipped like John Holms. To make up for size there is good foreplay, oral stimulation, mental stimulation, and aggressive women. Some of us guys are just like putty in an aggressive woman's hands. Yes Lord, send one my way.

From Katerina
Come on girls let's be honest. I have had two BIG guys. One of them, David, (he is almost 9 inches long and 6 inches around) still lives nearby and I see him regularly. My current boyfriend is a sweet, lovable guy and I adore him, but I don't come half as hard with him as with David. It's just not the same. I know many of David's other ex-girlfriends continue to see him for sex, and I'm sure most of them are in relationships. Chats with my girlfriends lead me to believe that most if not all girls who've had a big one in the past still go back, even years after, for a good seeing to, even if they're married with kids and the whole works.

From Anonymous
Guess dick size is to women like breast size is to men. Some like them small and firm, others like them like sloppy watermelons.

From Knuhc
I am 7inch in length and a little less then 6inch diameter, although a virgin, I have made a girl orgasm several times just through oral sex. In my opinion foreplay would be better.

From Lisa
I have been with a lot of men. I have never dumped one because his dick was small, nor have I ever kept one around because his dick was big.

From Sarah
A big dick is nice (especially one with girth, not necessarily length) but if there isn't any emotional connection or intellectual interest on my part then it's sort of pointless. I wouldn't say foreplay necessarily but what good is a big dick if it's attached to a guy that means nothing more to me than a dildo?

Some of the best sex I ever had was with a guy with a tiny dick - only because he was really kinky and we knew how to be creative together! Talk about a mindfuck! I definitely think personality is the most important part.

From Bob
I am gay and I love big cocks going in and out of my ass. It hurts but it is amazing. You guys out there should try it. Unfortunately I have a small dick and I can't get it in any guy's ass. I choose size over foreplay, and guys and girls don't laugh at my small penis because it isn't my fault. Big dicks in my black ass are awesome.

From R 
My wife has had one child, and I know she wishes I were a bit thicker (I am 4-something inches round), though my 7-odd inches length seems to be enough for her. I supplement lack of girth with a couple of fingers along with my cock when she is really, really turned on and about to orgasm. The results are sheer bliss to watch on her face! 

But she certainly would think this was a "loaded" question....why have to chose between either? She would definitely want both!

From Nobody
My woman likes them thick, she can't go much over 6.7 inches diameter and cannot go more than 6.5 in length. So girth certainly wins the war with her. But there is no chance of getting 5 in diameter without good foreplay.

From Sarah
I've had both. I've had the average guy with a thick penis that definitely knew what to do, and how to do it in every sort of position. He can kiss like a god and knows how to use his fingers. And then I've had the guy who's 12 inches, made me feel like a virgin with his size, didn't kiss at all, was awful at foreplay and really had no good positions. 

Which was better? The first. I don't care how large you are. If you don't know how to work it, you shouldn't be working it at all.

From Anonymous
I have only been engaged in sex with five men in my lifetime and size does matter. I prefer a large dick with some girth especially if they are gentle and experienced. I had been celibate for five years and recently had a sexual encounter with a man larger and wider than ever, what a wonderful experience. I still get wet when I think about him and can't wait to have many experiences with him in the future.

From Anonymous
My former lover left her non-attentive husband when she learned what she and I could do together. That sums it up...pay attention to your lover and size means nothing but a number.

From Anonymous
I have always been attracted to men who are largely endowed, especially the ones that know what to do with them. It is the most fulfilling experience, wish I could find one about now. My fantasies are filled with passionate lovemaking with a big dick man....oh yeah...dick over dildo any day.....I feel pleasure just thinking about it

From Jenna
My husband is about 4 inches and fairly thin. He uses his tongue and hands to get me ready and then finishes me off with his penis. When he wants a quickie I don't really feel anything.

Recently I have been seeing a guy who is about 8 inches and at least half as thick again as hubby. I always orgasm with him.

From Anne
Once I discovered how to control my vaginal muscles through kegel exercises, size is no longer important to me. Now I can have that filled to the brim feeling with any size penis, especially less than average men. I can squeeze my vaginal walls (muscles) around his penis and experience that filled up feeling.

My best friend explained the kegel thing to me after I was complaining about the small size of my boyfriend (approx 3-4 inches). Boy did things change when I learned how to control my vaginal muscles. My boyfriend noticed a difference too...he said I felt tighter. It's more of you adjusting and clamping your vaginal muscles around his penis versus a big penis expanding you. Let me tell you, it makes a big difference!

I don't understand why more women don't know about this. Granted it took me a short time to gain the control I have now. But the exercises are easy and I now have much stronger orgasms.

From Kila
I have had very few dicks in my time but each was markedly different in size. One was average about 6 inches (is that average) and slightly curved. The poor guy attached to it could not bring me to orgasm to save his life. Thank goodness he could use that tongue. The next was short and fat about 5 inches and divine. I had multiples but he was good at foreplay as well. He introduced me to the fabled nipple orgasm ..which is totally awesome. 

Then came long and tall, every bit of 8 inches and thick enough for me. He would hit my g-spot and I would cry with pleasure. I was wet just looking at him and remembering. After him (and during - yes I had an affair for emotional reasons) I met Mr. 6 inches and skinny. It was good, probably better for anal...but nothing mind bowing! He could tell I was used to more endowed brothers. Afterward little guy, he was a four inch fat fuck - hated it...but he was a master at oral sex. I still think about that! Then along came Mr. 8 inches and thick...I married him!

From Adrian
Ideally we could get both - why settle for one or the other? I have been with both, and as a rule guys with less than average dicks work harder, and are far better at foreplay and satisfying their partners needs. Guys with larger than average dicks tend to roll it out with a flourish, and then lay back and expect you to do all the work (or is it worshipping?)

Now, I will admit that the big ones are nice to look at, and used skillfully are a delight, and will always require an encore performance. Far too often these are attached to unattractive and/or out of shape men - again they allow their dick to do the work, and let everything else slide.

There IS such a thing as too small, at least for me, anything under about 3inches is just not enough. There's also too large - one guy had 14inches, with a 8inch diameter, (and a gut, and face like a pizza), and it was just too boring! No, really really boring.

Give me an attractive guy in nice shape (doesn't have to be muscled, just lean), and an average or slightly smaller dick and chances are you are going to have better than average sex (not guaranteed, but chances are).

From Anon.
According to my sexual partners (some giving reviews after we were apart), I'm a couple inches longer than average and a fat lot thicker than average. Big honkin' deal. While my penis was enjoyed by all, I got the best reactions out of partners from foreplay that hit their hot spots. You can have a stiffy for an hour, and you'll be spoken of well. But you won't bring her to the brink as many times as the guy who spends five minutes here, five minutes round yonder, 45 minutes down THERE and 5 minutes in THERE (And a couple of minutes in your postgame before you extricate yourself).

And, as you get older, you'll realize something—your tongue and hands never need Levitra.

From A Woman
I'm sorry, but I also prefer them large. A man having a large penis is a requirement with me. My current boyfriend is perfect, about 8 inches and nice and thick. Size does matter. There is nothing, absolutely nothing more of a turnoff than a guy with a small dick. And the visual of seeing my well hung guy stroke himself when he's hard is ooh-la-la. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

From Lizbeth
I've only known one penis. it's fairly large, definitely above average. It's great, but I don't know if it's great because it's big or because my husband is good at what he does. I do know that foreplay is crucial. You can't skimp on that no matter what the size of your tool is!

From Janet
Large enough to give me a good deep fuck is great, but not so large that I cannot take him in my ass, which I love, is perfect.

BUT

Best of all is a person who know how to use their mouth, tongue and FINGERS. Fingers are so underrated, and it is hard to beat someone with good fingers who knows how to use them inside your vagina and ass. Orgasms from screwing are all very well but the ones I get from skilled fingers beat all!

From Andy
My wife says for pussy, mouth or anus it's 'quality, not quantity' every time for her. She says a well-lubed 10 or 12 inch cock might take her breath away when it first fills her vagina but the subsequent in-out action becomes very painful whereas a fatter cock, 6 or 8 inches, hits the spot more times than not but it must always be part of lots of loving, creative, unrushed foreplay!

From Linda
I think a cock of a length of 6 inches fits me just fine. That is the size of my boyfriend's, and no complaints from me; since he knows how to give me the most awesome orgasms, and he knows how to use it. I myself do not want a cock any larger. Foreplay also plays a great deal, especially if your partner has a VERY talented tongue...such as my boyfriend has....and boy does he use it well! 69 is my favorite foreplay position, especially when I am on top!

From Vinu
I think size is not much important unless it is less than average or more than average. Foreplay & patience plays vital role. Both partners should judge each others preferences & go accordingly. We in India experience that if both trust & truly love each other, we do not require any gimmicks of prolonged erection. As far as breast is concerned, I would not prefer bulky breast, but prefer neatly shaped normal size breast.

From Vickie
Silly question. Average is OK but the bigger the penis the better. Unless it is freakishly big. Never seen one like that. Big feels better. Looks better. Is better. Period.

Bigger is better all the way around. The more cock to fill my pussy the better. I don’t know what girl wouldn’t want a big one. I do have one friend who can find intercourse painful. We have both slept with a mutual guy friend who is on the large side. I think his big cock is great, but when he penetrates my friend deeply it hurts so he always has to be careful. For me, I prefer large!

Of course if the guy always shoots his load right away the big cock won’t do you much good. 

From Mary B.
After having had nothing but 3-4 inch dicks in recent years, I'm all for some size. I don't think huge is necessary (and girth is definitely more interesting than length), but it must be known that there is a minimum size necessary to feel properly filled.

From e.
I'd say a big dick no question. Probably the dude who said that girls who like big dicks have bigger cunts are right; all girls aren't the same, the Kama Sutra said it and it's still true; which is great because there need to be girls out there for the smaller men and vice versa. But, well, whatever; I've got the cunt that I've got and I like a well-endowed man.

As far as foreplay goes, somebody gave me this advice once and I have never forgotten it you can give yourself the best orgasm in the world, but you cannot fuck yourself raw. Having sex with a guy when I'm not wet or ready would not be so fun. But if the choice is between a big dick and foreplay, I'll see to my own needs if he's not and take advantage of his size.

I'd rather have a shorter guy with more girth (long skinny penises are a little icky, I think), and I'm actually pretty happy with a normal/slightly above normal partner - 6/7 inches with modest girth. The biggest I've had was 8 inches and moderately thick - not huge - and it was divine.

From Melissa
My boyfriend is only 6 inches and he's incredible. He takes the time to please me and play with my clitoris.

Guys with 9-12 inches tend to have this macho self esteem so they would pretend to lick your pussy for a few minutes then end up wanting you to blow job them for an hour or so then it's to the in/out game which ends in a painful, sore, and mostly bad experience. Yes the girth and the skin to skin is there but it's not as great as the smaller guy with the care, attention & love you can get from him.

So my opinion, give me a whole bunch of 6-7 inchers and it's pleasure all the way versus a whole bunch of 10-12 fat dicked guys. That's hell and well maybe a good porn flix is as far as it goes.

From Tara
Size is important and everybody knows it. If you love a guy with a small penis and can live with it that is great. For me, a substantial sized penis is a necessity. But it is not the only thing. A guy must be in decent shape and have a nice ass for me to get turned on.

I also just feel sexier knowing I have a meaty guy all for my own. When we go out I like to see a nice manly bulge in his pants. At the beach he wears either skimpy bikinis or surf shorts. You can really see everything in the bikinis. When he comes out of the water with his surf shorts clinging to his cock and balls it just makes me wet. It just makes me feel good when I see another woman admiring his big package. Only thing is I catch a lot of guys looking too!

From Frank
To K.H. [see entry below], my statement about women advertising the size of their vaginas is merely an observation made from personal experience. I was with a woman who, prior to us being sexually involved, claimed size didn't matter.

During our first sexual encounter she stated that she was a small woman who had a small mouth and a small vagina and didn't know if I would fit. A light went off in my head as I suddenly realized that women who say size doesn't matter are saying they have a small(er) vagina and visa versa.

Looking back I realized that the same held true for all my past sexual encounters. That is to say that when a past partner made a statement about male size it was indicative of her vagina size. It has held true ever since, as well. Instead of trying to decide which one of us is exhibiting insecurities I would like to suggest that this question to put to the readers on this site. 

From K.H.
No, it's not comfortable to be "banged" in the ass. That's a male fantasy. I do, however, very much enjoy my lover's 7 1/2 inch or so cock pushed ever so gently into my tight little orifice, though.

To the guy who thinks women who like big cocks are advertising the size of their vaginas [see Frank's entry below]. You may be advertising some insecurity. Some women liked to be filled up. Not that it stopped me from having a 3 year relationship with a slightly smaller than average man. He was wonderful and foreplay was wonderful (I taught him everything). Actually, a 7 inch dick with good girth is probably perfect.

But as some others have mentioned above, the dream is a guy with great girth and awesome foreplay skills. I have that now and don't think I don't know how lucky I am. I've had more than a few men and this combo has come along only 3 or 4 times.

Men, rent some tapes and learn how to lick pussy. If a woman's hot and bothered, dick size isn't nearly as important.

From Debbie
Foreplay is my only way to go. The man I'm with now spends little to no time with it (although he's better-than- average endowed) and my best description is that he's boring. I've had some incredible foreplay lovers and there's no comparison. The relationship isn't going to last because of it.

From Kirsty of Leeds
I just have to say I much prefer the compact cock as I can get the whole thing in my mouth, also anal sex is no problem with or without lube, trouble is sometimes I don't even know my partners started! and can be quite engrossed in watching TV when I notice all the panting and groaning.

From Anonymous
It's foreplay. There's no comparison. A gifted, experienced lover can make you reach unimaginable heights without even touching you. And when he finally does introduce his member of modest measurements, you'll feel that you've taken flight.

From Frank
Male size is a topic that I've heard come up at parties on occasion. And I must say that it always amazes me when I hear women unabashedly say "size matters". It's almost as if they don't know they're advertising the size of their own vaginas.

From Barmby
I think if you combine a large dick and good skills is a master class PERIOD. There comes a time you need a large dick to fill you up completely !

From Anonymous Girl
At least 5 inches or more is fine with me. I have a tight vagina opening, so men who are well endowed is not a necessity with me. If he is at least 5 inches, and knows how to work it, then that's all that matters.

I did however date a blonde, blue eyed Cuban/Spaniard once and he was really well endowed. Sex was really difficult because it would hurt a lot. He had to be very careful with me and it sometimes took away from the enjoyment. I always had a fantasy to try anal sex, I could dare think of even doing that with him at all back then. The only thing I can say is that riding him was also very difficult. It hurt like holy hell! 

I can't say that its awful being with a man who has a big one, but it can be difficult. Oral sex? Forget about it! I could not have deep throated Alejandro to save my life! I had the hardest time giving him oral. That part really bothered me a lot, because I really wanted to please him.

From Patrice
I'd have to say that girth is way better than length. I've had two relationships in which the gentlemen had lengthy penises (one guy was the "foot long"); all I can say is that I'd be looking at my watch over their shoulders and praying for them to come so we could get it over with. One of them actually caught me doing that and we were done. Also, the long length guys seem to want to do all the things that are restrictive like anal sex and me on top. Being on top was incredibly painful; doggy style was painful; anal sex was excruciating. And these guys had exceptional foreplay! Their dicks were just too long.

I've also had a smaller length. I loved being with this guy because he had the best foreplay techniques in the world and could go down on me like nobody's business but the feeling of being filled just wasn't there.

Then I met my former boyfriend. He was about seven inches but had the fattest cock I've ever seen. I was actually scared that he wouldn't fit! We really had to go slow with that one because he was doing a crosswise stretching but when he was fully seated, I came just from having every inch of my vagina touched by his flesh. One time we were supposed to meet for dinner but I was late due to my job. I tried calling him but he was outside waiting for me to arrive. By the time I got to his house, he was annoyed. I told him what had happened and he calmed down but kind of rode the aggressive feeling. He undressed me while I undressed him and without any foreplay just jammed that fat cock in. I was so wet anyway and his determination and I'm-going-to-fuck-you-hard attitude wrung the most ferocious orgasm from me I've ever had. Also, my orgasms would go on and on because every inch of my vagina would just be spasming around that huge girth. Damn, I'm wet just thinking about him!

Girth and foreplay over length any day of the week.

From Harehsa
I am currently involved with the most sensual lover I have experienced yet, but we tried to have sex for the first time last night, and he is 8 inches and very thick. I felt like I was giving my virginity away all over again. I wonder if lube will help us achieve full vaginal insertion, because I want him inside me more than anything, but it feels like he reaches a point where my body will just not allow him to pass. I wonder if any of you ladies have suggestions. Great comments. I love this site. Take care all.

From Tina
I love big dick my boyfriend has a 13 inch dick which I had all the way up my ass. O my god it hurt at first. Then he did it bit by bit then out of nowhere he came in my ass he said it was good, and so did I.

From Ms. BeenThere
I've had my share of good and lousy lovers. I had a man with a 5 inch long cock that was gigantic in girth. I used a lube and he let me on top so I could take him at my pace. It was an utterly fantastic orgasm, and I am small internally.

I also had a man with a skinny cock, 12" long, and again I got to be on top. He did not bang me like the videos show. Instead, I was able to slowly take him. When he hit my cervix, I slowly rotated my hips, sort of caressing the cervix as it did feel nice. To my surprise it actually relaxed slowly so that it passed the cervix, and some time later (can't judge time when feeling that sensation) it felt like it actually was in my womb. No thrusting was done, but I rotated my hips and went slowly up and down. Incredible sensations, especially when he came. I am post-menopause so no pregnancy to worry about.

Wish I could have him again. But now being married to a man that knows foreplay, the G-spot, and my likes and dislikes orally, I would not trade for those two. But just being banged by a big one, which I have had, is not fun. If the man lets you take what you want when you want, now that is fun. No matter the size.

From Trisha
Hi. This is Trisha. I can say that big dicks which are featured are so big. I really can't imagine how dicks have become that big. I hope to see more of it. More power and good luck.

From Brianna
I've read everything that everyone has said so far and had to add my fairly unique opinion to the discussion. For personal reasons, I don't have vaginal sex. I only do anal and the usual foreplay. And although my opinion is pretty much along the same lines as everyone elses, that average size with good technique is the best, I have to say that very large guys have their advantages. And believe it or not, you can accommodate a much larger man anally than you can vaginally. (at least as far as length is concerned).

Lets just say, that when they go over 9 inches (I've been all of the way up to 11.5 REAL inches (he was vain and carried a tape measure to prove it)) they push on spots that you never knew existed.

From Ted
I went through years of group showers in junior and senior high school gym class without giving penis size much thought. I do not remember who was large, who was small, and how I compared. Now that I occasionally cruise - ah, hem - certain web sites I have begun to wonder if I was short changed by nature. 

In "The Hite Report" Shere Hite asked women in a questionnaire what size and shape they preferred. There were four choices, including short and thin. The answers were not included in the body of the book, so I suspect that not enough women answered the question to make the answers worthwhile. My guess is that for most women this is not a salient issue, but that given a choice most would prefer slightly above average. More than that might lead to uncomfortable love making. 

I think women are more interested in height, facial appearance, and the size of a man's pay check and net assets. Gentleness, sensitivity, compassion, and a good sense of humor mean next to nothing if that is all a man has to offer.

From Runner-Swimmer
I have an awesome athletic lean body but I have a 14 cm erect penis! Do women prefer a guy with a small penis and an awesome body who can make a woman melt with wonderful foreplay and mutual head jobs?

From Anonymous
This topic is querying women on what they find most pleasurable, a "Big Dick or Competent Foreplay". I would like to see an equivalent topic on what men find most pleasurable. The equivalent of a "Big Dick", of course, would be a "Tight Pussy". I'm not sure what the equivalent of "Competent Foreplay" would be, but I'm inclined to think it would be a "Competent Blow Job".

From Susan
Of course size matters and wives who say it doesn't are probably being protective of their husbands. Mine has a penis that is the average six inches but sufficiently aroused (as in me wearing black stockings, garters, sexy bra) will grow to eight, and he can last and doesn't climax too early in our lovemaking. We are in our early sixties and for a long period sex was virtually non-existent then a few years ago I went onto a hormone replacement therapy and we re-discovered it and have become extremely horny people and sex three times a day doesn't seem unusual to us.

In the summer we went on a swinger's vacation. We had never swung in our lives before but agreed to try it to see whether it was 'us' or just too tacky. As a result I experienced half a dozen men with wide a range of penis lengths and girths and the most exciting and satisfying was the man who didn't have length but had girth, a fat penis with the diameter of about three inches, about double the size of my husband's girth, so it made me feel amazingly horny and responsive and the first time we made love I orgasmed three times before he eventually climaxed. 

Hubby and I still enjoy our sex but he is very aware that he doesn't do it every time for me and we are considering buying some sex toys and for New Year we have booked ourselves a vacation on a swingers cruise.

From Anonymous
Any girl that tells you size doesn't matter is lying, sorry guys. My boyfriend has a 9 inch fat cock and he makes me come every single time. The thickness stimulates the clit or something but it feels really good.

From George
For the first 8 years of our marriage, my wife and I enjoyed a rather vanilla sex life. Neither of us were particularly experienced and I tended to shy away from open communication on how to improve things. After a recent tour in Iraq however, we have rediscovered each other and a new openness which brings me to the topic at hand.

We decided to try some Sex Toys and have purchased several over the last year including a vibrator with so many buttons and controls, I swear you need a degree in programming to operate it! Most toys have achieved nice results, but it is without question the very life-like dildo that has given my wife the best and loudest orgasms. 

The dildo cost over $100 and is 9" x 2" thick. On the one hand, it is an incredible turn-on for me to watch and listen to her get off with this big dildo pumping away inside her. But on the other hand, I sometimes wonder if she will ever fantasize/want to try a REAL 9" cock now that she knows how great a big one makes her feel. Of course, I like to believe that I am part of the whole equation that makes any sex for her special, but there is quite a difference in her reaction when I am inside her and when the dildo is inside her. 

We have a great marriage in all other areas, so I don't think she'd ever leave me over dick size, but I wonder how tempted she might now be if some well-hung stud offered here a no strings attached ride on his baloney pony?

From Monica
I've only been with one guy who had a big penis and it was actually painful, and I had to stop him. And it wasn't fun for me trying to orally pleasure him either, and I enjoy giving oral.

I prefer a man who knows how to use his mind and body to arouse and please a woman's mind and body - the size of his penis is irrelevant. So give me foreplay and an average sized one over a big one any day.

From Optional Fem
To me size does not matter. Short and thick gave me the best orgasms and foreplay is the most important part of sex, in my opinion.

From Anonymous
My wife and I have fantastic mind blowing sex. My dick is average 6" and maybe a little more than average girth. Sometimes however we change things up a little we put a big rubber or silicone dick over mine. [Erection Enhancers] They stay on very well due to the vacuum created it really is like suddenly being hung with that big dick that all guys with average size have always longed for. We have different sizes. She comes so hard and the look in her eyes is so intense when she gets that full feeling that I just can't give her myself, it is absolutely awesome not better than when we make love or fuck without the big one just a nice change, variety is the spice of life.

If it wasn't for all the various dangers involved I think the ultimate for us would be to have a decent considerate guy with a real big dick fuck her while she sucked my dick. Of course I want to fuck her while I watch her suck his fat cock also. She is so horny I know if not for society's judgments and worrying about diseases she would absolutely go crazy fucking this guy's big dick! So I guess we'll just keep on fucking our selves silly happily in all the different ways we do.

From Philip
I am the kind of husband that loves to play with his wife's body and particularly with her pussy.  The truth is that nowadays after more than 20 years together we still satisfy ourselves all the way to orgasm by fingering, licking and sucking. A lot of times we don't even get to the penetration part of having sex. However, when we do engage in penetration I have realized that at the beginning she enjoys a lot while her pussy is very tight and the friction is high but as we move on her pussy gets wetter and wetter and she asks for more and more and I feel that my dick is not thick enough as to keep the friction and some times when she is on top it is not even long enough to keep it inside when very excited she starts moving up and down in such a fast and long strokes. 

I have noticed her dissatisfaction and frustration having to grab my dick and put it into her pussy again to continue fucking which some times ends up in no orgasm. We have discussed it and while she admits having desired a bigger dick in such occasions, she tells me mine is the only dick she had ever fucked so she cannot compare.

I think it would be a little bit risky but I would like her fucking a bigger dick just to know if she would really be more satisfied. She is not as open minded as to agree to it so what I want to do is invite her to no watch no touch fucking encounter and I will invite a man with a bigger dick to do the penetration part for me. If she really enjoys better, I don't really know what I am going to do. So probably I will just keep it as a fantasy.

From John
You've got to be kidding me, Anonymous (see entry below). Pretty presumptuous of you, I'm assuming you're a man, to think you know what women like and why. My wife has the tightness little cunt, and absolutely loves a big huge dick. She has a dildo that is shocking in size and really gets off on the stretch. For her, size definitely matters.

Generalizing is never a good idea, you might miss the greatest lay of your life by doing that. 

From Anonymous
Women with small pussies prefer average sized dicks and women with huge pussies prefer huge dicks. I've got a very "girthy" dick (as attested to by both men and women), but I stay away from women who say "size matters". Why? Because they're really saying "I have a huge pussy", which is never pleasurable, even for guys with girth.

From Adrienne
I don't think the length matters one wit. It's the width, ladies, the width! Vaginas can accommodate short to medium length penises, however, longer penises sometimes bump the cervix and that hurts. So length offers no real advantage. Width however, is a different story. Width, not length, gives that feeling of luscious fullness. A man with a wide penis and a sense of playfulness - now there's heaven.

From D.
I am a small built woman with a tight pussy. I find that a more than average sized penis can be painful. I prefer a man skilled at foreplay over a man who is "hung". The average sized penis is certainly very capable of giving great orgasms. Mr Average also fits nicely in your ass, compare that to being impaled on a pole in misery. NO thanks.

From Dare
Hm... difficult. And yet very easy, I think it needs to fit! Big prick, small vag? Ouch! Small prick, big vag? Hello, anybody there?

And vag/prick size has nothing to do with body size. There are those tiny women who can take long dong the whole way and those plumpers who squeak on two fingers. But women do have an advantage! They can train their vag to accommodate any size. So, all those 'I need it big' girlies out there are just lazy! Ok, kidding. Or am I?

I have had verry different experiences, talking and having intercourse. There were those plump blondes, who needed it long and fat. There were those, well, freaky 'perverts' (no offense! I am also not the 'normal' game player, because it's becoming boring very fast), who needed it to be small but a fast fiddling. These are examples.

And when it came to anal or oral, most preferred the 'average' (by the way, according. to studies, average means 5.5 inches, so nearly all of you had above average) ones.

Well, I think, big makes it easier.

But who does really want to have it easy in regards to good sex? Good sex has to last long, it needs to be a little kinky, sometimes a little rough, not just inserting, spraying, done, gone. I have to admit that my last girlfriend got on my nerves very fast only wanting to be pounded and pounded again. I became bored to death with that.

So I do like to be average, cause I like to play. And play again. And yet fuckin' again. And that's what most of them appreciate. So don't you all worry. Get what you want and be happy.

From Denny
My wife and I enjoy our sex but since she returned to work a year ago she has, at the height of our lovemaking, said she'd like a guy with a big cock. I'm a regular six inches and she wants more length and better girth, suggesting a guy with ten inches from her work join us for an MMF. I'd like to see my wife with another guy but I've always said my foreplay has balanced out my lack of length, my sucking my wife always resulting in her having two or three orgasms well before I go into her. An MMF would be great but it'd be just a big cock fucking her with no sophistication or finesse.

From Anonymous
My wife dated a well endowed man before we were married, and she says that size is not important to her. I don't believe her. I am normal at 6", but we have bought several dildos over the years, and we recently bought a particularly big one that drives her wild. 

Also, when I talk to her during sex I will frequently create scenarios where we are involved in threesome and she has a large cock in her while she gives me a blow job. Without exception, my wife gets extremely aroused and orgasms intensely. I would love to see her riding a large cock because she gets so wild....it turns me on.

From Douglas
My friend at school had what seemed to be a very large dick but as we grew older I realised that my scrawny piece grew to 7 inches whilst his monster still stayed the same size but just got stiff, 5 1/2 inches.

From Doc
Years ago I had a friend who told me she divorced her first husband because of his big dick. She said it was 8" long and he wanted sex 4 times a day most days. She said " My cervix stayed sore all the time so I left him". She added "Tim's (her husband) dick is average and I like it much better". My own anatomy was of the average length (6") but has a circumference of 7". Over the years I've been complimented many time about girth. My wife used to say "It's not very long but it's about as big as a beer can". A urologist friend who does a lot of penile implants told me his surgical team (The Penis Girls) always remark on girth but they are not much impressed by length.

I did have a girl friend years ago that I couldn't fill up but I managed to get her to orgasm regularly by oral or digital means if my dick wasn't up to the task that day. She kept a record of every man she ever had sex with including the date, place and his dimensions. She also preferred girth but she said she liked 8" of length best if she was just sport fucking-she did a lot of that too.

When I was 50 I was affected by Peyronies Disease and lost about an inch of length. My wife said she didn't care it still touched what it had to touch. The upward curve put the tip right in contact with her G-spot and she liked it better than ever. She definitely preferred girth over length. She would curl up to my ear when I came to bed and say "Bring me that beer can".

From Lori
I had a husband with a large dick. With him, sex was something we did every now and then because we thought we should and it felt a little good.

My boyfriend has a shorter, but thicker dick than my now ex- husband. It fits inside my pussy like it was made for it. However, my boyfriend is tremendously talented when it comes to foreplay. To him, foreplay ends after he has fingered and sucked my cunt until I've had half a dozen screaming, squirting orgasms. After that's out of the way, then we fuck until I come some more. 

Only after I am worn down to a frazzle does he worry about his orgasm. Then he just tells me explicitly what to do while I talk dirty to him. We're on opposite schedules and we have our sex mainly as he is going to bed and I am getting up for work. What a way to start the day!

From K S
What about women? Women wear a push-up or padded bras because society says Bigger Is Better! Hah! When I was 22 I had "Perfect measurements" 34 1/2 B, 23, 35 ½ @ 5’7 size 3-5 (I’m now size 10-12) these are the measurements for my wedding dress. At the final fitting we stuffed pads into my corset because the beading weighted down my tiny breast. That night I pulled them out and handed them to my hubby we laughed! What ever, what is real anyway? It is all in your mind with a little muscle control add to the mix!

My "man" husband of 14 years he is average in size. If women would do their "kegels" their partner would be a perfect fit too. If we go without for a week I will either be sore or swollen. Also finding the right position for the best bang! (He is usually anywhere from 5-6 ½ normal on the girth) If he were in the over 6½ range he would never be able to fuck, you know grab my hips and bend me over the footboard of the bed, and fuck me hard. There is Making Love, Sex & Fucking! 

It is no wonder so many women say oh a big dick is the best! While they look down a silicone city on their chest, or they just let their pussy get flabby like their belly! Get a real man, little belly average dick doing the dishes! Ohhh Laa Laa Baby!

From Anonymous
Many years ago the ex wife of one of my friends confided to me that one reason for their marriage troubles was his size. She was very frank as she spoke and said that she loved sex and enjoyed a very thick dick, but not a "battering ram". She said that the stretching feeling was great but not the hitting of her cervix, which hurt like hell. She preferred about 7" and very thick and also a good circumcision. So, I guess size isn't everything.

From Julie
So many men with a long penis are so much into themselves that they can take their penis, bend it between their legs and can go do themselves. Give me a man of average size who knows how to use it, and a good tongue anytime!

From Mary
My husband is a regular 6 inches, 8 when he gets really excited, but the big thing for me is not his length, it's length plus his foreplay talents. Hubby is is a superb lover and knows how to get me started and excited well before he goes inside me. His tongue and teeth at my pussy and clit drives me crazy and I often orgasm. Him going inside me is a bonus. 

We are friendly with another couple we've known for a few years and when we swing with them (not every time we meet them) the husband hasn't the same foreplay talents as my hubby. It often leaves me frustrated but I haven't got the courage to tell him since he does have a fuller, fatter cock than my hubby's which tends to balance things out for me.

From Jordan
If you don't have a big dick, just go and buy one. There are extensions, dildos, and such that get the big dick job done if you want it so bad. I tried this out because of all the big dick hype. At 6 inches, I wanted to see if my girlfriend liked the big dick better and to my amazement, it kinda turned me on more than her to fuck her with a big 10. She said it hurt and made me stop, and we went back to regular sex. 

Honestly, I make her orgasm every time, but in my experience, you just have to find someone with the right fit and then comes the hard part of maintaining a relationship. Sex is overrated.

From Alex
I am lucky - I am well hung. I have been with some women that don't care about men's size, but not many. I have had no complaints with my 10 inches.

From Boneman
Hey I've got a small dick (6 in) and I make women squirt all over. It's what you do with it, you need to know a women's body well to satisfy with big or little. I've had no complaints from all. It's what you know man—study it helps!

From Bob
My wife says she's never seen a 10 inch cock let alone 12 inch one and says she'd be perfectly happy if I had the 8 inches erected a friend of ours has (he's twenties, we're forties). He does it orgasm-wise for her in the mouth, pussy and anus departments. I'm a regular 6 so don't quite get into her major league but my foreplay, especially sucking her off, has her fully aroused and screaming in joy making her very ready for my 6 inches.

When our friend is with us he's clueless about foreplay and she leaves it to me, especially when she's giving him an oral, my teeth bringing her off which in turn brings him off in her mouth.

From Anonymous
Hello folks. My dick is 14" long and 3" thick, yes correct. You wanna know something? It makes me miserable. I'm single and the only sex I can get that's decent is from vulgar big dick freaks whom I meet through contact mags, the Internet and the occasional swinger party. As a bi male the best ones are 6" and thickish with a bulbous helmet. It's all about the look.

From Anonymous
Girth is definitely better than length. If he is too well endowed, too long, he'll hit my cervix and it's is not pleasurable! A fat 6 inches or so - mmmmmmm....yummy. It hits me in every way and gives me that feeling of sublime fullness and being "taken" which I love.

From Jenny
I simply can't imagine a 12inch dick being nice, either [see entry below]. And I hardly believe all the stories (that's probably exactly what they are, stories, as in fiction) here about big dicks and how wonderful they are. A long dick is uncomfortable, and any women with any experience with such things will agree. 

Now width, that's more like it. A fat dick is fabulous. 

From Daniel
I thought the variety of views was interesting. Being somewhere between 7 and 8 inches, it's difficult to penetrate my wife deeply and once I get going I still have to worry about whether I'm banging her cervix. So I can understand why some women think big is not particularly nice, although as a man my natural inclination is to believe that bigger is better.

I'm also surprised by so many stories about men with 10+ inch dicks. I mean check out what you just said that's 25cm at least! There's no way you can put 25cm of dick in a woman's pussy. One woman talked about 13 inches. That's 32.5cm! I've seen some porn with guys with 12inch dicks and they only go about halfway in. Are these real inches or just a big number to express amazement? Or is it just that a lot of the women on this thread have slept with that 1% which is over 10 inches? I mean, I've been in plenty of gyms and I've never noticed any monsters in the vicinity. To a certain extent this does make me question the veracity of those who talk about really big dicks. I simply can't imagine a 12inch dick being nice.

From Anni
My husband has a small dick but is an expert at foreplay using his tongue, teeth and fingers to bring me to climax, well before any attempt to enter me. We've been married for 23 years and his oral technique just gets better. 

But I like big dicks (length plus girth). I like performing fellatio on a big cock and I appreciate a big dick in my vagina and anus during lovemaking, and hubby's just doesn't do it for me. But the answer isn't necessarily to swing with others males. 

After a few years gap, we recently decided to organize some more threesome sessions. But they left me with the worst of both worlds - of four guys we selected to join us, three of them turned out to have dicks the same length and girth as hubby's. Only the fourth did it for me with a handsome erect 10 plus inches (I measured it!) and even hubby was impressed, our guy being very relaxed as hubby took the impressive length in his mouth as part of our mutual enjoyment. Unfortunately for me, none of the four had any developed foreplay awareness!

From Peach
I think size matters, but it's not just "bigger is better!" I have had a cock that was too big. I like them at least six inches but no more than eight. Big balls, to me, make up for a slightly below average dick - I love big balls.

From Anonymous
Coming from a guy with 8 inches and girth, I know I could be having better sex if I had a 6 inch dick. Me and my girlfriend have sex very aggressively, and every other time I bruise her cervix. I love her, and we love having sex but what girl wants have a bruised cervix. So I hold back when having sex to not hurt her, which no couple wants to sex and hold back.

From So
I split from an ex years ago because she slept with another guy, who I half knew. I think the bit that took the most to get over, was he had the reputation in the social circles of having a long dongle. My ex was a small girl so something there made her want to try it.

From Geraldine
Being too small or too big is just the same as having some other physical peculiarity. If it is too big it often hurts and you can forget anal sex, if its too small you don't feel it and the owner has be good with his tongue and fingers and is sometimes more concerned that he is not making an impression, than with getting down to the business. 

It's silly that guys are always talking about the size of their dicks. I have had orgasms without even taking my knickers off. What counts is what happens before willy even comes into play. What's that song "I need a lover with a slow hand". My man is average sized but a fantastic caring lover and nobody I have ever met before, big or small, comes anywhere near him.

From Don
I must say this thread is amusing. First it is about the longest forum here and second it is FULL of cock measurements. I am utterly amazed at the number claiming, or claiming to have seen/ measured any number of erect cocks over 10". Really? How did you measure them? I am reminded of the story of a lady who visited her doctor for some pre-marriage counseling. He asked if she had any questions and she said, "Yes. What are those two things about 12'" or 14 " from the head of my boyfriend's penis." The doctor replied, "I don't know about your boyfriend, but on me they are the cheeks of my ass."

So what, when, and how did you measure?? And remember the outer 2" of most vaginas is the sensitive part! No matter how long and thick you are I bet you can reach that.

From Sarah
My husband's cock is circumcised and its erect length varies according to how excited he gets, regular low level arousal and it is 6 inches, maximum excitement and he gets to 8 inches. Girth wise it also varies, anything from 1 inch at the base to 3 inches. For me, being greedy, it's a mix of length and girth and I guess I'm happiest when I can get him aroused enough to get maximum length and 3 inches diameter girth in my pussy. 

Anything longer than 8 inches then I think it's better in the ass than pussy and a guy I know is big, visually exciting, but I perform better with him and get more satisfaction when he's in my ass.

From Anonymous
Ladies let's face it. To paraphrase the UPN9 television show quote "It doesn't matter If a man has a 'Seven Forty Seven Jet...If he doesn't know how to land it". Granted, it has to be big enough to navigate both the 'troubled seas' as well as to plant it's flag in newly discovered territory. But a woman's body is an endless journey. And if a man has a willing tongue, a pair of talented hands and a dick that is so pretty that it defies imagination and has the manual dexterity to sway side to side, back and forth, up and down and in and out... she wouldn't know what day of the week it was. Much less how big his dick was.

From Micky
My wife tells me that my 7 inches is sometimes a little bit too much. When I'm doing her from behind or when she has her legs up on my shoulders I tend to be able to push it in a little bit farther and if I'm not careful it can be just a little uncomfortable for her. 

I love the feeling of being able to push it it as far as I can but in these two positions I have to hold back. She tells me that girth is what does it for her and not so much the length.

From An Italian
This country has such an issue about size it's absolutely ridiculous. I understand there are people bigger then me and I am about 8 inches and a 6.25 around but I still don't think it should be a big deal. I can tell you from experience a few women can handle it pretty well and most of them I end up using half of my penis anyways. I also have seen that being bigger is a curse because some women focus too much on it, as well and Ex-girlfriends still trying to hook up with you even if they are with another guy (Big Turn 0ff and true colors are then shown). 

I can dispel one myth. I was the only white basketball player on my team in junior college and out of like 12 other men (all black) I can tell you that yeah a few were my size but like 2/3 were smaller and a couple appeared a tad larger in the flaccid state of course but I don't think it should be thought of in our society as unanimous when it comes to the size thing and blacks. This leads to much of our prejudice and is really not a good thing, in fact it is kind of racist. Some blacks I have played semi-pro football with and basketball with were good guys and some were dogs, but I can say the same for people of all color. 

I also think that men being upset about their size or other peoples' size leads to hostility, aggression, and insecurity that's really not good. People get off it! It's not flattering to our society and women please go easy on the lil guys because from what I have seen many of you are not perfect and some are just a flat out mess themselves security wise. I don't demand huge boobs and tight bodies and even when a few women have great bodies they are usually still very much a mess inside and have insecurities anyways.

From Rene
I agree with most people, big thick dicks are it! All that "small penis is ok, I like the person" is crap. Everyone know size really matters.

I'm a dude who has sucked many guys (glory holes are a total turn on for me). I have seen the most incredible big dicks at adult video booth's glory holes, and that common belief that black men are the master of big dicks is totally false. Also, from my experience white men have the biggest dicks when it comes to races.

I have seen the biggest dicks on white and Mexican dudes, one of the biggest in my life was this guy from Durango Mexico, he had easily a 9 incher fat dick, I grabbed it and couldn't touch my fingers around it. It turns me on so much to suck a nice big, fat white or Mexican dick through a glory hole (or natural). Size is IT dudes!

From Tiffany
Um, both please. In all seriousness I think I'd take the large penis, not because it's more important, but because I feel foreplay is something you can learn to be good at. A man's endowment, however, is what it is. I prefer a larger than average penis, especially with regards to girth. But there is also a thing as too large.

From 2Small
Honestly, I think the women who say that a guy doesn't have to be huge are just trying to be politically correct and not hurt our feelings. I am 5.75 inches which I thought was average, or close to it. The first time I "almost" had sex, my girlfriend at the time told me upon seeing my member, that I was the smallest she had ever seen before and she didn't think it would be a good idea to go any further because I would end up being hurt more when she broke up with me, which she did the next day through a friend. So my first experience was really embarrassing to say the least, and it took me a long time to even approach another girl.

The next girl I met at a party my best friend was throwing at his apartment. Things were getting a little hot and heavy in the laundry room and we started getting undressed and as soon as my boxers came down, she said that she just had a really sharp pain in her forehead and that she was getting a bad migraine. She bolted out of the laundry room and I started getting dressed, as I was buckling my belt the door swung open and there she stood with 2 other girls and their boyfriends and one of the guys said "Hey I hear you have a baby dick?" I turned red, pushed past them and left. That was the last time I ever attempted to talk to a girl.

I get offers every now and then from girls who want to go out with me or hang out but I usually act like I'm not interested because I know if we ever became intimate the same thing would happen.

So all you ladies out there who say it doesn't matter what size a guy is, just stop. I know better, I know women who get beat up by their boyfriends and they stay with them because "Even though he can be a jerk he is hung like a horse and the sex is awesome". OK whatever, nice black eye you got there.

And guys, stop asking questions you already know the answers too like, "if you had the choice between your current boyfriend, and a guy who looked and had the same personality as your boyfriend, only he had a much bigger cock, who would you choose?" Only a moron would think the girl would keep her current boyfriend.

In our world bigger is better in every realm except electronics. Those of us who are 6 inches and under have to deal with the fact that we may never have a relationship, and if we do, we have to accept the fact that our partners will cheat with every swinging dick over 6 inches that happens their way. Sad but true.

From Anonymous
They say it's not the size but how you use it. In my experience, most men don't know how to use it well. Then, definitely a big dick helps. But not just long - as other women have also said - a thick dick is much better! Big and thick is the best. That said, I did have one lover with a small dick who did know how to use it and that certain positions were definitely better than others. 

However, foreplay is what really turns me on. I love a good finger fuck before you slide that dick in. And I like to suck on a dick before intercourse as well. But if you just have time for a quickie - definitely the big dick.

From Anonymous
I'm not gonna lie - I like a big dick. Girth is more important than length, however. A pinner pole that is 8 inches is a lot less satisfying than a thick 6- incher. Of course, I like foreplay, but intercourse is where it's at for me. I can get totally soaked instantly from a hot kiss and am ready to fuck. A big dick is best, but it's not everything - a man's got to know how to use it most importantly. 

I sometimes am a little self-conscious about not being "tight" enough... I've not had that many lovers, no children, do kegels, but I've had two men ask during sex "can you make it tighter?" I'd like to hear what men have to say about tightness...

From Ann
Guys, it matters! Let's be honest here. Why is it either or? So let's say the guy has "competent foreplay". Would you like to have him have a big dick? Hell yes! If he is a good lover he isn't going to just beat up your pussy. Of course he has to be loving and considerate, but a big dick feels great. Hey, not all at once but when you are ready if the guy has 8 or 9 inches to share---oh ya!

I had one lover who was 10 inches and thick. It was years ago and I still fantasize about that dick. It was intense, but let's not make up stories. It was fantastic fucking and if you haven't experienced it, try to.

From Jan
To all of you horny readers How com I'm not satisfied of my big cock? My cock is 5 inches not erected. So much talk about penis enlargement. What do you guys think. A vagina is not that deep to take a cock large as mine from what I have experienced. Ok maybe nice to play with. But how nice do you think it is to drag a dick like mine in the toilet every time you have to shit? I am not that happy.

From Alchemist
I suspect that there is a range of sizes of comfortable and optimal fit of penises for each size of vagina. I'm an honest 6.5 inches and about the same girth at the base. My ex-wife had a short vagina and I hit her cervix painfully if I wasn't careful. Some positions she didn't like because of that. It was never a tight fit to begin with. After 3 children and maybe not enough kegals, I couldn't feel her at all. She couldn't feel me any better than I could feel her. Her current boyfriend has a thicker penis and I think that she is much happier with it.

My girlfriend is a petite lady, about 4'10". Her ex hubby has about a 4 incher and it was quite satisfactory. Let me tell you, that lady is an entirely different experience from my ex-wife. I can enter her to the hilt and the sensation all the way around is totally incredible. There isn't a square mm that isn't in stimulating contact with her. It is just total sensation, any position. I can't imagine the fit being any more perfect. I can stimulate the high trigger at the edge of her cervix at the same time in a couple of positions.

Relative sizes can make all the difference in the world. My girlfriend says that her experience with me has completely redefined her sexual experience in every way, but that's not because of penis fit. That's the least of it. I also can hurt her in certain positions until I've been in her for about 30 minutes, and she stretches out a bit and shapes herself to my penis, and it to her.

She also has a lover who has a longer and thicker penis than mine who leaves her sore and feeling bruised and worked over. He fucks endlessly all night and leaves her tired and unrelieved; never gets past the first couple of stages of orgasm to the more intense stages. I don't see how she could comfortably accommodate even one more inch internally. I suspect that he doesn't get that "buried to the hilt" with her lips sliding along my smooth shaved pubic area - wondrous feeling.

From Dave
A number of years ago I had an affair with a married woman who lived nearby. She was 30 years old and had never had an orgasm. She had come close by masturbating but never climaxed. Subsequently that situation was resolved in a big way. She said her husband was bigger than me....about 8 inches according to her. Unfortunately he had no idea how to use it to her advantage. Though I'm smaller at 6 1/2 inches, I've never had a problem maintaining an erection. Our sex play was extended and highly erotic. She could have many orgasms over several hours and size was never a factor.

From Laura
Sex is the most important thing in my life and, literally, I'm a sucker for a big dick. For rough, hard, bang-my-skull-against-the-headboard-I-don't-mind intercourse—my totally favorite item on the sex menu—nothing beats a big strong man with a big thick dick and some serious staying power.

For me, the size of a man's dick is one of his five most important traits. Sure, I insist that my man be smart, have an engaging personality, be confident, and financially independent, but I also insist that he have 8 inches of thick cock. This matters to me and I don't apologize for it. I like to wake up the next morning, with my sore little pussy, and know that I was fucked well the night before. In fact, if I'm alone, that soreness and the memory of being fucked well is usually stimulation enough for me to masturbate.

From Tess
I don't know where my experience should sit on your amazing web site but I had the pleasure to experience a few months ago a man, mid-30s I guess, with not just a long penis but extraordinarily large balls. They were the largest I'd ever seen, and I'm 54, almost freakily large, both the size of tennis balls. They were absolutely wonderful to touch, caress and squeeze (and kiss, lick!) and they felt very tight with no obvious space for movement between either in the ball sac. 

I admit that I don't have much experience of men apart from my husband and a few others so I don't know how common such large balls are and it would be interested to hear other views. Photographs on both gay and straight web sites show many men with large appendages but, large or small dicks, all had regular sized balls. 

From Raven
So interesting to read everyone's responses here. A great service, I think.

First, I will say that I find it rather sad that so many men are so concerned about their size (same said for so many women and their concerns re' their anatomical differences). We need to reject such nonsense and appreciate ourselves and one another for who and what we are. Next I will say that it is, imo, perfectly ok for women to prefer more size or less, same as it is for men to have preferences.

Me, I have only been with one man, and we are still together 22 yrs later, so I do not have a great deal of experience first hand with the size issue. He is a bit above average, based on studies which I have seen (7-8 inches, 3" diameter around or so, a bit more on both counts when esp. highly aroused).

There have been times when his length can be uncomfortable due to cervical contact, esp. at certain times in my cycle when my cervix is more swollen and sensitive, but we make allowances for this. Overall, I just love having him inside me! And to quote Liz Phair, "(his) dick's the perfect suck me size". For me anyway.

He is also incredible at foreplay. He really knows how to make me come, and he really gets off on it so much, makes it even better, if possible! I couldn't choose between the two, myself, but if forced to, I would choose the foreplay, since as much as I enjoy being fucked, I am not a girl who comes from intercourse (when I come during it, it is as a result of digital and/or oral clitoral and/or nipple stimulation while fucking)

Overall, I would say that what matters most to me is how much time and effort he puts forth to pleasure me and how excited he is/gets; much better to have an "average" sized cock at full arousal and going at it with enthusiasm and passion, even love, than a "big" one just banging away.

As always, there are enough of us with differing preferences/needs to go around. Lucky us

From Al
Forgive me for being a bit skeptical about some of the male contributors to this thread who claim to be "big" and complain of its consequences. I am a straight Caucasian man in my 40s and am very well hung -- a true 9 inches long and 7 inches in circumference with proportionally large balls. I cannot remember a single women I have ever been with, even the most shy and lady-like, who has not expressed wonder and delight at my size. 

Believe me, there is no greater thrill than the first, tentative touch through clothing followed by increasingly purposeful groping down the pants leg, usually accompanied by wide-eyed disbelief. I've been photographed and measured many times, even weighed; had more than one lover who wanted to watch as I jerked off (one actually preferred to watch from across the room because it "looked so big even at a distance"). I've even had a casual lover show up the next day with a girlfriend who wanted to see "what all the fuss was about". 

For those who have sought or needed something big, it's a dream come true. But many who say they have never thought much about size come away from the experience with a changed attitude. I think I would be a good lover no matter what my dimensions -- I love lots of foreplay, attend to my lover's wants and truly enjoy giving pleasure. But whether it's all psychological or has some physiological truth, I've heard it far too often to ignore "Bigger is Better" and I'm happy every day to be one of the biggest.

From Erin
Foreplay is nice. Size plays into the equation but I'm happy with what I have. The biggest was 8-9 inches and it was painful. I've had small that was too hard to ride since it didn't stay in. My sexual positions were limited. My Japanese hubby is 6.5 inches and is perfect for me. I'm small to begin with so he fills me up. I hear people say that Asians are small. If this is small, I'll take it.

From Carolyn from PA
My first marriage in 1957 was to my high school sweetheart. He was your average 6 foot tall, 6-1/2" uncircumcised boy. I was barely 5 foot tall. The first time we had a rough time penetrating, but by the third time we settled into having sex two to four times a day. He took a job out of town and I became attracted to another guy. My girl friends had told me about making it with a "big" guy and what it was like. When the opportunity presented itself, I welcomed him to my bed.

I expected something a little larger than my husband, but never what I felt as he was giving me the best foreplay I'd had in years. When I slide my hand to his pants, I was dumbfounded at its bulge extending up under his belt. I was as eager as he was. By this time I was very wet and nude. When he undressed, I caught a glimpse of him. He was large! He continued playing with me as I got hotter and wetter. I reached for his penis and felt his long, thick, rod - twice as long and thicker than anything I had ever felt or seen. His penis had a large, bulbous head. From what I'd heard and seen, he was circumcised. When he moved to penetrate me, I spread was far as I could. After two or three attempts, he finally got it in. He moved slowly and gently and I took him deeper than ever. He knew what he was doing and took me to unexplored heights and ecstasy, driving me wild. Most noticeably was his length and his big head. When he came, he shot with so much force that I could feel his load squirting into my cervix. Later, I determined that he packed 10-inches of fantastic cock. We stayed in touch for years until he got married. 

For me, there is nothing like a good man, and if you have a chance get one with a really big cock.

From George
To all the women who moan about how much better a bigger cock is, all I can say is you should let the guy know how you feel up front, before things get too far (first date would be nice). As an average man, (6 x 5.5) I would want to know that you consider me less sexy and less satisfying before we even get started, so I can decide whether or not to break things off before I spend a penny on you.

If I'm with a woman, I put every last bit of energy and passion that I have into the act. I want to give my lover the best I'm capable of. If there's something that I could do that I'm not, or if there's something that I'm doing she doesn't like, I want to know that so I can adjust to her needs and desires. To me, it’s not about macho bullshit; it's about pleasure! I want to give my girl the most possible every time we have sex.

Now don’t get me wrong. I don't need to be her best right off the bat. And I certainly don't need to be the biggest the girl has ever had to enjoy the sex (or relationship). But if she tells me (or even thinks), "well you can be OK with what you got, but you can never really bring me to the heights of ecstasy like you could if you were bigger, or that a bigger guy could," then I guess she'll just have to go find Mr. Big.

Why should we average men waste our time, money, effort, passion, and energy on someone who’d really rather have something "better"? I want a girl who's as thrilled with what I have to offer as I am with her.

From Wild Angel
If the choice were between foreplay and a large size penis (with no foreplay); without question the choice would be foreplay.

As has been observed by a few women before me, (some) men with large penises seem to think that is all they need. That simply by being longer and/or thicker they will please their sexual partner completely. I'd suggest that is seldom true. (It is the same as a women who is 'pretty' thinking that is all she needs. That is enough for some men, but many men also want a decent personality and some brains in their women, not just arm candy. That gets boring quickly if you're spending any time together; you can't spend 24/7 in a sexual frenzy!)

It would be interesting to know the ages of the respondents, because I wonder if that has an affect on our opinions. At the present age of 52 I view things differently than I did at 20something. Sex is more of a journey, rather than a quest for the end point of orgasm.

Ergo, I actually delight in lovers that do not sport a raging erection at all times. Somehow I always felt like I had to relieve men of that asap. Now, it's a lovely, long, erotic journey of touching, nuzzling, licking, looking, and playing.

Let me say it in the easiest terms. With a vibrator, I can make myself orgasm hard in less than 10 minutes. I'd give up my vibrator in a heartbeat for a man who might not make me orgasm often, but delights in my body, touching and stroking with his fingers and tongue for long sensual periods of time.

Foreplay over size (for me) EVERY time.

From Jenni
We have been married for nearly 20 years, my husband is very well endowed and in all those years he has never once left me unsatisfied sexually. I've had a few men over the past few years and they all had small cocks and no idea about foreplay. 

For my money give me anytime a guy with a long cock with plenty of fat girth which satisfyingly pushes my vagina wall out and works my clitoris as I am fucked producing great orgasms for me.

From DYD
I have a few things to say about a huge dick. I really like them. We have been married for 27 years and husband is average in the dick department which is fine with me. I love him so very much. He is a voyeur and I am an exhibitionist. 

One night in the heat of passion he ask if I would fuck some well hung man while he watched, one of the best orgasms in my life it lasted for a good 5 mins. What a turn on! Well that was 26 years ago and 63 well hung men later. At first we used the swinger magazines as the internet was not around.

We seek out guys with 10" or more and they are easy to find on the internet. They all have the same in common their ego is a big as their cocks. But what the heck I just want a real good fucking and most the time I get it. I love a dick that I can't reach my fingers around. It is such a turn on for the both of us. 

I love to see a massive penis disappear in side of me at the same time I am feeling my lips stretch. Filling up my pussy to the deepest parts. After they leave we have the best sex for several hours. I just wanted to share my thoughts with other women who also love a huge long cock. It does not have to be love.

From Anonymous
I remember a date with my girlfriend in 1965. We parked on Plummer Hill and made out like crazy. I slid my hand up her skirt...higher and higher until I was above her nylons. Her flesh was so soft and smooth. Then I moved up just a bit further where I encountered her panties. She let me feel her panties right by her pussy for just a few moments before she stopped me. To this day I get excited beyond belief to touch a woman's panties...especially if she's wearing them at the time!

From Anonymous
I love small cocks especially when they're completely and totally hairless, don't get me wrong I'm not into little boys, but I think small cocks just look sweet and innocent which turns me on. 

My boy friend is just like that and with him not being able to penetrate me deeply he concentrates on where he can reach which is my clitoris, he drives me wild and brings me to orgasm time and time again. And when I think a sweet little innocent thing can make me wild with desire it turns me on even more.

From Jeff
My lover and I are both very well endowed. I'm bigger than he is and we both engage in anal sex. Done right it is outstanding. Gay man are "size queens" for the most part, and the only thing I can equate it to is women's breasts. I would not trade it for all the money in the world but being hung has many downfalls.

From Meri
Sorry, I'm kind of lost on this one. What does one have to do with the other? Yeah, a big dick is a visual turn on, but if you're with someone who doesn't know what the hell to do with it, what's the point? All that's really needed is experience and some strong chemistry; if you've got that, the rest is effortless!

From Onehiphippy
I'd like to make a couple points. 1) people talk about Black being larger but we know that they all aren't the same size. I don't think anyone claims the smallest black is larger the large white! Some are smaller some are larger so your personal experience is just one point of a graph of million.

2) Why does a large penis seems to negate foreplay.

3) Many women here has said they don't really like larger guys but you see many have been with one. We know larger guys are very rare. You should have to sleep with hundreds of guys to see one by chance. Therefore there must be a hidden desire to accept dates from certain guys.

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