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How many men have a craving to be penetrated, but can't bring themselves to ask for it? I'm not thinking of gay men here, but straight men. Penetration is, semiotically, so full of meaning in most cultures. It is seen as an act of domination. There is also a perception that to penetrate someone is to feminize them. All this might make it very hard for a man to seek out the experience of being penetrated, for fear of all the implications. Anyone have any experiences on this?  remittance girl

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From WD
Anal play and penetration lie at the center of my sexuality. Ever since I started masturbating as an adolescent, I have fingered my anus and inserted objects. That desire was strengthened by my college girlfriend, who was older than me and rather dominating. Many times when I wanted to have intercourse she would insist instead on penetrating me. She would say, “Assume the position,” and I would face down naked on the bed as she lubricated my hole and fingered me while rubbing her mons against the back of her hand. She would come first, and when it was my turn, the orgasms were so intense I would shout in ecstasy. That relationship, coming as it did when I was so young, gave me a strong and permanent anal fetish.

From John Filip
When I was a boy I was given enemas to keep my bowels open. I never let on that I found it enjoyable. Later on I built a tree house and found some items that would work for anal toys. I kept these in the tree house and one day a girl climbed up and caught me having fun. she began helping me with the anal penetration and it was very enjoyable until her uncle came up there and started using his hard penis inside me. From that time on I have been bisexual and open to about any kind of sex. Swinging is now a big part of my life. I wear a butt plug as much as possible and sleep with one at night.

From Ken B.
I was married and had never had anything up my anus but, a dr.'s finger during a physical. My wife had the box the Joy of Sex and I read that some men liked to have a finger on the prostate during a blow/hand job.   Well the wife was giving me oral one day and we had talked about it and as I was about to come she put her finger in my anus and hit my prostate and I had an orgasm like NEVER before. Not only in intensity but, the amount of cum. Every now and then we do it and I usually get the same result.  

I have NO interest in anything bigger than a finger though. She likes a finger but, that's about it. We did anal a few times but, she was not a big fan. Plus one time my penis had a mess on it and that was a big turnoff to both of us.

From Anonyjous
Like that one man, I'm in my 80s too, would love to have sex - meaning at my age I would be penetrated. [see Anonymous entry below] I too have used dildoes and liked it but it's not the real thing. The problem is finding some one who would do an older guy and be acceptable to the old guy as a sex partner. Anyone with suggestions?

From Anonymous
All my life I was as the penetrator sex partner. But now well into my 80s and a widower me penetrating is next to impossible unless it would when I wake up with morning wood. However, I find anal penetration enjoyable with dildoes and only wish I could find a top who would do an old man with the real things.

From Pluggedman
I'm a gay man, but I am not surprised at the number of straight men who are unabashedly into anal sex for themselves. I've encountered this in many of the forums I read. Perhaps the only disturbing trend is when some men indicate that they are not gay, have no interest in men, and don't feel they should be labeled even a little bit gay because they're into anal sex, dildos, strapons and butt plugs. Is it really necessary to disavow gay men and being gay to make a point?

Straight guys, there's no shame in being into anal. It's great for the prostate, and it's actually good for curing hemorrhoids, especially if you're sedentary, like me. I find a butt plug, kept in place for hours at a time helps work those anal muscles, keep blood flow to the anus, and get rid of the roids. I've only been plugging for about six months on a regular basis, and in that time, my anus is healthy and happy and hungry for a plug. I once went 20 days with my plug in place (with time out only for bathroom breaks, cleanup and re-lubing. I am plugged for most of the day and night.

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