Swallow or Spit?
what's a person to do...

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From Jessica
well I have to say I started as a young girl giving head to my b/f. I was 14 and in the girl's bathroom at school. I remember trying to decide if I was going to let him come in my mouth or spit or swallow. Well 12 years later and I am still swallowing every last drop of semen I can get. Yes it can be a little salty or bland but I enjoy the taste every time. I could never see myself spiting a load out. On some days I have giving my b/f head 4-5 times swallowing his warm creamy load every time. All and all girls I know we all don't enjoy the taste or the act of him blasting a load into our mouths. I know myself that I will always love letting a guy come in my mouth and swallowing it all.

From Tina
Can I say neither? Its not that I don't like the taste or the idea but I just love seeing a guy spurt. When I give a blow job and I feel the guy ready to come I take his cock out and watch it squirt out. Don't really mind where. I think its my way of seeing if I turned him on enough- I'm naive enough to think the more he comes the more I turned him on but it is satisfying to see him come more. For those guys who insist on ejaculating in my mouth then I'm happy to swallow

From Chris
I'm a gay guy and I LOVE to swallow - it's the final act of intimacy, my way of saying I want as much of my man as I can get from him. And the smell - well, it turns me on so much it's often sufficient to take me over the edge.

But let me confess I love cum period. I love it down my throat, in my mouth, dripping off my face, splattered on my sex partner, on the sheets etc. Can't get enough of that hot, sticky, manly cream.

The most intensely intimate and horny experience for me is sharing the cum, mouth to mouth. Deep kissing with one or both guy's cum oozing around my tongue, lips and teeth...sigh...and then swallowing it together...heaven.

From Badtz
I'm less concerned with spitting or swallowing than I am with my partners willingness to try. I personally prefer a good facial over shooting in a girls mouth, as the visual enhances an orgasm for me personally. But if it came down to a spit or swallow thing, I prefer the swallow, but understand that not all girls want to do so. Hell, considering how many girls I've messed with who don't want cum in their mouths period, even spitting shows a certain something that most women won't do.

From Ceit
Personally, I swallow. On the other hand, I know plenty of people who find the idea revolting. It's a matter of personal choice and mood, both yours and your partner's. I do feel that you need to let your lover know, however you go, it's YOUR preference! The first time I got my boyfriend in for a really good bj, when he came, he practically threw me off so he could block it from my view!

I was rather hurt by this behavior, and it nearly ended our relationship. After a rather long, and somewhat loud talk, I found out a past girlfriend had read him the riot act for coming in her mouth! He spent years after that thinking that to come on or in front of a woman was the worst thing he could do. Much less in her mouth! So, if you won't or can't swallow, let him know it's you, not all women!

From Kaminari
I'd have to agree with Matt [see entry below]. I love my girlfriend and we talk often about sex. I'm not quite sure if she has swallowed before, but she doesn't now. She runs into the bathroom and spits. Sure, I do get a bit offended, but on the other hand I'm grateful that she gives such good head in the first place. She says that if I wanted her to swallow that she would, but what's the point in that? Then I feel like she's uncomfortable in being forced to do something she doesn't want to.

She says that she doesn't mind cum, but she just doesn't see it as something to drink. But now that I think about it, she doesn't seem to really like cum that much. If I come anywhere on her body, she's always very fast to clean it up, almost as if it were acid. Like I said, I love her more than anything and I'm glad for what she does for me, but I don't think sex should be about a series of "ok, if that's what you want..." reluctant actions.

If you are willing to try something, try it. If you don't like it, say so. If it's something you can get used to, that's just another skill under your belt. I love it when someone tries something with me for the first time, especially if it's my first time, too.

From Matt
Having her spit ruins it for me for one simple reason; it makes me feel selfish as though she's doing something she really doesn't want to do because she thinks I expect it or something. Whatever the case, it makes me feel really awful and ruins the act for me. It might be partly because I'm from the old school...I enjoy having sex but I LOVE making love and if someone is doing something she doesn't really want to do, it doesn't feel like love...obligation would be a better word. 

From Lisa
I made a real fool of myself at a conference few months back when I gave a work colleague a blow job and spat it out. I've given my husband head hundreds of times and really enjoy swallowing his cum but on this occasion altho I'd worked with this guy for two years or so I couldn't swallow and ruined for him and me what had been till then a very enjoyable bj, a real let down and I still don't know why I spat it all out except it was the first guy I'd blown other than my husband in about five years. Next time I give a guy head I'm definitely going to swallow!

From Dan
We are twenty years married, my wife gives me head two or three times a week, sometimes as part of a mutual two way '69'. She always swallows because she enjoys it, is A1 horny at giving head and, as my wife, says she could never spit her husband's cum out. So, out of curiosity after visiting your web site, I asked her if she'd swallow another guy's cum. Yeah, she said, natch, and anyway how did I know she hadn't given another guy head sometime recently in the last twenty years and swallowed his stuff? Had she? The answer was neither a denial or confirmation, only a qualification that she'd never give a guy full on head she didn't know!

From Robert
My wife feels similarly to Anonymous [see entry below] and has also compared the consistency of semen to phlegm. I feel very lucky that she does enjoy going down on me and let her know that I enjoy it every time she does it. She asked me once if I wished she would swallow and I admitted that yes I did, but that I'm not about to get upset that she doesn't. I love her and love what she does for me (especially considering she has had to go back into braces because of problems from the braces she had as a teen), but I would never try to make her do something she doesn't want to do.

Now, that said, the way I read the message from Anonymous wasn't that he wanted to persuade his wife to do it, but rather he wanted to help her get past the feeling of semen=phlegm. I felt that he was asking this with the knowledge of his wife. His wife may very well find the idea erotic, but can't bring herself to do it. Perhaps she wants his help in getting past a fear. We shouldn't rush to judgement on such things.

From George
To Anonymous [see entry below]: Your lovely wife doesn't need to get past anything. You simply need to accept and respect the fact that she doesn't like the consistency. Be happy that she loves to go down on you.

My wife dislikes the taste, and I'm happy to warn her before I shoot. If she doesn't like the taste, so be it. I hate the taste of lima beans, and won't eat the damn things for anyone - why should I expect my wife to swallow something she doesn't like? That's selfish, and immature. I'm grateful she enjoys giving me head, such a glorious feeling! 

From Anonymous
My lovely wife loves to go down on me, but she always stops well before I cum. She likes to lick pre-cum from my cock, but she won't let me cum in her mouth or on her face (her belly, ass, or breasts are ok). She says that while the taste doesn't bother her, the consistency does...she says it's too much like phlegm. Any suggestions to help her get past this?

From Spit-man
Darn ... I had much fun reading this. As a man, I too, love when women swallows ... it just give it the extra edge and bring me down or "up" again. After a few years of marriage, my wife kept spitting despite she knew I love the "extra touch". Her, on the other hand, LOVES for me to go down on her all the way.... she is a pretty wet cummer. I don't mind and I think its sexy. 

Anyway, one day I just had it, so after she came, I stood up, went a few steps away and spat in a cup. She thought of me a crazy .. but after I had done it about 4-5 time .... she started to swallow. I'm a very happy man now and she confesses that its not that bad after all. Happy swallowing, you all !

From Franco
I'd just like to say, that one time my girlfriend at the time decided to try swallowing it. Unfortunately I think she was unprepared for the amount and intensity of the moment. Long story short, the ultimate erotic fulfillment came to a screeching, coughing, gagging and choking halt, and culminated with her spitting it everywhere all over me. So, in the end, while I appreciated her trying to swallow it, it really would have been better if she'd spit or just pointed it somewhere else.

From Sarah
This is a very funny web site, I am 34 and work as a floor manager for a bank. when I was younger I would always point the thing away, had a semi bad experience in a guys car in my 20's where my head was held down!! Do not do that guys! Unfortunately went out with that one for another couple months.

And in my recent yrs I have dated quite a few younger guys through work circles and have to say the ones below 28 kinda are quite demanding emptying there stalks in my mouth.

From Jane Lane
I'm a fan of swallowing, but it does depend how bitter or rich a guy is when he comes. But it isn't a good brekkie food - as I once found out, although its good protein.

From Subarcana
Thanks, Bob! [see next entry] I love watching the opalescence dribble down my chin & onto my breasts. And yes (with most men) I like the taste. I've never spit, but must admit that most semen is too rich for me. I'll enjoy drinking it, but find myself a little queasy a couple of hours later. For me, the ultimate is being hosed down ­ especially on the breasts or face ­ where I can lick up enough to taste it, but don't have to worry about a tummy-ache!

From Bob
Swallowing? Never minded if she did or she didn't. Spitting is kind of cold and perfunctory, though. What makes me (gloriously) crazy is when she lets it all drool out of the corners of her mouth while she flashes a big grin, and makes a nice sticky mess ... wherever. Sigh Okay, so I'm a slob ... sue me.

From Mike
See my earlier note below. My wife read this and reminded me that she is 55 and, to quote her, 'sucks cock with the enthusiasm of a college girl combined with the experience of a Linda Lovelace'. In other words, how many ladies in their mid fifties are sucking cock, let alone doing it with panache and flair? 

As for swallow or spit, she clarifies my remark by saying that I know perfectly well the guys she regularly sucks off since we swing and each is well known to us, they are all married (most are) to great wives, are honest and healthy, and HIV is of course an important issue for all our friends when giving head. Amongst them are two bi guys and both I and my wife are very cautious before giving them head and swallowing.

From Anonymous
I never thought I'd swallow, but I did try it. My boyfriend and I would have sex and after he was almost ready to come he pulled it out and shoved it in my mouth and came. It tasted kinda sweet (he eats a lot of ice-cream and cookies) but I was pissed off the first time he did that crap to me. Then I started getting kinda turned on. Its not so bad now when I do that with him.

From Lou
As a teen in the early sixties I used to hate giving head and always spat the cum out and it was only when I grew older, more mature and met my first husband did I start to enjoy the stuff. After my divorce I was single again and dated twenty or so guys over a two year period and I gave each of them head, swallowed their cum every time, had a great time experiencing a range of different tastes, thicknesses and consistency too! 

Then I met the guy who would become hubby #2 and gave him a bj on our second date, swallowed every last drop. Now I go down on him two or three times a week and never in a 100 years would I ever spit his cum out and when the (all too rare) occasion presents itself and I give another guy head the same rule applies - I'd never spit out the guy's cum!

From Keri
Well before I met my husband I'd enjoy giving guys good head before I knew their names and never ever spat out any of their cum, must have swallowed many litres in those days. It was all part of turning a guy on, getting him big, mutual satisfaction and just experiencing sucking new cock. Spitting would have been a real insult to the guy. I'm now married but that doesn't stop me enjoying giving my husband or another guy good head, swallowing their cum and enjoying it.

From Alexandra
I was 16 when I gave my first head. I asked him to finish in my hand and when he was looking in some other parts I tasted it. Ever since I swallow. I am 38 and I believe I swallowed kilos of sperm. The men we love deserve this.

From Mike
In our lovemaking 69 is a big ticket item and my wife has never ever done anything other than swallow my cum in some 20 years of a great marriage. But then when it comes to giving me head her technique is simply astounding - she prides herself on not rushing, taking a very long and very satisfying time in bringing me off in her mouth. 

After applying such fabulous technique she says she isn't going to waste all that tireless professionalism by spitting my spunk out! Cheekily she states that for her she'd only ever spit if she wasn't sure of the provenance of the guy she was sucking off!

From Randy
My wife used to always spit...then one day she decided on her own to swallow, and she has been swallowing ever since. She says she loves the taste. In fact, there are times when we are having intercourse and as I am coming she drops down a swallows the load.

From Razi
At first, I had no idea that most women spit! I was very inexperienced, and was a virgin (intercourse at least), until I met my now husband. I only had oral sex with three guys before him, and swallowed the first time I gave head. It never occurred to me to spit, since the sensations of giving head was so much eating great cheesecake. Velvety and firm all at once. Sorry to those who like savoring cheesecake better than cock for that analogy.

That very first guy literally laughed (good naturedly) when I asked oh so eagerly if I could go down on him, like he was rationing chocolate. Thankfully he was a good teacher and a patient guinea pig. It still awes my husband that I can't wait to go down on him, and that the feel of him in my mouth turns me on faster than anything else. More than once, he has pulled me off of him because he wants to get to the old fashioned sex.

Not sure if it is the forbidden aspect or the power trip that turns me on so, but I don't really care. The taste, I could take or leave, but I love the feel, and spitting detracts (for me, I don't think he cares one way or the other) from the intimacy of giving pleasure this way.

From RealDog
She always swallows, even the big loads. Sometimes she kisses me after, I try to be soldier, but it is only after booze that I can dig it a bit. Does not taste like much, just kinda chickenshit!

From Blair
I never swallowed but my boyfriend requested it recently. I tried. Twice. I gagged--I'll bet that wasn't attractive!! The smell alone is repulsive, and the consistency is worse. He tastes very bitter. I love my boyfriend and I want to drive him wild but I just can't bring myself to swallow...it grosses me out!! An ex of mine had his cum much more watery. Any idea why? And how does diet change things?

From AJ
I know that some prefer not to swallow, but I definitely agree with Kassandra on this one... I would be offended if HE spit, and in this way, I think that swallowing is much like fulfilling a fantasy of your partner's, even when it is not your own. I think it definitely detracts from the moment, and makes the statement that you are not enjoying giving your partner head, and are simply doing it because you know he wants it.

I would hope hope hope that there would be some enjoyment in the giving, as well. I swallow, and always have, because I know it makes my boyfriend feel desired and sexy, that I want to take him in my mouth. And I want to make him feel this way, the same way he lovingly and willingly fulfills my fantasies.

On a more tasteful note, I do not love the taste. I have noticed, however, that smoking pot makes him taste bitter, as opposed to more warm and buttery. (sorry, they were the most accurate adjectives i could think of) An old boyfriend of mine was vegetarian, and his taste was much nicer. But if I were to not feel in the mood to swallow, I would not spit. I think the alternative is definitely to encourage your lover to come on your body, or breasts, if you are female. This is just as enjoyable an ending, and I believe that sex is the best when it is good from beginning to end.

From Louise
It depends on the guy. Too big and it's difficult not to gag anyway. But just the right size and then there is nothing more glorious than the power trip of feeling him come in your mouth and sucking every last drop and the only way to do that is to swallow.

From Therese
Sir Kenn, you are one funny guy. Giving you head must be some kind of a privilege! Bet you're a tit man too.

From Sir Kenn
I do not mind a lady spitting, its the ones the gargle that scare me.

From MH
I recently fed my sweet my cum after coming inside her vagina, I used fingers and tongue to suck it into my mouth, then went to her kissed and dropped it into her mouth. All this was discussed first. I'll admit it isn't the flavor of the month, but it wasn't awful. Thankfully, she likes it, delivered directly though.

From Riyaliti
I am going to speak from an academic point of view, college. In most dorms the beds are small and sheets hard to clean since the laundry costs so much. Swallowing is the alternative because...no clean up. I always have that moment before I come thinking whether or not I'll have to sleep on a towel because she decided to spit. Yes , swallowing is economically correct.

From Diedre
I am surprised how many women who have written don't like the taste of cum. I love the taste and the smell. It reminds me of other times he's been this excited before (and other men who have been excited near my lips). The smell, the taste, bring back those memories each time. The tasting of it is like eating, another oral pleasure. My pleasure is enhanced by the taste. Otherwise, it's just touching with my lips, my mouth, my tongue. ...but touching with my lips plus tasting, plus smelling, plus the sounds of it ...well, that's just heaven.

That having been said, I don't necessarily have a need to lick up every ounce of it if it spills, but I naturally would tend to swallow if it is already in my mouth. ...and, yet, I'm so tormented. In this time, I feel like it is so dangerous to be single and like to give head and like to swallow. It makes me sad, and my drive to live disease free is greater than my desire to taste, to swallow. ...and you can see that desire is great.

From Raven
I guess I'm part of a minority of women, I love to give head and to swallow. Yes, each man has a different taste and different foods & drinks will affect the taste, some good and some bad. At the best, it's always salty sweet and pleasant. At the worst, it's thick and a bit bitter, even slimy. For me, blowjobs are part power trip and part oral fixation and I love to give them. I get as excited as he does from pleasuring him. I love to take my time and really make it special for him - love to hear him come and see his eyes roll into his skull.

All that said, I am definitely not part of a majority and many women don't like it, the actual event or just the taste of the cum. A man should not be insulted if a woman can't swallow, it isn't anything personal against him. Just as some people gag at the taste of asparagus, oysters, etc. (insert any other foods you don't like), cum can be quite distasteful and some people can't handle it. I understand a man's point of view that he has to taste a woman the entire time, I sympathize, but forcing a woman to swallow or guilting her into will only lessen a man's chances of getting more bj's from her.

A friend of mine could never handle the taste of cum, she solved this by letting her fellow get right on the verge, then let him finish across her breasts. It isn't quite the same, but strings of pearly cum look good on breasts. 

From poeticprincess
I've always been a spitter, but then again I only really had the opportunity to give head to my ex. And it was an issue with him. Swallowing was something I always wanted to try but could never get past the initial pre-cum. I'd gag and have to jerk him off instead. I have to say kudos to Bad Dog. If I'm doing it right, it shouldn't matter the outcum (pardon the pun). If I make him feel like the center of my universe, it shouldn't really matter what I do with the end result. I think I'd like to let it drool out the corners of my mouth as I flash a big grin! (thanks Bob for that idea!).

From Anonymous
I'm sorry to say, I do not like the taste at all! If I can help it, I won't swallow.

From Allan
I am a gwm 45 and have been swallowing all my life, yes its true you do have to acquire a taste for it, and yes you can taste different food flavor in it. Also there is a big difference in the flavor if the guy has cum recently or not it has a real strong flavor if he has not.

From Phledge
I've cheerfully fellated the men with whom I've been involved, but it wasn't until my most recent encounter that I actually had one come in my mouth. I swallowed because I wasn't sure what else to do, and, more importantly, I was RELIEVED that I hadn't been doing it "wrong" all these years.

Now that I've swallowed, and I know that I'm doing it right, and I know that, really, the stuff tastes rather like runny nose, I think I'll spit.

From Jolie
Neither! I would make a terrible prostitute because I HATE the taste of semen. I forced myself to swallow it with my first boyfriend (I was 17) because I was too afraid to tell him that I didn't like the taste. I have to say that sometimes I had to run to the bathroom. I just couldn't do it.

As I got older, I was honest about it. And, it really hasn't been a problem with any man I've been with since. They don't come in my mouth, and it's been cool. No problem. My husband is completely understanding, too.

From Kayla
I like giving BJ's and I think I might have spit the first two or three times I gave one but from there on in I've been a swallow girl.

From Cynthia Jean
I can handle the pre-cum fine, but it's not something I actually look forward to having. I understand why men want women to swallow, but for me it is not at all a pleasurable taste or texture.

From Whiskers
Sorry, but I'll have to disagree on this one. I love to swallow, and the taste isn't bad at all... but then again, he is very particular as to what he eats, and cannot handle the spicy foods, so those things do not alter his natural taste.

Although, once after we went out for Japanese food, it did taste a little different, but that could have been because of all the sake I drank!!

From Al
Well actually swallowing is part of the exercise so to speak, and part of the turn on for me and I am assuming other men as well. To see her hold it and spit it out someplace doesn't do much for me. I like her to keep her mouth on my cock after I have cum and to slowly bring me down.

Spitting doesn't allow you to do that. It is kind of like eating out a lady. We are exposed to the taste and smell the whole time and if we were turned off by the Taste. Well the dear lady would never get off. I am not saying the taste turns me off. On the contrary it enhances what I am doing and turns me on and spurts me to tongue her more. And adding to this, I love it when she has swallowed my cum and saved some for a kiss as she comes up to me. I enjoy the taste of my cum as well...

From Giulia Cosentino
If they shoot for the back of the throat it goes down easy and there's hardly a taste at all. Although, I am glad I am not the only one out there who'd prefer to spit.

My ex husband had no problem with me spitting, but the recently ex boyfriend has had much to say on the subject and therefore I declare myself a no blow job zone until I get myself sorted out.

From Volponia
Three cheers for you, Giulia, knowing what you want and sticking to it! Would it have been more acceptable to have him finish by coming on your breasts, as they always seem to do in porn movies?

From Kassandra
I won't stop swallowing because I love him and I think it would be rude to spit. He has no idea how it tastes (except once I mentioned it) because I make him feel like it is the center of my universe when I'm giving head. I would be highly offended if he would go and spit after going down on me.

From Bad Dog
Feeling, watching, tasting and smelling a woman are a great turn-on, but what really does it for me is still the control of her. I can bring her up, bring her down, make her beg, drive her crazy and when I am ready send her to nirvana.

Most women I have been with seem to enjoy the same thing. If she does it right, spitting, swallowing or pulling out and jerking it off makes no difference. I am too far gone too distinguish.

From Ghost Rider
It was always on the erotic side to me when a lady would be giving me head and then swallow as I would come. Just knowing that there was part of me in her stomach and to know that she thought it was good enough to be in her stomach made me feel really good and have a special feeling for her.

I have encountered ladies that liked to give head but wouldn't swallow. It didn't hurt my feelings for her to go spit. What they didn't realize was when they were giving head that they were swallowing the pre-cum that comes out first. It really amazed me that they couldn't bring themselves to down the main course. Also, I never saw them rinse out their mouth after performing the deed and spitting. This is something that never bothered me when I was involved in giving oral sex to a lady. 

If I could stand to put my mouth on her vagina and make her climax, I damn sure could stand to swallow during and after she climaxed. Ladies, think about this the next time you go to give a guy head because by the time a guy has the main climax you have already swallowed part of his cum.

From EmptyMan
I've never had a woman do either, because I've never had a real blowjob. I'm 37, married, and I'd say my wife and I have an OK sex life. I go down on her almost every time we have sex, and she comes every time. She's only given me head twice, though, and neither time did she allow me to come. No other woman before her ever gave me a blowjob, either. I don't know why. I've never asked for it because I've always thought that would be degrading -- if she wanted to do it, she would do it without me asking.

Oh, how I long to have a blowjob! I would love to come in her mouth, or I would love to come anywhere else. Spit or swallow is irrelevant when you never get blown.

So my message to the guys who are upset that their women don't swallow, would be to just be thankful that you're getting head.

From Don
My wife enjoys it when I go down on her, it is the only way for her to climax. She has said more than once how can some one be so talented with their tongue. But then I just reply that her blowjobs are the best also. 

When it comes to swallow or spit she always swallows, she has said that why do it if you do not go all the way. I know that she is really into it when she starts with a blowjob and then I enter her pussy and fuck her till blow my wad, then the grand finale is she cleans my dick with her tongue and sucks me limp.

I knew there was was a reason that we were meant to be together. I please her and she pleases me

From George
My wife and I are in our sixties now but when we first met 40 years ago she gave the most incredible head. That all eventually passed and over the years our sex ended up an infrequent 'lay position one'. Then recently she started to suck me off. At first, once in a blue moon, then more frequently, now it's nightly along with other sex acts. My wife had rediscovered sex! 

I was enjoying myself too much to ask where her new fervor came from in case I broke the spell and we'd go back to the bad old days. But I did ask and she eventually told me. Appears she had sucked off a work colleague while they were away at a conference, he'd enjoyed it and she liked it too so thought she'd give me one. She remembered how much I liked it from the early days and was very happy when I liked it just as much 40 years later. 

Yes, she swallows, says for her it's a big part of the enjoyment, wants to know why though on some nights I produce a lot of cum while other times, next to nothing. Guess that is to do my age (63)?

From Sentient
Male here. Obviously not all women are the same. I've had lovers who hated blowjobs (and I never pestered them for one once I found out) while others demanded them - some even requesting I blow in their face. Two of the ones that requested asked me to deep French kiss them after the fact. It felt weird at first, but having a had a bi-sexual experience once in my twenties, it wasn't so bad. 

You know, those last two lovers were something else. Smart, sensual, confident women. They alone make a great case for reincarnation. Heh - I'd LOVE to come across them again in another lifetime (pun intended).

From Janie
Having just read a report on the dramatic growth of HIV amongst heterosexuals the word must be 'take care' when fellating your men. Giving a guy head you've just met and swallowing his stuff must be a no-no. If you prefer to suck than fuck, make it known to the guy you aren't going to swallow, or get him (or you) to roll on a rubber. 

I love giving head, enjoying swallowing, but for the last five years or so have restricted my taking down a full load to my husband and the few guys we both know very well and trust implicitly.

From Petey
Actually, swallowing cum is all part of the thrill of sucking cock. It's expected! And having the right technique is important. For example, it's important to make sure the head of his cock is lodged in the back of your throat before he comes. But you must continually work your throat muscles around it so you don't gag. Then, when he's about to come, back off a half inch or so to make room for his cum. At the same time squeeze the stiff shaft upward between your tongue and the roof of your mouth so you can feel the spasms traveling the full length of his cock.

As soon as you feel that first spasm, start swallowing and make loud gulping noises as you do. You both will note that with each gulp, the suction tightens down a little bit more, heightening the pleasure for both of you.

Be sure to keep sucking after it's over, until he goes limp in your mouth. If you're lucky, and if you're good at it, and if he's really horny, he will stay hard in your mouth, and maybe even have a second orgasm.

Then when it's over and he finally goes limp and feels soft and mushy in your mouth, raise your head up and let his limp dick slide slowly from your mouth and plop down between his thighs.

What follows is up to you!

From Ruth
I cannot believe KB is serious when he says men see a lady sucking off a guy in terms of the male dominating the female. [see KB's entry below] I have fellated a dozen or so men in the last few years and never met one who voiced such an archaic opinion. 

If anything, I think KB will find that the female is in control, if that's what a blow job is all about. It isn't of course, it's about a mutual, fabulously unique experience and consuming enjoyment, ecstasy for both provider and receiver and, if the female knows her partner, then far more satisfying to take the ejaculated sperm in the mouth and swallow completely, unless the man wishes to taste his sperm via a french kiss.

 My husband points out that KB may be getting confused with a mouth fuck. Now that can be very threatening for the female and closer to the domination KB is referring to.

From Douglas
To analyze this, when one ejaculates 50% of the available semen is discharged but when one is sucked properly 100% of semen in spouted. The benefit of this is that the pleasure is increased proportionally. Despite the fact that I have known over 227 ladies in my career only one ever did the job right. It was my ex wife whom I had visited long after the divorce, we slept together and it was at 6am as she had to arise to go to work she suggested we have a "nooky". I have always believed that a man's duty is to satisfy his woman first, I find unless she is a selfish bitch it will be well rewarded. 

My ex wife went down on me and mimicked the actions of her vagina, bobbing up and down as I came. It was fantastic and 6 hours later I could still feel it. So don't forget fellers, give the little lady hers first and then receive the rewards. In other words, don't be selfish.

From Miss B
I must say that while I am currently wanting to be involved with another woman, my fondest memories of sex with men include mostly their cum. Licking it from the tip of their penis...looking at it lying in glistening gobs on my breasts...feeling it hitting me, warm on my cheeks...

Yes! I used to love a man's cum. What I loved the most was feeling it erupt into my mouth, and the expression on my man's face when I kept my lips wrapped around him and just swallowed. I loved to please my man, and almost nothing pleased him more than this. Thinking of it now brings a smile to my face.

From Eva-Elle
If you don't know the man you're sucking off then insist on he roll a rubber on his penis. If you know the man then ask yourself whether in allowing you to suck him off how many other females (or males) have sucked him off and how promiscuous he might be. 

I enjoy fellating my husband and trust him implicitly but am very cautious with other men, even the three my husband and I are closest to and they have reluctantly agreed to use condoms when we have sex, oral and otherwise. 

From Robert in Portland
When someone takes my cock in his or her mouth (I've had it from both, and the winner is: hands down, the guys give better head, probably because they know exactly what they're doing to you!) Anyway, when someone takes my cock into their mouth it's obvious that both parties involved expect me to come. Therefore, I expect them to deal with it. 

If it's a chick, and she is sucking my dick as a form of foreplay, and then I come inside her pussy, that's okay. But, if a chick gives me head until I shoot my wad, then she'd better start swallowing. If it's a guy, the second my tool goes in his mouth, it's like pre-ordained, he'd better be planning to swallow. 

As for myself, since I never have touched another guy's penis, and don't plan to start, spitting or swallowing is a moot point.

From KB
I feel that if someone isn't willing to swallow they shouldn't be sucking cock. It's simply the natural order of things: in sexual intercourse, the male needs to be dominant, as he is trying to plant his seed within the female's body. With a blow job, while the orifice is different, the thought remains the same: the guy naturally wants domination, and he expects the person blowing him to submit by taking his load. 

When I am getting a blow job, I expect my load to be swallowed, and when I am giving head, I expect the male that is dominating me at that time to do his damndest to force his spunk down my throat.

From Razer
I honestly feel that being able to come directly and fully in my love's mouth is the only proper end to that kind of love-making. If she has to complete the act with her hand, or between her breasts, there's a hitch in rhythm for me that causes a tiny but noticeable diminishing of my pleasure. I don't like that too much and she senses it too, of course - it's the difference for her between completing her submissive, loving act with excellence and falling just that bit short, which is disappointing for her. My love absolutely adores giving me head, and has a superlative, daresay unique knack for it. "On her knees" is an important place for her in our intimate time together, so we've had many types of experience with it- me occasionally coming in her mouth, but mostly my coming in her hand, or having to enter her vaginally or anally for the big finish.

The domination aspect of forcing her to satisfy me completely is a turn on in itself, but mostly, it's practical - being able to complete the act without having to switch positions or change my mind set for even an instant is the real issue. I'm still training her to take my full orgasm in her mouth with more regularity, but that day will come in good time. She's a good learner and wants to do the best she possibly can. Till then, I'm respectful of her fears and dislikes as always, and we make do.

From D.J.
I'm like a lot of women, the taste of semen is not that great sometimes, but I do love to bring my husband of 28 yrs. to a place he loves to be at and let's face it men go to whores to get this if their partners don't do it for them. I learned from the movie Deep Throat how to bring my husband to come without me tasting it. I slowly go down to the base of his penis and let my throat contract. I hold his penis at the base so that he can't choke me with it. It barely touches the opening of my throat and it goes down. I usually have to swallow between comes. It just takes practice. 

I hated the taste and thought I would never be able to make my husband happy to the max.. Also if a women is not comfortable doing this don't feel bad. There are things all of us don't like and that's ok. Hope I have helped. Love the site.

From Jack
There's little doubt your male friends were a bit friendly after that conversation, Elizabeth. [see Elizabeth's entry below] I'm assuming you and your friends are at least middle age, because the younger set doesn't think swallowing is degrading. They (male or female) either enjoy it, or dislike the taste or consistency, and that's the deciding factor. Also, everyone I know is very cautious about swallowing for very good reasons: AIDS and other STDs. 

The best, and most accepted procedure among those who give a care about themselves and their partners, is to put on a non-lube, taste-free condom. Then have it without worry about disease, or concerns about swallowing or not because it becomes a non-issue. 

Swallowing when not in a long term committed relationship is just plain crazy chance taking. Unless a person is absolutely sure their partner is committed to safe sex and clean when going into the relationship, swallowing a load of possibly infected semen is a really bad idea.

From Elizabeth Young
During a recent discussion with my friends I was surprised to learn that swallowing seemed to be the last taboo in their sex life. For the females it seems that swallowing semen degraded them, that it was something prostitutes and sluts did. For the males a woman who swallowed was a mythical creature that only existed in other men's stories. After all what woman not only swallowed semen but actually enjoyed it? 

After admitting that I swallowed on a regular basis and considered it part of my sex life I was grilled as to why I did it. To me, bringing my boyfriend off in my mouth is, at least to me, a position of power. I don't go down on him to simply get him hard, I do it because the physical act of controlling every aspect of his orgasm gets me off. The fact that I stay for the ending is just my way of showing that I know what makes him hot and am willing to be the aggressor. I have yet to hear any complaints. 

Needless to say the conversation with my friends ended soon after and I could swear that some of my male friends were a bit more friendly after that.

From Rachel
I figure there's too much hassle in spitting so when I know a guy is about to come I make sure the semen goes near the back of my tongue and swallow in one easy clean go! That way you don't taste anything and the guy is chuffed that you're not grossed out by his bodily fluids. Saying that, I do sometimes have a problem doing blow jobs as I have a sensitive gag reflex! oops.

From Love-It-Wet
I love this site because it's filled with real people with real opinions.

Swallow or Spit? I like both but get neither. It's funny that I never cared for coming in a girl's mouth until I was refused. I don't get it. If there's one thing I'm up to in a relationship is doing my best to fulfill my girlfriend's urges. I was so upset when I girl friend told me I should never expect a woman to swallow. Well, why not? I've never met a woman that didn't urge me to do things I didn't want to do when she was menstruating. That's something us guys should not be forced to do. Our pee-pee's just might shrivel up at the sight of all that blood. Oh, and all the precautions needed. And the massage that's not reciprocated? Yeah, that too. Don't ever force a poor little man to do that.

I just don't get it. Unless you're in an open relationship, there's only one person that can fulfill those needs. A guy certainly feels the need to perform or be criticized. Why can't a woman come through for a guy? And why do we have to feel dirty about it? Like we're pigs for even thinking about it. Sure there are limits and everyone's different but it's really not that bad. And there are plenty of work arounds. For instance, If you really can't swallow but don't want to offend by spitting out, then let it dribble down to your chest, or on his. Or if you don't want it in your mouth at all, at least let him come on your mouth. There are so many ways to please someone. You can have limits as long as you can work around them.

I do have to say though that I was impressed (and jealous) by the amount of women who are fine with this and even get off on pleasing her man. I feel that there's nothing more beautiful than my wife when she's getting off. And that shy smile afterwards. Priceless! It makes me feel cheated when I'm with people that don't feel the same way

From Anne
I have always maintained that fellating my husband is a major part of our loving relationship and as such I have always swallowed his semen in thirty years of marriage. I happen to also enjoy providing a 'bj' and it is a matter of pride that in my mouth I can take my husband's penis from a soft, small state to one where it is long and hard, enjoying his ecstasy as I take him through to orgasm. 

Would I swallow another man's semen? Yes, since I'd be very unlikely to provide a bj to a man I and my husband didn't know and surely part of the total experience for me as well as him is swallowing.

From Erin
I am a Japanese wife who has been stereotyped as quiet and conservative. What do you think? My first experience was right after marriage a few years ago. It happened during our vacation driving out of town giving what I heard referred to as "road head". Yes, in the car giving my hubby oral sex. I used to just tease and never finished him off in the car. That one day, he was about to cream and make a mess in the new car. There were no towels or napkins so I let him shoot it in my mouth and licked it clean and swallowed every drop of his cum. It was not bad and my hubby loved it. When I do swallow, the rule is he has to kiss me and get a taste of himself.

From Anonymous
As a man, and being extremely oral, I have to admit that there's nothing more scintillating, more exciting, or ultimately more fulfilling than having a woman bring you to the point of eruption and swallow you whole.

From Anonymous
What a question, hey I like it any way it goes, or is that comes? Let's face it guys, a BJ's an honour whichever way we look at it, and dammit we should be grateful. Sometimes the lady in my life swallows, sometimes on her face, but the best is when she sits up smiling at me like a cat locked in the dairy, then dribbles it on to her tits and rubs it in, telling me it's good for her skin.

Look, it's a rotten job, but someone's gotta do it! And it sure does things for me as I'm up and ready for more like a teenager, and that was longer ago than I care to think about. Girls, ladies, women, we salute and thank you all.

From MeJane
I always ask for a man to tell me before he comes and to not come in my mouth at all. Every man I have ever given head to has respected this request. I just cannot do it. Period. The gush in my mouth makes me heave, so I don't think vomiting on a man's lap would be very sexy, nor do I really want throw up. 

However, I love giving blowjobs and am quite good at it. In fact, every man that I have done it to insists that I give the best head they've ever had, which is a huge compliment to me. I've had men ask me where I learned to give such good head, and I even had one man tell me that I had an "excellent sense of cock". I'm not sure how I acquired my skills other than it just makes sense to me. 

Point is, from my experience, it has never taken away from the experience for a man simply because he doesn't blow his load in my mouth. I think perhaps that the issue of coming in a woman's mouth may have more to do with the implications of power and intimacy rather than ultimate pleasure.

Ladies, if you don't like it, don't do it. If you do, then great. Focus on giving an incredible blowjob and it won't really matter where he comes.

Guys, try not to get so hung up on defining the quality of a blowjob based on whether a woman lets you shoot in her mouth. From what I've heard from many male friends, it's a treat to just find a woman who genuinely loves to do it and does it well.

From Robert
Hoorah for Carol! Why would any woman not swallow? If it tastes bad, then by all means wash it down with something.

Guys... if swallowing isn't a big deal, then it isn't a big deal. If it is a big deal for you, then may I suggest you don't marry someone that doesn't swallow and do every other darn thing on your list. And you do the same for her.

From Anonymous
Mike made me think some. [see Mike's entry below] I hope you give some damn good cunnilingus, and are a loving husband in every other respect as well (do you do your share of the chores)? For while I understand guys need to be loved and respected as much as do women, I don't like guys who seem to expect blowjobs like they think their dick is the sexiest thing in the world. 

Guess what? Real women don't have penis envy. Women are kind of selfish like men. Actually, many (most?) women find penises kind of funny or gross. They're fine when they're being used to pleasure her, but kind of gross when being put down her throat. Of course all this is a generalization, and less true the more comfortable she feels with you. But I feel like men could use some perspective. Penises aren't inherently tasty. Usually a blowjob from a self-secure woman's perspective is a reciprocal kind of action if he's a really nice guy (or maybe if he's really great in bed).

From Billyjoe
I disagree with the whole notion of coming on a girls face being degrading! It was always something I fantasised about and luckily for me my girlfriend is in to it big time! It's a kinky thing and there's nothing wrong with it. Sometimes I'll be fucking her and she'll ask me to come on her face and when I oblige she'll lick my dick clean and then make me lick my cum off her face and feed it to her! This drives me nuts! It's only a bad thing if either party isn't into it!

From Jess
Hey Mike {see Mike's entry below], you should have had a year or so sex with your girl before you asked her to marry you. At least you would have known she's not into blow jobs. At that point you could have decided that you loved her more then you want BJs, or you liked BJs more then you loved her. In any case, you wouldn't have this problem now.

From Mike
Oh my my.....I am middle aged and have a very high sex drive. I love oral but my wife of three years doesn't like it. I have to ask for a blow job, can you imagine? She will not let cum in her mouth. Any advise other than getting it from the maid that comes every Wednesday?

From Tim
I know that military saying, Chris (see Chris' below): "Don't ask your girl to do something you wouldn't be prepared to do yourself.." I think you're using it incorrectly. It would go something like this: don't ask your girl to suck your dick and expect her to swallow, if you're not willing to suck dick and swallow. 

Going down on a woman is very different then going down on a guy: one is outside your mouth, the other is practically down your throat. Big difference in the way fluids flow, the taste, the consistency. Big difference, period. And thank god for it - Viva La Difference.

I'm not willing to suck dick, so I'm thrilled and damn grateful that my girlfriend enjoys giving me a blow job. Doesn't matter worth a damn if she swallows, spits, or just lets my cum shoot elsewhere. It's the enthusiasm that counts.

From Chris
I have been trying to convince my girl to let me come in her mouth for some time now and I think she is slowly starting to come around, God bless her. Since the beginning of our relationship 12 months ago, she has really developed an appetite for giving head. Now just for the next step. I certainly hope once she acquires the taste for it she will want to do it more and more.

Of course these things don't come for free, there is certainly a reciprocal arrangement, but not tit for tat because I love to eat her pussy and lap up her love juices. The thought of going down on her after I come inside her turns me on also. As they say in the military, don't ask your girl to do something you wouldn't be prepared to do yourself.

From Tman
Well as a married (29 years) 53 year old man my wife does neither, spit or swallow. She does give me BJ's anytime I want, I just am not allowed to come in her mouth.

On the other hand when I give a guy a blow job I really enjoy him coming in my mouth.

From Paul
My wife's attitude is that if there are ladies who wish to suck me off sans condoms then so be it, but I'm the only guy (she says) whose cum she will swallow. The other guys have to wear a rubber, and it's not been a problem for her partners, it's her oral technique that takes them to ecstasy and orgasm that matters to them, not shooting their stuff down her throat.

From Susan
Chicky, [see entry below], I tell the girls that anything they are pushed into doing is non-consensual and they should never ever feel obligated to follow through. Respecting their own feelings is the coolest bravest thing they can do, and guys who insist or pressure are not worth dating. And so on. It's the same thing we tell the girls about any sexual situation they find uncomfortable with but feel obligated or pushed into. 

The biggest problem is parents that are not speaking about this stuff with their daughters, and sons. Honest open talk about sex and sexual situations would help enormously. Regular sex talk is hard for many parents, blow jobs and swallowing is damn near impossible to discuss for many. It's truly a pity. 

From Chicky
To Susan [see below], that's very interesting. I'd like to know what you say to the girls. As a freshman in college I had a friend who was "face-raped" like that, and even as a 19 yr-old it was traumatic. I don't mind oral sex, just the double standard. I love (ironic) going to the sections about oral sex for women, and seeing men post that they're "very picky about who they go down on." 

For a while I've had a fantasy that when I'm fooling around with my next date, I push him down there. Not forcefully like some guys do, just an indication, because I'd just like to see his reaction. I wonder how many young guys would be attracted to a woman who was sexually aggressive in seeing herself pleasured, and put his needs second.

From Susan
I'm a counselor at a large high school, and Chicky [see entry below], you are so right about teenage guys. It's shocking and disturbing how many girls I counsel because of that selfish act of pushing a girls head down and coming quickly and copiously in her month, without her consent. Apparently young girls think they have to go down on a guy and swallow because it's expected of them; a requirement. And apparently young guys think BJs are a badge of sexual prowess and pride. Pity how sexually uneducated youth can ruin a good thing.

In The Guide To Getting It On! (a fun, hip, sex guide every teenager should have access to), author Paul Joannides suggests guys who expect BJs as their due, and require their partners to swallow, should try giving head to another guy to experience the effect and the taste. Dipping a finger in one's own cum and tasting it is hardly the same as having an other person's load ejaculated in mouth. The premise is if you're not willing to do the deed, then don't expect someone else to do it. The key words are 'expect' and 'requirement'.

From Anonymous
As a chicky, I'm still a little confused about what is so erotic about having a woman swallow. I don't buy the "it makes me feel accepted" thing. Plenty of physical contact other than BJ does that, so it must go beyond. Is it a "being worshipped" dominance thing? Because a lot of teenage guys, before they learn better, get their first BJ by pushing a girl's head down there, and it's not erotic for the girl. 

I second the original questioner that every guy who gets turned on by watching his girl swallow needs to taste their spunk themselves, just once, to get a more realistic perspective.

From Micky
I've only come in my wife's mouth once and that was more than 25 years ago. She gives great head, but doesn't like the idea of swallowing it at all. I don't mind that she doesn't. I'll lay on my back and she'll kneel beside me stroking my penis while sucking on it. I'll come in her mouth and instead of her swallowing, she lets my cum drool out and down all over her hand, my cock and balls. Watching that is such a turn on that I think I'd rather she didn't swallow it.

Sometimes she'll sit on the edge of the bed while I stand in front of her and again, she'll stroke me while I'm basically fucking her mouth. When I have an orgasm, she lets my cum drool out of her mouth and down onto her tits. I get hard and turned on just thinking about it. 

I don't think I would find it as much as a turn on if she swallowed my cum. I love watching her make me come and seeing my cum on her or me or where ever it lands.

From June
I'm in a loving relationship with my husband of 32 years and have always swallowed. He's circumcised and I believe that helps heaps in my oral technique and in building his enjoyment. We have two positions, one is hubby sitting on our high back cane chair and me between his legs, and the other is a 69 on our bed. I know how much satisfaction I give my husband during head and how much more is his enjoyment when I not only swallow his cum but he sees me taking it all down. 

And, yes, I like the taste which does vary from day to day. Hubby of course returns the favor and in our 69 he's the perfect lover, his teeth and tongue bringing me off, me then biting that lovely spot just behind the penis's head, nearly always resulting in his releasing 'our' cum into my mouth! A lovely moment in our very successful sex life and every drop swallowed.

From Jane
The answer is, it depends. It's whose cum that matters and your emotional connection to that person. I mean, once I was really angry at my lover and just the thought of his orgasm was gross. Even his past orgasms let alone that night. I wouldn't want to have his cum on my skin let alone in me or my mouth.

Yet, when I'm connected and in love, his orgasm means there is no doubt in my mind, there is no fear, no uncertainty, that I have made him happy.

From Richard
It is up to the woman whether she spits or swallows. Have been disappointed over the years on one night stands when they spat. I feel that choice is up to them at that specific time. I am very choosy whom I go down on .

From Micky 
My wife gives great head but won't let me come in her mouth so I'll come across her tits then lick it up myself while I fuck her to an orgasm.

From Angie
In thirty years of marriage I guess I've given my husband a bj at least once a week, sometimes two or three times. Having given head to quite a few men before meeting and marrying hubby I guess I was a committed fan. Although no longer as thick and fulsome today as it was when we first me, spitting out hubby's cum is not an option for me. I enjoy giving head, it's an art form for me, not to be rushed, taken slowly and enjoyed like a fine wine and swallowing hubby's hot, fresh cum is the final, climatic act of the enjoyment. 

On the few occasions I give other men head, my golden rule on swallowing or spitting is simple - if we know the guy, he's one of our close friends, I'll swallow. I don't give head to men I don't know, but if he's a friend of our friends I'll probably take his cum in my mouth but I won't swallow.

From Dussygrl
I usually prefer to spit, because my husband's cum is very thick and kinda bitter. However my Latino lover's is sweet and a nice consistency. So that made it easy to swallow.

From James
Let me tell ya, Walter [see entry below], I think you've got a hell of a lot more problems then asking your wife to swallow your cum. Hard to believe an adulterous wife giving her husband such details about her affair  - I mean honestly, she actually told you she swallowed his cum, when she doesn't care to do the deed with you? Got to wonder about a women spilling details like that to her wronged husband. 

And got to wonder about a husband whose concern is how to ask his cheating wife to swallow his cum like she did her lover. How about the fact that she cheated on you, for chrissake. You can put that behind you, but the thought of her swallowing him and not you is more than you can bare?  How about marriage vows, and all that stuff? And you're worried about swallowing. It boggles the mind. 

From Walter
Ok folks bare with me on this one, its kinda hard topic. Just recently I discovered my in an affair with a co worker and good friend. She had this relationship for about a year but had only met sexually with him on three occasions. Tried intercourse, but she could not do it out of guilt, so she gave head instead. Point is that she swallowed his cum all three times. Without any question she did it and I am sure that she did not show him any disgust or eeewwww gross while doing it.

Now, with that being said, she does not swallow my cum. This has been ok for our nine years of marriage. But after all this, and continuing everyday to try and put this thing behind us, the thought of her swallowing him and not me is just more than I can bare. I have talked to her about it and she said she would do it for me if I wanted her to.

Of course I want her to, but I don't want it to be a hated chore for her when it was much easier for her to do it for another man. I am sure he did not ask her before she gave head if she would swallow him. I need help with this issue, please someone give some advise or thoughts. I am having a difficult time right now.

From Anonymous
I always swallow... I am in a happy and faithful relationship, so there's no reason for me to worry about diseases. We have talked about perusing group experimentation later on, and with a third person I would probably spit or not let him come in my mouth, but I love swallowing. 

From Dave
A non-issue if ever there was one. Who cares. I've had blow jobs from a few different women. Some swallowed, some didn't. By the time two people reach that point in a relationship, there are more important things going on. When my wife sucks my cock I'm usually busy licking her pussy. When she makes me come the last thing I'm concerned with is "swallow or spit".

From Beau
As a guy, my first thought was of what it must be like for her to swallow - physically and emotionally. I know that I like to smell and taste her, and she squirts a lot sometimes, and I enjoy it every time.

She has never spit, but that's because we've both never thought of me coming in her mouth if she wasn't going to swallow! What's the point? If I'm getting close, and she's not in the mood, then I pull out or she pulls me out, and I aim for somewhere else. In the end, it adds to the spontaneity.

I do enjoy when she swallows, and I know that she enjoys it mostly when we're 69ing and I'm deep in her throat, meaning that I come deep enough inside her that she doesn't taste a thing. I don't know how she does this sometimes, especially is she's coming at the same time, but she does and it feels great and I love her for it. The feeling of intimacy is what puts moments like this over the top.

From Sonny
Decisions, decisions I can't say I feel sorry for these guys. Just to get a BJ would be outstanding. Been married 36 year with 1 BJ to remember. You guys have it made and don't realize it. I believe you make a marriage work no matter what. So we have found other interest all these year. On our wedding night my wife told me sex was just as disgusting as she always believed it would be. So, we have had sex only two or three times a year since. So, does she swallow or spit - just be damn glad she will even touch it.

From Mike
My personal feelings on this subject are that it is the woman's choice and it doesn't make any difference to me. I have rarely asked for a BJ, because I believe it is a very personal decision that a woman should make without any pressure from the other person.

Personally, I feel that any woman that puts a penis into her mouth and proceeds to suck and lick and stroke, should be prepared for the results. That said, once the action begins, I usually make a comment like, if you keep doing that you will have a mess on your hands, or something that gives her the opportunity to indicate how she will handle things. I feel that just asking if she is going to swallow, spit or simply stop, sort of breaks the mood.

Now more to my personal feelings. I don't really enjoy coming in someone's mouth. The reason is that when I have an orgasm, I have a full body orgasm. I thrust really hard, I hold/hug my partner to me with all my strength. I can't allow myself to act like that with my dick in their mouth. We both would risk injury. Also, it takes me a really long time to reach orgasm and most women get tired/bored giving head as long as it would take me to come orally. I would rather have a long leisurely love making session with lots of different positions and hopefully orgasms for my lover with my orgasm as the final explosion.

However if she just has to have a mouthful of cum, that is what I will try to give her.

From Jim
I'll be seventy next year and my fiancée who's 58 and I love sex. We get so turned on we don't need any ED meds. We love having oral sex with each other and yes she swallows, which is fair because she get extremely wet and I swallow her juices!

From Baby
I swallow every time, but for some reason it gives me diarrhea later on. I have no idea why.

From Mr. J
Swallowing is a very personal thing for both the guy and the girl. My wonderful wife has just turned into a swallower.

I missed out on years of this though. ( When we first got together, she sucked me off one day and swallowed with no problem, as long as I warned her first. One time after that though, I accidentally didn't warn her (not on purpose, I was young and it snuck up on me). She immediately gagged and cum started dribbling out of her mouth. No more swallowing for me. I thought it was all might fault! What I didn't learn until a few years later though, is that act, of just having a surprise blast of cum hit the back of her throat, and her ensuing gagging conjured up memories of a very unpleasant incident from before we were together. After she told me that, I was devastated and didn't even ask for BJs for a while, because she is an absolute goddess to me and I would never want to even inadvertently hurt her. So guys, be very mindful of how, when, and where you ask your lady to do something like this. You could be treading on very sensitive emotional grounds with her, and not even know it.

Now though, with all such issues resolved, she has turned into the most deliciously horny, bratty cocksucker you can imagine (and yes, she calls herself that). She even says naughty things to me like "Do you have time to give me some deepthroat training" (she wants to be able to take me all the way down her throat), or "I need some protein" She even pouts if I can't cum in her mouth because we've had so much sex that I'm bone dry (pun intended). And she does it all for that mischievous moment when she won't let go of my head and I'm standing or laying there flopping around like a fish because it's so sensitive.

I apologize for the length, but in short guys, take care of your lady the right way, and she'll reward you 1000 times over.

From Sarahlynne
I never swallowed before my current boyfriend because I didn't like the taste. I gave my current man his very first BJ, and I wanted it to be as perfect as possible so I swallowed. His come doesn't taste bad, and I was pleased. However, he comes a lot, and I swallowed once and got a stomachache from it. I haven't swallowed since, but I do let him come in my mouth every time.

If he really wanted me to swallow, I would, but he is much too sweet and respectful to ask. He's just thrilled to get BJs so he doesn't complain.

From Carol
It's so much sexier to me to have a man come in my mouth at the finish of a blowjob than it would be to have him come anywhere else, that I don't really care that I don't particularly crave the taste. If he isn't all the way down my throat at that point I feel like something's missing. 

Also, it's always seemed to me that when the man is in deep enough, it's not even possible to taste his cum. I mean, really; even if semen were the most foul-tasting substance in all the world, how hard is it to keep a beverage close by? Refusing to be all the way there at the finish ... seems to me like something else is going on, but that may be because I have such a strong bias. (I was taught I had to eat food pleasantly, no matter what my opinion of it was, and there's usually a lot more food on a plate than there is cum in a cock and it's harder to lob food all the way down the throat with one movement of a fork, too.)

From Jacob
I'll never forget the first time I went down on a guy. I had no intention of swallowing his cum even though he was my best buddy all through high school, but when I got down between his legs and felt him squirming around like that, and heard him gasping and moaning with such delight, I decided that there was no way I would back off and end the intense sexual pleasure we were both experiencing. So as soon as he started coming, I started swallowing, and I swallowed every drop of it.

It was difficult at first, because I thought I could catch AIDS or some other sort of STD, or maybe I was committing a sin, or maybe guys would brand me a queer (which I guess I was), but the pleasure for both of us was just too great. Besides, after he rested a bit, he rolled me over and did the same thing to me. We got together several times after that until graduation, then we both went off to college and I never saw him again. I'm still healthy and I'm still in the closet, so I guess my worries were unfounded.

From Stacey
Most of the men I have given head to I have spit out. Only because the taste is bleachy or acidic. But the worst taste is nicotine. In fact I busted my husband for sneaking cigarettes this way. 

But the truth is I like giving head. One of the first times I had oral sex was with a 13 yr old boy. I was 16. He tasted fresh and clean. Makes you wonder why all these lady teachers are getting busted for sleeping with their students.

From Anonymous
I think from my wife's intimations, she would prefer it on the face, which would be fine with me. When we 69, she pulls me out after a squirt or so. She lets me come in her mouth, but rarely swallows, though she never hesitates to inform me if she does. I can't complain, though, since she's always willing to wear the high heels I like to see her in.

From Sensualwhispers
For me giving head is the most wonderful thing you can do for your partner. I personally adore going down on my boyfriend. Whether you spit or swallow is a personal choice and mine is definitely swallowing. My partner loves watching me give head and I take my time over it.

Giving head is like a meal, you never rush a good one so why rush giving good head and you wouldn't spit a good meal out. No you would swallow every last drop and then ask for seconds.

From Jen2
Depends on the mood I am in. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. However, keep in mind that if you are not willing to go down on a woman during her period, you should not ask her to swallow - which is probably why my hubby never asks. I just do it if I feel like it at the time.

From Jen
I think it is up to the person and the man should be understanding. Some things we can do and some things we can't. I personally swallow, although I had difficulty the first times I performed oral sex on my husband. I love doing it now, its so sexy and enjoyable for me as a woman.

It really helps to understand the psychological and physical aspects of the act. Once I studied this, the more it really helped me.

I know for some men, its something akin to a power trip or being in control but not all men feel this way. What is not well understood is the primal instinct to 'deposit' semen for procreation purposes and thus a man will prefer intercourse or fellatio to being masturbated. Spitting out his semen for most men is somewhat of a rejection of their ability to procreate. Of course consciously they aren't thinking of primal instincts.

Taste and texture are usually the most mentioned reasons by women not to enjoy it, although some have never tried tasting semen, they work on notions since childhood about 'gross' things and somehow end up relating it to semen. I too thought that way. Once I understood what semen was made of, it didn't seem so gross or dirty, but actually rather healthy. Semen has many functions. 1) It's the transportation system for the sperm to be able to reach the egg. 2) It contains nutrients to feed the sperm and give them the energy to make that long swim. 3) It has anti-toxins to keep the sperm healthy.

Even woman who don't mind the taste or texture may still have to fight their gag reflex. Understanding the mechanics of male sexual arousal and orgasm can greatly help avoid gagging. Again, primal instincts kick in. As a man gets close to orgasm, there's a 'trigger' that you can use to determine when he will ejaculate. This will help immensely knowing when he will ejaculate and you can be ready instead of trying to guess. Since the main purpose of sex is to procreate, it helps that the sperm be as close to the egg as possible so that it has less distance to travel. That means the head of the penis needs to be as close to the uterus as possible. This 'trigger' then is pulled when the foreskin is pulled back to the base of the shaft, i.e. the penis would be fully inserted. 

Watch your partner next time you masturbate him. When he gets really close, pull the foreskin down to the base slightly firm and even hold it there and you will probably bring him over the edge and he'll start ejaculating. Knowing this, you can control his ejaculation and be ready for it. I usually have only the head of his penis in my mouth when I pull the 'trigger' so that his shaft isn't in the back of my throat and makes it much easier for me to swallow while he's still spurting, or even wait until he's through.

Tell your man about this trigger as he may have never even thought about it and may help him to control his instinct to thrust 'inwards', which can really help.

Finally, for me, semen in itself is sexy. Not only do I like my husband coming in my mouth, but I enjoy masturbating him and watching him ejaculate. I've come a long way baby and I'm really glad I have, both for me as well as my husband.

From Poet
Definitely swallow, I don't know but just the thought of spitting kinda ruins the mood for me, although the taste is not always the greatest, it doesn't last forever, However I find the warm feeling of its delivery is awesome, and the whole idea erotic, with an open mind you can drive yourself and your man crazy in this department, I love also to watch a man bring himself to completion and the hand feed me the results. If you're into it, the taste is rarely noticed and the feel is intense.

From Peter
When I was dating my first wife, she was 18 I was 21, she loved to suck my cock but when I came inside her mouth she spit it out. Later that week she was talking to her dad, they talked about everything apparently and she said that she was afraid to swallow my cum. He laughed and said hey it's only 8 calories swallow all you want. 

The next time we were together she told me this and then she sucked my cock and wanted me to warn her when I was going to come. When I told her, she looked up into my eyes as she stroked my prick and as the hot jets shot off in her mouth she very visibly swallowed each shot. It was amazing. The next day she told her dad "hey...last night I swallowed!" He told her something stupid like he was proud of her and laughed.

From Didit_anyway
I have had women that did both. The turn on for me is that she enjoyed what she was doing and what I did for her. One woman would go down on me and do what ever she could to prolong my coming, then finally take it in her mouth, hold it till I was soft then go spit and rinse her mouth out. 

Later when talking she confided that she was afraid that I would not kiss her after if she tasted like cum. I pointed out to her that I would lick and suck her before and after coming in her and if I could even during so she didn't need to worry about me being put off by my own cum. After that she gladly swallowed and even asked for more. She went nuts when I asked her to bring me a mouth full of cum and kiss me as deeply as she could. 

After that I make it a point to tell my woman that my biggest thrill and turn on is for her to enjoy our love making. I have always believed if you please your partner they will please you. So spit, swallow, hold, dribble all works for me as long as she enjoys. I think a lot of women are worried that the "fun" will end once the taste or smell of cum is in their mouth. All I can say to their men is "Shame on you if you don't assure her you love her and what she does for you."

From SouthernDeepImpact
It wouldn't really matter to me which if it weren't for the matter of where I am when I come.

The best solution - selfishly, for me - would require her to swallow because I want to come when I'm fully wrapped and deeply penetrating. Unfortunately for my wife, that means coming when I'm way down her throat where spitting wouldn't really be an option. But that's when I want to come.

As it is, she knows when I'm about to cum and pulls up to catch the load in a certain spot in her mouth where she can easily spit it out. Again, I don't care about the spitting. I care about the "pulling off" right at the most important moment.

This is an impasse for us, so I just get used to it. Any way you look at it, I get robbed. If we have vaginal sex, I have to use a rubber (and feel nothing!), or pull out right at the most important moment! Or, if she sucks me, she still pulls up right at the most important moment, but at least not completely out!

From Ben
I don't like spitting, if you can't swallow, dribble or flow into a towel. One way is to kiss and transfer the load to him.

From Ed
My girlfriend has always swallowed, even the big loads. I also love to masturbate before her open mouth so I can see the jets landing in her mouth. Several times during intercourse she asks to get the sperm in her mouth, what's really turning me on. I think out of 10 cumshots, 6 are oral, 1 is a facial and 3 vaginal. For me, coming in her mouth or giving her a facial is the greatest turn-on.

From Chloe
I don't mind when my husband comes in my mouth, but I have not had the desire to swallow. My husband doesn't mind either way; the way he figures it, as long as I make him come, it doesn't matter what I choose to do with the semen - spit, swallow, or let it shoot out by masturbating him.

I get annoyed with males who insist on a woman swallowing, even when the woman doesn't like it. A woman should never be forced into doing something she doesn't want to do, and to force her into doing something that would make her feel sexually degraded is horrible. Sex, even just oral, should be a pleasurable experience for both.

From Don
My first wife loved to swallow. She gave the best blowjobs ever. I'm 55 years old, and she gave the best of the 30 or so women I've been to bed with. The only problem was that she liked swallowing other men's loads too. I found out she was blowing the guy across the street. 

My second wife doesn't care much for any kind of sex. Not sure why. Has never taken the load and when I once snuck up on her and exploded in her mouth, she gagged and about threw up. Never got a blowjob again to the finish. Now I just let my mistress swallow my cum. She loves it and is nearly as good as my first wife. She takes it all the way in her mouth (I'm hung too) and when I let go, she just lets it pump and pump until all my seed is gone. Whew! She tells me it tastes a little salty but not bad.

From Monica
My hubby was obsessed with watching me swallow his semen. In the beginning years of marriage I tried to just lick the pre cum. But now after 10 years of marriage; he often comes in a glass and I drink the semen from glass in front of him which makes him so excited. I too am very comfortable drinking like this but I am not sure if I would be able to do like this to any guy other than my hubby.

From Subtle Talk
I must admit as a guy, there is nothing better than getting completed in a woman's mouth. However, if a woman doesn't swallow and just lets it drain out as she continues sucking I am all for that and have no room to complain.

I would never at this point in my life be offended if she spit. I think if a woman is willing to put her mouth on my dick and make me come (even if she finishes me off with the use of her hands so that she can watch the load shoot out) I would just enjoy every single second.

Ladies, please do not stop learning how to enjoy what we enjoy you doing. And if you must spit, then by all means, spit!

From Anonymous
Most of the time my girlfriend doesn't finish head all the way until I come. She usually strokes me afterwards and I come all over the place. But sometimes she does finish me off in her mouth and she swallows the semen. She says she doesn't mind the taste (she can tell if I've eaten something sour!) and she usually drinks milk or eats yogurt after to make it go down easier. It's a very loving and intimate thing to give a man head. Swallowing is just more intimate.

From Stan Lee
I found Jen's posting (below) rather interesting and well thought out. My wife swallows and enjoys the emotional aspect of it, the loving and the giving. She says its very intimate and a bond strengthening experience of which I agree when doing the same for her.

Unfortunately most people don't explore the why's of anything let alone why some things turn them on or off as far as sex is concerned. I'm sure this has to do with the fact that sex has been so taboo for so many centuries. Jen's ascertain that it helps to understand the core of human sexuality right down to its primal instincts, would benefit a lot of people.

My wife told me that when she first became sexually active, that she got the impression that guys thought it was their right to ejaculate in a woman's mouth or that they gave it a dirty connotation, which turned her off. I had to agree with her as I've heard men when they see a pretty woman say, I wonder if she swallows? I mean, come on guys, do you think that statement is going to turn her on to you if she heard you say that? And I'm not just talking about young and stupid guys here either.

Rarely my wife will spit out my semen but only because its either been a while since we've had sex or she's prolonged my orgasm long enough that there's a large volume of it and it also is thicker in texture and becomes difficult to swallow. I understand completely and don't feel any rejection, probably because she lets me know why she didn't swallow and she doesn't spit it out with an oh yuk expression on her face and she can't get it out of her mouth fast enough.

From Va Gent
Over the past 25 years, or so, I've had the opportunity to experience fellatio with a few women, the number of which I will keep confidential. Only one was a "spitter" and I must admit, it offended me a bit. However, I take solace in the others that enjoyed my "man relish"...one even called me MOCHA (I drink a lot of coffee). I imagine ones taste does have quite a bit to do with diet, or so I have been told.

As to my preference to a juicy pussy...I'll lap one up every time and enjoy those that gush!

From Michael
I'm a 21 straight male and I have had a girl spit and swallow. I don't like to pull out to come because you lose the feeling. My girlfriend didn't want to swallow are first time but after about 3 times giving me a blow job she tried swallowing. It feels really good to come in a warm mouth. If she doesn't want to swallow then I come on her tits or face.

From Anonymous
Personally, I like to swallow! I find it arousing if I do. I didn't use to swallow or spit.. I thought it was gross until I tried it. My Fiancé loves it when I swallow and seeing him pleased turns me on..... If you don't think you'll like the taste, just let it go to the back of your throat and swallow it. You might taste it a little but not for long.

7/14/07

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