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From Pilon
I thought only people who didn't have a life would go on line looking for sex until I did it. Then it was like discovering a lost continent of wonder and excitement. In two months I shared orgasms with more people than I could keep track of as we role played fantasies and masturbated. I developed a complete fictional biography that was 180 degrees out from my real life and operated out of that persona. I got to do things I had only dreamed about and they seemed so real. The down side to this is the emotions are real too. The orgasms are real.

The "after" is real. I got attached to people. I found that one "girl" I was having Lesbian sex with was a guy when his/her wife responded to an icq message and wanted to know who the hell I was. The funny thing is I had been cybering for over a month as a 27 year old Lesbian when I am really a happily married 52 year old male heterosexual. I don't know what is all going to come out of this but those two months were filled with some of the most intense and growth filled times of my life. I don't do it anymore.

My wife was kind of okay with it but she doesn't know how intense it was getting. If she did it would make her worry. I'm still in awe of the power of mere words to build a reality that we can actually live in. A couple of my cyber friends were talking about constructing a cyber Lesbian Commune. Voice and webcams are going to change the possibilities for taking on new identities but I have to say it was amazing fun while it lasted.

From Alan
My first experience was with a young woman in Kansas. We started out just basic letter-writing, chit-chat, and with a few turns of innuendo, we decided to co-write an erotic story to each other. The only stipulation was we had to explicitly tell what each chapter was doing to each of us. The chapters got incredible. I became conditioned to disrobe whenever I saw her name on my screen. I told her as such. When we graduated to ICQ, I nearly ruined a keyboard...the response...her descriptions were so immediate, and I to she, she took to shucking her panties, wearing a robe..we even professed love for each other. Then proceeded to try and analyze what happened...such a slippery thing to grasp. She has since married. I miss her.

From Tabitha
I have a very good friend of mine, a sweetheart of a man who is a gentleman in every sense of the word. Problem is, he is not very attractive, and most women avoid him before they even know how wonderful he is. So he has turned to online relationships to fulfill the void of a relationship in his life. Being his best friend, I can honestly say that online, he has the chance to show his true self first and foremost, and satisfy all the desires that real-life encounters never would. I'm sure one day he'll meet a special lady who will be his partner, but for now online relationships has given him the kind of sex-and-love life he's wanted all along

From Carol
Cybersex is masturbation. I thought it wasn't. Then, after more than a year of blind-in-lust typing, and phone-based scenes (I bought a headset so I could have both hands free!), and getting my tongue pierced because he wanted me to, and having him tell me he wanted more, more, more of the porn stories I write because they were so good, I flew from Seattle to Toronto (he seemed oddly reluctant to meet and fended me off for a long time but I finally got him to say yes) and found ... a fantasist. 

He didn't seem to find me personally sexy (that's how it goes; it wasn't his "fault"). And he wasn't really interested in doing many of the things he'd talked about (I'd been giving myself enemas for a YEAR in obedience to his instructions and only in person did I hear him say that he wasn't "all that interested" in anal sex! I couldn't believe my ears and that was his fault. I was out there for a week and he spent more of his time typing on his computer when I was in the room than getting down to all the BDSM I'd flown out there for. It was >>horrible<< for both of us.

If you're experiencing something along the lines of "I've never been able to communicate so deeply with anyone ever before," with an online buddy, log off and go communicate as deeply as you can with somebody into whose eyes you can look. You won't believe me but you can't say you weren't told you could be imagining 90% of everything that seems to be happening between you. I was

From Ken and Judie
We are a mature, middle aged couple that met on the Internet and have fallen in love over the last couple of months. We have had fantastic cybersex that we never believed possible. We are now having cybersex every night. When we masturbate we talk to each other, and discuss what we are doing, how we are doing it, and what our feelings are. We both find that when we masturbate together it is much more enjoyable than when we do it alone. We enjoy it so much, that we plan to use our personal computers to do cybersex from two different rooms of our house after we are married, just for old time's sake.

We find that not being able to actually touch each other, we talk in more detail about things we probably might not discuss if we were together. If we were in each other's arms, we would know what the other person is doing, but because we are 600 miles apart, we talk about what we are doing instead. We share pictures taken with the digital camera and use microphones to talk to each other. We look at the pictures while we masterbate and describe how it makes us feel. We find this to be some of the best sex either of us have ever had and highly recommend it to others.

From Anonymous
I have just recently emerged, not unscathed, from my first and only cyber relationship. We met on an erotic story site and within two private messages, I swear, you could actually hear the "click." We were immediately involved in an incredibly hot, intense sexual relationship - e-mails and instant messaging, and photo exchanges. I'm sure we would have eventually gotten to the phone as well.

This relationship became a huge part of my life - the high that I got when I got an e-mail from him was just incredible. The sex was unbelievable - we were so compatible, everything he wanted to do, I wanted to do and vice versa. And, yes, we talked too - we were really getting to know one another - I felt as though I could say anything to him without fear of judgement or ridicule. I had wonderful fantasies of actually meeting him someday, but I knew they would always remain fantasies - I'm married and intending to stay that way, besides the distance of over 1,000 miles separating us.

Two weeks ago, he e-mailed me to say that he was talking with an old girlfriend and it looked as though they were going to get back together, so he had to discontinue the sexual part of our relationship (we still talk, but only about "safe" subjects). Well, to put it mildly, I was absolutely devastated and I'm still pretty much a mess inside about it. The first week was a nightmare - I couldn't eat and I couldn't sleep even though I was exhausted from the stress of "keeping up appearances", and I cried continuously when I was alone.

We had only been together for 6 weeks, believe it or not, but the relationship literally became the most important thing in my life, and then I had it ripped out from underneath me. It was awful - it's still awful - I've never missed anything or anyone so much in my whole life. It's incredibly hard to talk to him now that I can't say what I really feel any more, but I am unable, at this point anyway, to give him up. I continue to hope that he and his girlfriend decide not to pursue a reconciliation and that he will come back to me, because (I am ashamed to say) I would resume our relationship in a second.

So I guess this is a tale of caution to others engaged in a cyber relationship. They are very, very real and can progress so quickly to such a high level of intensity. I'm an over 40 adult and told myself I was going into this with my eyes wide open - until I actually got blind-sided.

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