Big Dicks vs Competent Foreplay

Your preference...be honest!

I would like to hear about how important a man's phallic length is. Every adult film I've seen has the macho studs sporting cocks of equestrian proportions, and it sure LOOKS like the women or men enjoy having every orifice filled by them. In the real world, however, how does a big dick rate compared with your partner being competent in foreplay? Would your personal preference be to have a horse-hung mate, but you'll settle for other things in lieu? If so, what rates higher for you in that instance? Your feedback could be most enlightening. —Phlyon Zawahl

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From Jessica
Yeah sure, girls that are able to orgasm during penetration by their men are either sexually fully developed, their guy is above average in size, or both. In any case, all the issues discussed here have been cleared up on the website called the Penis Size Debate.  When it comes to downright pleasure-seeking sex, BIG wins hands down.  Us girls are unconsciously hard-wired for the alpha cock.  These are just facts, we must learn to live with it, it's genetic and therefore nothing to worry about or be ashamed of. Besides, watching a monster schlong penetrate their women drives men up the wall with lust, it's so hot. 

From Avg. Joe
My wife and I have been together for going on 15 years, married 11.  I have always had a bit of a complex and admittedly a fascination with big dicks, although I'm the furthest thing from gay or bi-curious.  I measure 6" x 5", both can gain about 3/8" when at peak arousal.  These numbers put me above average supposedly, but like most men of average endowment, wish I was packing some more meat.  I am, I honestly believe it too, the only man my wife has been with.  Our sex has been very fulfilling, in that I get more aroused and personally get off more on trying to make her have more and more enjoyable sex all the time through drawn out foreplay and masterful oral.

I have (which I am becoming to believe was a mistake) introduced a realistic toy of 7" x 6" into our play on occasion.  She did not like it until recently, when I took extra effort to make sure she was at peak arousal.  With a bit of lube, she has had the most tremendous orgasms ever and squirted for the first time...   I derive tremendous pleasure from the fact that she explodes with it, but at the same time, it has given me a complex.  She has multiples with me, but not as hard or fast as that toy.  My fear now, which I am trying hard not to let shut me down, is that she will want the real thing with a good man pushing...  So yeah, no doubt, more of a good thing seems to be a better thing.  I'm hoping our love, trust, respect and dedication to making the best of what we have together will be enough.  I am at fault, but her eyes (and vag) have been opened to bigger and possibly better things... Hopefully, it won't ever cause too much insecurity in me, or case infidelity in her.  I don't think I can share her, but am admittedly scared for the first time ever.

From Danielle
For me, 'competent' is the most important word here. My preference lies with average or slightly smaller than average sized dicks: too large and it'll hurt, too small, though, and it may slip out during an intense fuck, which can be anything from a shame to annoying to painful. I like to feel his balls against me hard when we fuck which for me is easier when he's not too large.

From Paul R.
I'm an average size guy! but I recently purchased a Dynamic strapless extension the nine inch version it works great and my lady loves it and so do I. She has always enjoyed when I would fill her pussy with a vibe or dildo that was somewhat larger than myself, so when I found this product I just had to give it a try. I waited for the right night and slipped on my big dick and waited for her to come to bed, I ran my hand down between her legs and rubbed her warm pussy she quickly became moist, so I moved on down and started to kiss an lick the moistness between her legs bringing her to the brink of orgasm. I continued to tease her not letting her come.

I then had her kneel in the doggie position I moved up behind her and rubbed my large cock against her wet pussy I slowly slid this monster into her pussy her response was wonderful when she realized this was the largest dick she has ever had real or fake filling her pussy, she was rocking back and forth like crazy fucking it hard. I then pulled it out told her to roll over and she finally got to see my monster cock and she was amazed at its size, I lifted her legs up in my arms and again slid this very large cock into her with her knees up by her ears I started slowly stroking her pussy after a few minutes she was taking almost the entire cock into her cunt. I was able to give her two powerful orgasms. When I finished fucking her she gave me one great blow job, we are looking forward to our next session hopefully real soon.  

From Steve L
I'm a guy, and like any rational (and oversexed) horndog I've really appreciated the comments from the many women who've posted here. The female responses seem to fall into two main camps; the "It's the Motion in the Ocean" camp, and the "I'll take both, please" camp. I'm good with that, but as a guy with an average penis size that has always serviced me and my lovers well, I've been intrigued by the possibilities of stepping over to the "Wow, what're you going to do with that sucker!" side. To that end, I've been pumping my dick with a penis pump for about a year now. Contrary to popular opinion, these contraptions do work ­ at least temporarily, and permanently in small ways if you stick to it. For me, I get much thicker ­ which is WAY fun!

I came across a scholarly study about Penis Size and Perceived Sexual Satisfaction that was published by a couple of researchers from a school in California. (You can Google it and find it.) They surveyed several hundred women of all different age groups about THE $64,000 question. Their conclusion in this study was very interesting to me: Basically, 80% of women who had partners with average or bigger than average penises were very satisfied with them sexually. The remaining 20% of women wanted bigger dicks. And, as the age groups of women surveyed advanced, the percentage of woman who wanted bigger increased, by about an additional 1% for every 10 years of age. And, as you might expect, women with guys who had smaller than average penises were less sexually satisfied than the rest.

So, for me and most guys- life is good. And, I can walk on that wild side anytime I want, and anytime my fiancée says, "Hey Baby, let's play with a big one!". What could be better?!

From Candyheart
I'd take foreplay over a large penis size anytime.  But have to admit that with the right amount of foreplay, a long hard dick (seven, eight, nine inches is very desirable) with two inches in girth and a slightly larger fat mushroom shaped head.  Also, hard long tongue and a greedy mouth that enjoys sucking a fat clit and sucking wet pussy.

From Sarah
I think it's a sad commentary on US society that men figure their worth via their penis size. So much so that men are willing to watch a big dick fucked their girlfriends, wives, lovers. Very sad indeed. Think of it this way: women, or men who want to play with big dicks, can simply buy one. It's call a dildo - any size shape color you want. However, a smart, witty man with a keen sense of what makes a good lover, and is a joy to be with, is damn hard to fine, impossible to buy.

I'll take a good guy who is a good lover over a dick-head any day. And when I desire a big dick, I simply introduce a big dildo into play, and have the best of both worlds.

Come on guys, stop measuring your worth via your penis. Measure your worth as a lover by careing more about pleasing your lover, than about the size of your dick.

From Paul R
I'm just an average guy with a very average dick. Can anyone give me any accurate info on Penis pumps and whether they work or not and is there any device that can help increase my cock size.

From Sweetpea
I'm a 40 year old woman that has had around a dozen lovers in my time.  I have found that I prefer an average size cock.  I have a small vagina so anything over average is extremely painful for me.  I have actually turned guys down before after seeing the size of their cock.  Most woman want to feel pleasure not pain.  So I would say that if someone says that they have to have a huge cock to be satisfied, maybe it's because they have a large vagina.

Foreplay is very important! Especially when the guy is very large. My bf has a really big one or I guess maybe my lady parts are just too tight, but we CAN NOT have sex without at least 15 minutes of foreplay. There's no way that he can enter me without getting me super wet (usually by oral). Otherwise the pain is just unbearable. It hurts anyway, but the foreplay makes it more tolerable.

From Mary
No correction from me, Hans. [see Hans' entry below]. A long penis is not much fun, and a women really can't do much with it - too long to grind, too long to suck it comfortably, and it looks snake like, not at all attrative.

It's all about the girth. A thick, short penis is perfection, that along with a man who knows what he's doing is truly heaven on earth when it comes to sexual satisfaction.

From Hans
I'm 54 years old. Have 4 children from 3 women. My cock as compared to some porno guys is not even close. It's about 1 1/3 the size of a toilet paper roll and won't fit inside when hard. I've been with at least a hundred girls and never a complaint. What I notice is that all of them can sit on me and take it to my balls and grind.They get off really fast and many times.

I watch porn and they don't get their entire dick inside. What a waste. You have to grind. So from  my 40 years of sex a 7 inch thick cock is just right. Correct me if I'm wrong.

From Mary
Thick is vastly more important than long, for most every woman I've ever talked with about this. Long enough to hit the g-spot, which most men have. There's also this, I've found that a big dick is usually a little softer (I guess because the blood has more area to fill?) and that's nice--it feels generally more like being filled and less like being stabbed. As for foreplay, different women like different kinds of touch, so a guy who has "competent foreplay" with one woman may be totally turning another off with the same techniques.

For me, the biggest turn on ever is a man who just genuinely gets off on my pleasure. That man can fuck me with his hand, his mouth, his cock or a dildo, for all I care, and it will be great, regardless, because he'll pay attention and experiment with the tools at hand until he finds what works on me.

From Selena
Yes foreplay is very important.  Yes a talentless man is not going to get a woman going no matter what. But I seldom meet a man who is so clueless that he can't figure out when his technique is annoying/hurting/doing nothing for me, esp if I bother to tell him what I like and don't like. 

It is men who put so much importance on size which is why some men try to make themselves feel better by suggesting that being well-hung is some sort of handicap.  It's not.  And while men do put more importance on it, there is a sizeable minority of woman who do too, like me. Sorry, but other things being equal, even near equal, a long fat one is more fulfilling, more exciting and way more likely to get me off.

From Guy
Many men think that having a huge cock makes them god's gift to a woman.  A man with a big dick needs to spend a long time on foreplay to make sure their wife or lover is really turned on, opened up and lubricated; cunnilingus is a good opener.

Many big men think it is enough to shove it straight in which can cause women a lot of pain and little or no pleasure. I am not well endowed, but because of that I have made sure of learning from women all the arts of pleasuring a woman.

I have no doubt that there are many women who crave a big dick that fills them right up, but I'm sure may not be so happy to suffer a lot of pain on entry, or have their cervix battered. Big men must be very patient and gentle.

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