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Swallow or Spit?
From Jessica From Tina From Chris But let me confess I love cum period. I love it down my throat, in my mouth, dripping off my face, splattered on my sex partner, on the sheets etc. Can't get enough of that hot, sticky, manly cream. The most intensely intimate and horny experience for me is sharing the cum, mouth to mouth. Deep kissing with one or both guy's cum oozing around my tongue, lips and teeth...sigh...and then swallowing it together...heaven. From Badtz
From Ceit
I was rather hurt by this behavior, and it nearly ended our relationship. After a rather long, and somewhat loud talk, I found out a past girlfriend had read him the riot act for coming in her mouth! He spent years after that thinking that to come on or in front of a woman was the worst thing he could do. Much less in her mouth! So, if you won't or can't swallow, let him know it's you, not all women! From Kaminari
She says that she doesn't mind cum, but she just doesn't see it as something to drink. But now that I think about it, she doesn't seem to really like cum that much. If I come anywhere on her body, she's always very fast to clean it up, almost as if it were acid. Like I said, I love her more than anything and I'm glad for what she does for me, but I don't think sex should be about a series of "ok, if that's what you want..." reluctant actions. If you are willing to try something, try it. If you don't like it, say so. If it's something you can get used to, that's just another skill under your belt. I love it when someone tries something with me for the first time, especially if it's my first time, too. From Matt
From Lisa
From Dan
From Robert
Now, that said, the way I read the message from Anonymous wasn't that he wanted to persuade his wife to do it, but rather he wanted to help her get past the feeling of semen=phlegm. I felt that he was asking this with the knowledge of his wife. His wife may very well find the idea erotic, but can't bring herself to do it. Perhaps she wants his help in getting past a fear. We shouldn't rush to judgement on such things. From George
My wife dislikes the taste, and I'm happy to warn her before I shoot. If she doesn't like the taste, so be it. I hate the taste of lima beans, and won't eat the damn things for anyone - why should I expect my wife to swallow something she doesn't like? That's selfish, and immature. I'm grateful she enjoys giving me head, such a glorious feeling! From Anonymous
From Spit-man
Anyway, one day I just had it, so after she came, I stood up, went a few steps away and spat in a cup. She thought of me a crazy .. but after I had done it about 4-5 time .... she started to swallow. I'm a very happy man now and she confesses that its not that bad after all. Happy swallowing, you all ! From Franco
From Sarah
And in my recent yrs I have dated quite a few younger guys through work circles and have to say the ones below 28 kinda are quite demanding emptying there stalks in my mouth. From Jane Lane
From Subarcana
From Bob
From Mike
As for swallow or spit, she clarifies my remark by saying that I know perfectly well the guys she regularly sucks off since we swing and each is well known to us, they are all married (most are) to great wives, are honest and healthy, and HIV is of course an important issue for all our friends when giving head. Amongst them are two bi guys and both I and my wife are very cautious before giving them head and swallowing. From Anonymous
From Lou
Then I met the guy who would become hubby #2 and gave him a bj on our second date, swallowed every last drop. Now I go down on him two or three times a week and never in a 100 years would I ever spit his cum out and when the (all too rare) occasion presents itself and I give another guy head the same rule applies - I'd never spit out the guy's cum! From Keri
From Alexandra
From Mike
After applying such fabulous technique she says she isn't going to waste all that tireless professionalism by spitting my spunk out! Cheekily she states that for her she'd only ever spit if she wasn't sure of the provenance of the guy she was sucking off! From Randy
From Razi
That very first guy literally laughed (good naturedly) when I asked oh so eagerly if I could go down on him, like he was rationing chocolate. Thankfully he was a good teacher and a patient guinea pig. It still awes my husband that I can't wait to go down on him, and that the feel of him in my mouth turns me on faster than anything else. More than once, he has pulled me off of him because he wants to get to the old fashioned sex. Not sure if it is the forbidden aspect or the power trip that turns me on so, but I don't really care. The taste, I could take or leave, but I love the feel, and spitting detracts (for me, I don't think he cares one way or the other) from the intimacy of giving pleasure this way. From RealDog
From Blair
From AJ
I would hope hope hope that there would be some enjoyment in the giving, as well. I swallow, and always have, because I know it makes my boyfriend feel desired and sexy, that I want to take him in my mouth. And I want to make him feel this way, the same way he lovingly and willingly fulfills my fantasies. On a more tasteful note, I do not love the taste. I have noticed, however, that smoking pot makes him taste bitter, as opposed to more warm and buttery. (sorry, they were the most accurate adjectives i could think of) An old boyfriend of mine was vegetarian, and his taste was much nicer. But if I were to not feel in the mood to swallow, I would not spit. I think the alternative is definitely to encourage your lover to come on your body, or breasts, if you are female. This is just as enjoyable an ending, and I believe that sex is the best when it is good from beginning to end. From Louise
From Therese
From Sir Kenn
From MH
From Riyaliti
From Diedre
That having been said, I don't necessarily have a need to lick up every ounce of it if it spills, but I naturally would tend to swallow if it is already in my mouth. ...and, yet, I'm so tormented. In this time, I feel like it is so dangerous to be single and like to give head and like to swallow. It makes me sad, and my drive to live disease free is greater than my desire to taste, to swallow. ...and you can see that desire is great. From Raven
All that said, I am definitely not part of a majority and many women don't like it, the actual event or just the taste of the cum. A man should not be insulted if a woman can't swallow, it isn't anything personal against him. Just as some people gag at the taste of asparagus, oysters, etc. (insert any other foods you don't like), cum can be quite distasteful and some people can't handle it. I understand a man's point of view that he has to taste a woman the entire time, I sympathize, but forcing a woman to swallow or guilting her into will only lessen a man's chances of getting more bj's from her. A friend of mine could never handle the taste of cum, she solved this by letting her fellow get right on the verge, then let him finish across her breasts. It isn't quite the same, but strings of pearly cum look good on breasts. From poeticprincess
From Anonymous
From Allan
From Phledge
Now that I've swallowed, and I know that I'm doing it right, and I know that, really, the stuff tastes rather like runny nose, I think I'll spit. From Jolie
As I got older, I was honest about it. And, it really hasn't been a problem with any man I've been with since. They don't come in my mouth, and it's been cool. No problem. My husband is completely understanding, too. From Kayla
From Cynthia Jean
From Whiskers
Although, once after we went out for Japanese food, it did taste a little different, but that could have been because of all the sake I drank!! From Al
Spitting doesn't allow you to do that. It is kind of like eating out a lady. We are exposed to the taste and smell the whole time and if we were turned off by the Taste. Well the dear lady would never get off. I am not saying the taste turns me off. On the contrary it enhances what I am doing and turns me on and spurts me to tongue her more. And adding to this, I love it when she has swallowed my cum and saved some for a kiss as she comes up to me. I enjoy the taste of my cum as well... From Giulia Cosentino
My ex husband had no problem with me spitting, but the recently ex boyfriend has had much to say on the subject and therefore I declare myself a no blow job zone until I get myself sorted out. From Volponia
From Kassandra
From Bad Dog
Most women I have been with seem to enjoy the same thing. If she does it right, spitting, swallowing or pulling out and jerking it off makes no difference. I am too far gone too distinguish. From Ghost Rider I have encountered ladies that liked to give head but wouldn't swallow. It didn't hurt my feelings for her to go spit. What they didn't realize was when they were giving head that they were swallowing the pre-cum that comes out first. It really amazed me that they couldn't bring themselves to down the main course. Also, I never saw them rinse out their mouth after performing the deed and spitting. This is something that never bothered me when I was involved in giving oral sex to a lady. If I could stand to put my mouth on her vagina and make her climax, I damn sure could stand to swallow during and after she climaxed. Ladies, think about this the next time you go to give a guy head because by the time a guy has the main climax you have already swallowed part of his cum.
From EmptyMan Oh, how I long to have a blowjob! I would love to come in her mouth, or I would love to come anywhere else. Spit or swallow is irrelevant when you never get blown. So my message to the guys who are upset that their women don't swallow, would be to just be thankful that you're getting head. From Don When it comes to swallow or spit she always swallows, she has said that why do it if you do not go all the way. I know that she is really into it when she starts with a blowjob and then I enter her pussy and fuck her till blow my wad, then the grand finale is she cleans my dick with her tongue and sucks me limp. I knew there was was a reason that we were meant to be together. I please her and she pleases me From George I was enjoying myself too much to ask where her new fervor came from in case I broke the spell and we'd go back to the bad old days. But I did ask and she eventually told me. Appears she had sucked off a work colleague while they were away at a conference, he'd enjoyed it and she liked it too so thought she'd give me one. She remembered how much I liked it from the early days and was very happy when I liked it just as much 40 years later. Yes, she swallows, says for her it's a big part of the enjoyment, wants to know why though on some nights I produce a lot of cum while other times, next to nothing. Guess that is to do my age (63)? From Sentient You know, those last two lovers were something else. Smart, sensual, confident women. They alone make a great case for reincarnation. Heh - I'd LOVE to come across them again in another lifetime (pun intended). From Janie I love giving head, enjoying swallowing, but for the last five years or so have restricted my taking down a full load to my husband and the few guys we both know very well and trust implicitly. From Petey As soon as you feel that first spasm, start swallowing and make loud gulping noises as you do. You both will note that with each gulp, the suction tightens down a little bit more, heightening the pleasure for both of you. Be sure to keep sucking after it's over, until he goes limp in your mouth. If you're lucky, and if you're good at it, and if he's really horny, he will stay hard in your mouth, and maybe even have a second orgasm. Then when it's over and he finally goes limp and feels soft and mushy in your mouth, raise your head up and let his limp dick slide slowly from your mouth and plop down between his thighs. What follows is up to you! From Ruth If anything, I think KB will find that the female is in control, if that's what a blow job is all about. It isn't of course, it's about a mutual, fabulously unique experience and consuming enjoyment, ecstasy for both provider and receiver and, if the female knows her partner, then far more satisfying to take the ejaculated sperm in the mouth and swallow completely, unless the man wishes to taste his sperm via a french kiss. My husband points out that KB may be getting confused with a mouth fuck. Now that can be very threatening for the female and closer to the domination KB is referring to. From Douglas My ex wife went down on me and mimicked the actions of her vagina, bobbing up and down as I came. It was fantastic and 6 hours later I could still feel it. So don't forget fellers, give the little lady hers first and then receive the rewards. In other words, don't be selfish. From Miss B Yes! I used to love a man's cum. What I loved the most was feeling it erupt into my mouth, and the expression on my man's face when I kept my lips wrapped around him and just swallowed. I loved to please my man, and almost nothing pleased him more than this. Thinking of it now brings a smile to my face. From Eva-Elle I enjoy fellating my husband and trust him implicitly but am very cautious with other men, even the three my husband and I are closest to and they have reluctantly agreed to use condoms when we have sex, oral and otherwise. From Robert in Portland If it's a chick, and she is sucking my dick as a form of foreplay, and then I come inside her pussy, that's okay. But, if a chick gives me head until I shoot my wad, then she'd better start swallowing. If it's a guy, the second my tool goes in his mouth, it's like pre-ordained, he'd better be planning to swallow. As for myself, since I never have touched another guy's penis, and don't plan to start, spitting or swallowing is a moot point. From KB When I am getting a blow job, I expect my load to be swallowed, and when I am giving head, I expect the male that is dominating me at that time to do his damndest to force his spunk down my throat. From Razer The domination aspect of forcing her to satisfy me completely is a turn on in itself, but mostly, it's practical - being able to complete the act without having to switch positions or change my mind set for even an instant is the real issue. I'm still training her to take my full orgasm in her mouth with more regularity, but that day will come in good time. She's a good learner and wants to do the best she possibly can. Till then, I'm respectful of her fears and dislikes as always, and we make do. From D.J. I hated the taste and thought I would never be able to make my husband happy to the max.. Also if a women is not comfortable doing this don't feel bad. There are things all of us don't like and that's ok. Hope I have helped. Love the site. From Jack The best, and most accepted procedure among those who give a care about themselves and their partners, is to put on a non-lube, taste-free condom. Then have it without worry about disease, or concerns about swallowing or not because it becomes a non-issue. Swallowing when not in a long term committed relationship is just plain crazy chance taking. Unless a person is absolutely sure their partner is committed to safe sex and clean when going into the relationship, swallowing a load of possibly infected semen is a really bad idea. From Elizabeth Young After admitting that I swallowed on a regular basis and considered it part of my sex life I was grilled as to why I did it. To me, bringing my boyfriend off in my mouth is, at least to me, a position of power. I don't go down on him to simply get him hard, I do it because the physical act of controlling every aspect of his orgasm gets me off. The fact that I stay for the ending is just my way of showing that I know what makes him hot and am willing to be the aggressor. I have yet to hear any complaints. Needless to say the conversation with my friends ended soon after and I could swear that some of my male friends were a bit more friendly after that. From Rachel From Love-It-Wet Swallow or Spit? I like both but get neither. It's funny that I never cared for coming in a girl's mouth until I was refused. I don't get it. If there's one thing I'm up to in a relationship is doing my best to fulfill my girlfriend's urges. I was so upset when I girl friend told me I should never expect a woman to swallow. Well, why not? I've never met a woman that didn't urge me to do things I didn't want to do when she was menstruating. That's something us guys should not be forced to do. Our pee-pee's just might shrivel up at the sight of all that blood. Oh, and all the precautions needed. And the massage that's not reciprocated? Yeah, that too. Don't ever force a poor little man to do that. I just don't get it. Unless you're in an open relationship, there's only one person that can fulfill those needs. A guy certainly feels the need to perform or be criticized. Why can't a woman come through for a guy? And why do we have to feel dirty about it? Like we're pigs for even thinking about it. Sure there are limits and everyone's different but it's really not that bad. And there are plenty of work arounds. For instance, If you really can't swallow but don't want to offend by spitting out, then let it dribble down to your chest, or on his. Or if you don't want it in your mouth at all, at least let him come on your mouth. There are so many ways to please someone. You can have limits as long as you can work around them. I do have to say though that I was impressed (and jealous) by the amount of women who are fine with this and even get off on pleasing her man. I feel that there's nothing more beautiful than my wife when she's getting off. And that shy smile afterwards. Priceless! It makes me feel cheated when I'm with people that don't feel the same way From Anne Would I swallow another man's semen? Yes, since I'd be very unlikely to provide a bj to a man I and my husband didn't know and surely part of the total experience for me as well as him is swallowing. From Erin From Anonymous From Anonymous Look, it's a rotten job, but someone's gotta do it! And it sure does things for me as I'm up and ready for more like a teenager, and that was longer ago than I care to think about. Girls, ladies, women, we salute and thank you all. From MeJane However, I love giving blowjobs and am quite good at it. In fact, every man that I have done it to insists that I give the best head they've ever had, which is a huge compliment to me. I've had men ask me where I learned to give such good head, and I even had one man tell me that I had an "excellent sense of cock". I'm not sure how I acquired my skills other than it just makes sense to me. Point is, from my experience, it has never taken away from the experience for a man simply because he doesn't blow his load in my mouth. I think perhaps that the issue of coming in a woman's mouth may have more to do with the implications of power and intimacy rather than ultimate pleasure. Ladies, if you don't like it, don't do it. If you do, then great. Focus on giving an incredible blowjob and it won't really matter where he comes. Guys, try not to get so hung up on defining the quality of a blowjob based on whether a woman lets you shoot in her mouth. From what I've heard from many male friends, it's a treat to just find a woman who genuinely loves to do it and does it well. From Robert Guys... if swallowing isn't a big deal, then it isn't a big deal. If it is a big deal for you, then may I suggest you don't marry someone that doesn't swallow and do every other darn thing on your list. And you do the same for her. From Anonymous Guess what? Real women don't have penis envy. Women are kind of selfish like men. Actually, many (most?) women find penises kind of funny or gross. They're fine when they're being used to pleasure her, but kind of gross when being put down her throat. Of course all this is a generalization, and less true the more comfortable she feels with you. But I feel like men could use some perspective. Penises aren't inherently tasty. Usually a blowjob from a self-secure woman's perspective is a reciprocal kind of action if he's a really nice guy (or maybe if he's really great in bed). From Billyjoe From Jess From Mike From Tim Going down on a woman is very different then going down on a guy: one is outside your mouth, the other is practically down your throat. Big difference in the way fluids flow, the taste, the consistency. Big difference, period. And thank god for it - Viva La Difference. I'm not willing to suck dick, so I'm thrilled and damn grateful that my girlfriend enjoys giving me a blow job. Doesn't matter worth a damn if she swallows, spits, or just lets my cum shoot elsewhere. It's the enthusiasm that counts. From Chris Of course these things don't come for free, there is certainly a reciprocal arrangement, but not tit for tat because I love to eat her pussy and lap up her love juices. The thought of going down on her after I come inside her turns me on also. As they say in the military, don't ask your girl to do something you wouldn't be prepared to do yourself. From Tman On the other hand when I give a guy a blow job I really enjoy him coming in my mouth. From Paul From Susan The biggest problem is parents that are not speaking about this stuff with their daughters, and sons. Honest open talk about sex and sexual situations would help enormously. Regular sex talk is hard for many parents, blow jobs and swallowing is damn near impossible to discuss for many. It's truly a pity. From Chicky For a while I've had a fantasy that when I'm fooling around with my next date, I push him down there. Not forcefully like some guys do, just an indication, because I'd just like to see his reaction. I wonder how many young guys would be attracted to a woman who was sexually aggressive in seeing herself pleasured, and put his needs second. From Susan In The Guide To Getting It On! (a fun, hip, sex guide every teenager should have access to), author Paul Joannides suggests guys who expect BJs as their due, and require their partners to swallow, should try giving head to another guy to experience the effect and the taste. Dipping a finger in one's own cum and tasting it is hardly the same as having an other person's load ejaculated in mouth. The premise is if you're not willing to do the deed, then don't expect someone else to do it. The key words are 'expect' and 'requirement'. From Anonymous I second the original questioner that every guy who gets turned on by watching his girl swallow needs to taste their spunk themselves, just once, to get a more realistic perspective. From Micky Sometimes she'll sit on the edge of the bed while I stand in front of her and again, she'll stroke me while I'm basically fucking her mouth. When I have an orgasm, she lets my cum drool out of her mouth and down onto her tits. I get hard and turned on just thinking about it. I don't think I would find it as much as a turn on if she swallowed my cum. I love watching her make me come and seeing my cum on her or me or where ever it lands. From June And, yes, I like the taste which does vary from day to day. Hubby of course returns the favor and in our 69 he's the perfect lover, his teeth and tongue bringing me off, me then biting that lovely spot just behind the penis's head, nearly always resulting in his releasing 'our' cum into my mouth! A lovely moment in our very successful sex life and every drop swallowed. From Jane Yet, when I'm connected and in love, his orgasm means there is no doubt in my mind, there is no fear, no uncertainty, that I have made him happy. From Richard From Micky From Angie On the few occasions I give other men head, my golden rule on swallowing or spitting is simple - if we know the guy, he's one of our close friends, I'll swallow. I don't give head to men I don't know, but if he's a friend of our friends I'll probably take his cum in my mouth but I won't swallow. From Dussygrl From James And got to wonder about a husband whose concern is how to ask his cheating wife to swallow his cum like she did her lover. How about the fact that she cheated on you, for chrissake. You can put that behind you, but the thought of her swallowing him and not you is more than you can bare? How about marriage vows, and all that stuff? And you're worried about swallowing. It boggles the mind. From Walter Now, with that being said, she does not swallow my cum. This has been ok for our nine years of marriage. But after all this, and continuing everyday to try and put this thing behind us, the thought of her swallowing him and not me is just more than I can bare. I have talked to her about it and she said she would do it for me if I wanted her to. Of course I want her to, but I don't want it to be a hated chore for her when it was much easier for her to do it for another man. I am sure he did not ask her before she gave head if she would swallow him. I need help with this issue, please someone give some advise or thoughts. I am having a difficult time right now. From Anonymous From Dave From Beau She has never spit, but that's because we've both never thought of me coming in her mouth if she wasn't going to swallow! What's the point? If I'm getting close, and she's not in the mood, then I pull out or she pulls me out, and I aim for somewhere else. In the end, it adds to the spontaneity. I do enjoy when she swallows, and I know that she enjoys it mostly when we're 69ing and I'm deep in her throat, meaning that I come deep enough inside her that she doesn't taste a thing. I don't know how she does this sometimes, especially is she's coming at the same time, but she does and it feels great and I love her for it. The feeling of intimacy is what puts moments like this over the top. From Sonny From Mike Personally, I feel that any woman that puts a penis into her mouth and proceeds to suck and lick and stroke, should be prepared for the results. That said, once the action begins, I usually make a comment like, if you keep doing that you will have a mess on your hands, or something that gives her the opportunity to indicate how she will handle things. I feel that just asking if she is going to swallow, spit or simply stop, sort of breaks the mood. Now more to my personal feelings. I don't really enjoy coming in someone's mouth. The reason is that when I have an orgasm, I have a full body orgasm. I thrust really hard, I hold/hug my partner to me with all my strength. I can't allow myself to act like that with my dick in their mouth. We both would risk injury. Also, it takes me a really long time to reach orgasm and most women get tired/bored giving head as long as it would take me to come orally. I would rather have a long leisurely love making session with lots of different positions and hopefully orgasms for my lover with my orgasm as the final explosion. However if she just has to have a mouthful of cum, that is what I will try to give her. From Jim From Baby From Mr. J I missed out on years of this though. ( When we first got together, she sucked me off one day and swallowed with no problem, as long as I warned her first. One time after that though, I accidentally didn't warn her (not on purpose, I was young and it snuck up on me). She immediately gagged and cum started dribbling out of her mouth. No more swallowing for me. I thought it was all might fault! What I didn't learn until a few years later though, is that act, of just having a surprise blast of cum hit the back of her throat, and her ensuing gagging conjured up memories of a very unpleasant incident from before we were together. After she told me that, I was devastated and didn't even ask for BJs for a while, because she is an absolute goddess to me and I would never want to even inadvertently hurt her. So guys, be very mindful of how, when, and where you ask your lady to do something like this. You could be treading on very sensitive emotional grounds with her, and not even know it. Now though, with all such issues resolved, she has turned into the most deliciously horny, bratty cocksucker you can imagine (and yes, she calls herself that). She even says naughty things to me like "Do you have time to give me some deepthroat training" (she wants to be able to take me all the way down her throat), or "I need some protein" She even pouts if I can't cum in her mouth because we've had so much sex that I'm bone dry (pun intended). And she does it all for that mischievous moment when she won't let go of my head and I'm standing or laying there flopping around like a fish because it's so sensitive. I apologize for the length, but in short guys, take care of your lady the right way, and she'll reward you 1000 times over. From Sarahlynne If he really wanted me to swallow, I would, but he is much too sweet and respectful to ask. He's just thrilled to get BJs so he doesn't complain. From Carol Also, it's always seemed to me that when the man is in deep enough, it's not even possible to taste his cum. I mean, really; even if semen were the most foul-tasting substance in all the world, how hard is it to keep a beverage close by? Refusing to be all the way there at the finish ... seems to me like something else is going on, but that may be because I have such a strong bias. (I was taught I had to eat food pleasantly, no matter what my opinion of it was, and there's usually a lot more food on a plate than there is cum in a cock and it's harder to lob food all the way down the throat with one movement of a fork, too.) From Jacob It was difficult at first, because I thought I could catch AIDS or some other sort of STD, or maybe I was committing a sin, or maybe guys would brand me a queer (which I guess I was), but the pleasure for both of us was just too great. Besides, after he rested a bit, he rolled me over and did the same thing to me. We got together several times after that until graduation, then we both went off to college and I never saw him again. I'm still healthy and I'm still in the closet, so I guess my worries were unfounded. From Stacey But the truth is I like giving head. One of the first times I had oral sex was with a 13 yr old boy. I was 16. He tasted fresh and clean. Makes you wonder why all these lady teachers are getting busted for sleeping with their students. From Anonymous From Sensualwhispers Giving head is like a meal, you never rush a good one so why rush giving good head and you wouldn't spit a good meal out. No you would swallow every last drop and then ask for seconds. From Jen2 From Jen It really helps to understand the psychological and physical aspects of the act. Once I studied this, the more it really helped me. I know for some men, its something akin to a power trip or being in control but not all men feel this way. What is not well understood is the primal instinct to 'deposit' semen for procreation purposes and thus a man will prefer intercourse or fellatio to being masturbated. Spitting out his semen for most men is somewhat of a rejection of their ability to procreate. Of course consciously they aren't thinking of primal instincts. Taste and texture are usually the most mentioned reasons by women not to enjoy it, although some have never tried tasting semen, they work on notions since childhood about 'gross' things and somehow end up relating it to semen. I too thought that way. Once I understood what semen was made of, it didn't seem so gross or dirty, but actually rather healthy. Semen has many functions. 1) It's the transportation system for the sperm to be able to reach the egg. 2) It contains nutrients to feed the sperm and give them the energy to make that long swim. 3) It has anti-toxins to keep the sperm healthy. Even woman who don't mind the taste or texture may still have to fight their gag reflex. Understanding the mechanics of male sexual arousal and orgasm can greatly help avoid gagging. Again, primal instincts kick in. As a man gets close to orgasm, there's a 'trigger' that you can use to determine when he will ejaculate. This will help immensely knowing when he will ejaculate and you can be ready instead of trying to guess. Since the main purpose of sex is to procreate, it helps that the sperm be as close to the egg as possible so that it has less distance to travel. That means the head of the penis needs to be as close to the uterus as possible. This 'trigger' then is pulled when the foreskin is pulled back to the base of the shaft, i.e. the penis would be fully inserted. Watch your partner next time you masturbate him. When he gets really close, pull the foreskin down to the base slightly firm and even hold it there and you will probably bring him over the edge and he'll start ejaculating. Knowing this, you can control his ejaculation and be ready for it. I usually have only the head of his penis in my mouth when I pull the 'trigger' so that his shaft isn't in the back of my throat and makes it much easier for me to swallow while he's still spurting, or even wait until he's through. Tell your man about this trigger as he may have never even thought about it and may help him to control his instinct to thrust 'inwards', which can really help. Finally, for me, semen in itself is sexy. Not only do I like my husband coming in my mouth, but I enjoy masturbating him and watching him ejaculate. I've come a long way baby and I'm really glad I have, both for me as well as my husband. From Poet From Peter The next time we were together she told me this and then she sucked my cock and wanted me to warn her when I was going to come. When I told her, she looked up into my eyes as she stroked my prick and as the hot jets shot off in her mouth she very visibly swallowed each shot. It was amazing. The next day she told her dad "hey...last night I swallowed!" He told her something stupid like he was proud of her and laughed. From Didit_anyway Later when talking she confided that she was afraid that I would not kiss her after if she tasted like cum. I pointed out to her that I would lick and suck her before and after coming in her and if I could even during so she didn't need to worry about me being put off by my own cum. After that she gladly swallowed and even asked for more. She went nuts when I asked her to bring me a mouth full of cum and kiss me as deeply as she could. After that I make it a point to tell my woman that my biggest thrill and turn on is for her to enjoy our love making. I have always believed if you please your partner they will please you. So spit, swallow, hold, dribble all works for me as long as she enjoys. I think a lot of women are worried that the "fun" will end once the taste or smell of cum is in their mouth. All I can say to their men is "Shame on you if you don't assure her you love her and what she does for you." From SouthernDeepImpact The best solution - selfishly, for me - would require her to swallow because I want to come when I'm fully wrapped and deeply penetrating. Unfortunately for my wife, that means coming when I'm way down her throat where spitting wouldn't really be an option. But that's when I want to come. As it is, she knows when I'm about to cum and pulls up to catch the load in a certain spot in her mouth where she can easily spit it out. Again, I don't care about the spitting. I care about the "pulling off" right at the most important moment. This is an impasse for us, so I just get used to it. Any way you look at it, I get robbed. If we have vaginal sex, I have to use a rubber (and feel nothing!), or pull out right at the most important moment! Or, if she sucks me, she still pulls up right at the most important moment, but at least not completely out! From Ben From Ed From Chloe I get annoyed with males who insist on a woman swallowing, even when the woman doesn't like it. A woman should never be forced into doing something she doesn't want to do, and to force her into doing something that would make her feel sexually degraded is horrible. Sex, even just oral, should be a pleasurable experience for both. From Don My second wife doesn't care much for any kind of sex. Not sure why. Has never taken the load and when I once snuck up on her and exploded in her mouth, she gagged and about threw up. Never got a blowjob again to the finish. Now I just let my mistress swallow my cum. She loves it and is nearly as good as my first wife. She takes it all the way in her mouth (I'm hung too) and when I let go, she just lets it pump and pump until all my seed is gone. Whew! She tells me it tastes a little salty but not bad. From Monica From Subtle Talk I would never at this point in my life be offended if she spit. I think if a woman is willing to put her mouth on my dick and make me come (even if she finishes me off with the use of her hands so that she can watch the load shoot out) I would just enjoy every single second. Ladies, please do not stop learning how to enjoy what we enjoy you doing. And if you must spit, then by all means, spit! From Anonymous From Stan Lee Unfortunately most people don't explore the why's of anything let alone why some things turn them on or off as far as sex is concerned. I'm sure this has to do with the fact that sex has been so taboo for so many centuries. Jen's ascertain that it helps to understand the core of human sexuality right down to its primal instincts, would benefit a lot of people. My wife told me that when she first became sexually active, that she got the impression that guys thought it was their right to ejaculate in a woman's mouth or that they gave it a dirty connotation, which turned her off. I had to agree with her as I've heard men when they see a pretty woman say, I wonder if she swallows? I mean, come on guys, do you think that statement is going to turn her on to you if she heard you say that? And I'm not just talking about young and stupid guys here either. Rarely my wife will spit out my semen but only because its either been a while since we've had sex or she's prolonged my orgasm long enough that there's a large volume of it and it also is thicker in texture and becomes difficult to swallow. I understand completely and don't feel any rejection, probably because she lets me know why she didn't swallow and she doesn't spit it out with an oh yuk expression on her face and she can't get it out of her mouth fast enough. From Va Gent As to my preference to a juicy pussy...I'll lap one up every time and enjoy those that gush! From Michael From Anonymous 7/14/07
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