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The Good, Bad and Ugly of Oral Sex for Him

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From Kim
Another thing that I've found that some men like is for me to run the tip of my tongue along the bottom of his penis from the base to the tip. I lift his dick up with my fingers very gently, then I start with the tip of my tongue from the base and run it up slowly in a line to the head. My guy liked for me to flicker my tongue as I moved toward his head, then swirl my tongue right in that little v where the shaft connects to the head. Then I'd take the head in my mouth and suck on it, then lick a little, then suck.

Then I'd take his whole dick in my mouth, and suck as I'd move my mouth up and down, making sure to keep it nice and slick with my saliva. This drove my man wild, and he never missed a chance to come in my mouth, straight down my throat, and I swallowed it all with nasty glee.

While I was doing this, he liked to watch my face, and my eyes and lips in particular. He found it an incredible turn-on for me to act like a porn queen in a movie, which I did with gusto. Combined with this sort of playacting was my genuine enthusiasm and desire to give my guy a rockin' blow job, and I especially loved for him to moan and beg for more. This told me he was having as much fun as I was.

We didn't stay together, but he was the first person I really enjoyed sucking. Awhile later, when I was with a new man, my skills learned from that incredible guy paid off. After he was treated to a similar blow job, he raised his head and complimented me with, "Wow! You suck a mean cock!"

From Reader 53
My wife and I have had some absolutely mind blowing oral sex-a-thons...They started when we were each living on opposite coasts (before marriage) and we had hours of incredible phone sex...We'd cook up these smoking hot scenarios with one hand on the phone and the other working ourselves into a lather...finally when we got together I found my future wife far more adventurous than I ever dreamed possible...she would gladly have me come in her mouth, sometimes I'd masturbate and she'd place her soft, warm mouth over my cock to take it all in, and best of all, she'd hold onto my cum and wait for me to plant a big wide open, wet kiss on her and we'd swap! Heaven! Just the other night I told her how hot I was for her and next thing I knew there we were, two 50 yr olds fucking and sucking on the dining room floor! Love that girl!

From Anonymous
I love prolonging my husband's orgasm. When I'm giving him head, I'll build him up to the point of coming at least 2 or 3 times before I finally let him explode. I get so wet when I look at him and see all his muscles tense, quivering, and dripping with sweat. Right when I can sense he's coming, I'll back off and slow down a bit. I slide slowly up and down his cock head, and by the way his legs quiver with ecstasy I can tell all the nerve endings are just on fire. When he can stand it no longer, I let him come. He blows the most intense load. Afterwards he lay there, panting.

From Anonymous
I've been with my boyfriend for a while, and our sex life couldn't possibly be better. Except for one small detail I've never gone down on him. I know he wants me to, and I promise I would but I'm just scared that I might not measure up to his ex-girlfriends. I've only done it once and it was years ago to a summer fling. Can someone tell me EXACTLY what to do from start to finish? Thanks! I would really appreciate it and I'm sure my boyfriend will too.

Note: Apparently  you missed all the juicy info throughout this page, especially towards the end. Read and learn - and try what appeals to you.

From Jack
I haven't had many different partners, but more or less there hasn't been a great deal of difference, except for one girl that blew my mind. I'm quite well endowed, with wide girth, and for me the visual effect of seeing the pretty face of my partner take in first my head and then slowly go up and down my shaft is what drives me wild. 

I like the feeling of being pulsating hard while the girl uses only her mouth and places her hands on my hips. If I can be standing up while she is kneeling and in front of a mirror then I'm in ecstasy! I don't like the feeling of teeth and I've yet to find a girl that deep throats me or swallows my cum. The best I ever received was from a girl from Uruguay that went quite deep. Slow and deep and being able to watch it all is what I really like. I'm not bothered about being licked, or having my balls sucked.

From Mike
This is about the finest b/j I ever had the privilege to receive. My lover at the time had been together long enough that we could say or do just about anything without worrying what the other thought. One day, while exploring the many variations of oral pleasure, I experienced a pleasure that to this day has never been duplicated.

She took my soft penis in her mouth and applied just enough suction to keep it there. Then she began to push it around with her tongue like it was a piece of candy she was trying to dissolve. No in and out, no hard suction, just sort of swirling it about. Of course it didn't take long for it to begin to get hard. It was then that she stopped, took it out and began to lick and tease my balls. Now having my balls licked feels nice but for me, that's about the extent of it. It doesn't make or keep me hard.

As I began to loose my erection, I asked for more attention. Only to be told to wait. When I was soft again, the fun started again. This time she placed just the tip to her wet lips and in an instant she sucked me it as you would a strand of spaghetti. The sensation was fantastic. I had never felt anything like it. Then she pushed me out of her mouth in much the same manner. Unbelievable! She would continue this until I got too hard for it to work properly.

Back to licking my balls until I was soft again. Then repeat the same thing all over again. When she finally brought me off I thought I was going to turn inside out. I never asked where she learned that, but I owe a great debt to whoever they are.

From Loves-sucking-cocks
I would like to hear more from you men about what kind of oral attention your cock really enjoys. Us woman can go on all day about the great things we think we do for our lovers, but it's much more interesting, not to mention exciting, to me to hear what you want a woman to do to you. Does having your whole penis taken into a woman's mouth and throat give you more of a thrill than her sucking on the head of your cock with her hand stroking your shaft?

When I'm really turned on I like the feeling of the cock head in my throat, especially if a man is masturbating me at the same time. When I start to have a clitoral orgasm my throat starts having contractions on the man's cock which I've found tends to make a guy come - sometimes too soon for me unfortunate!

I'd like to hear too how sensitive your balls are, and what makes them feel good. I've noticed too that there seems to be a part of the shaft at the base of the cock, almost underneath the balls, that is thicker than the rest of the shaft. If I suck deeply there pushing back the man's balls with my lips, it seems like I can suck extra blood into the man's penis making him harder. Almost as if this area is a pump.

I especially love uncircumcised men and slowly sucking their cockheads out of the velvety soft foreskins. For me this is very very exciting. I have noticed that uncut men are more sensitive and want much gentler sucking. This works well for me too in the way that we give each other the kind of strokes we are hoping to receive, because the clitoris is also more sensitive, so uncircumcised men tend to suck more gently when giving woman oral sex.

Let's hear the men speak. Tell us about your equipment and what it likes!

From Anonymous
I like to start with just a few light tongue kisses, because my boyfriend says that kissing him turns him on more than anything. We are always laying on the bed or the floor and I'll put him on his back. I slowly move away from him mouth and press the soft spot just behind his earlobe with my tongue. As I feel him getting hard against my body I slowly begin to explore the rest of his body with my tongue. My favorite spot that gives him chills is licking the creases that go from the mid-abdomen to the groin.

I play with the head a little and gently nibble while his cock gets harder and harder. I massage his balls and the section of skin behind them. I then lick under and all over his member, trace veins around the base, and just play a little. As long as you are having fun it usually feels good for him. I haven't yet tried putting his balls in my mouth but that is my next step and I hope I blow his mind as much as you all blow your man's mind. The last time that I just played and explored with his cock I was met with the response "Have you been practicing" I found it kind of humorous.

From R
I'm a thirty something female yet its been so long since I've given a blowjob - I'm not even sure I remember how! All of your input is great. It used to be hard for me to swallow, although I've always wanted to - it was a real turn on for me. I've never tried to insert a finger into his ass, but I'd like to try that too.

From Rebecca
I have to say that I love sucking my hubby's cock. I get wet just thinking about it. I love sneaking under the duvet and taking him in my mouth when he's asleep. I lick and suck at him, feel him grow hard in my mouth, hear his moans as he wakes up to find me naked at his cock.

I alternate between sucking, licking, nibbling his cock and rubbing it all over my face and my tits...It makes me feel so alive when I rub myself all over his wet cock. Then I go back to sucking him, taking him deep in my mouth, my eyes meeting his, watching his expressions as I suck his balls and lick them gently while my hands stroke around the base of his dick. My tongue works its way up to the tip of his penis and I take him in my mouth, swirling him around from side to side - he loves when the tip of his dick is pushing against the soft inside of my cheek. I keep telling him how much I love to suck him and taste him, how wet I am, how my pussy is contracting with the pleasure of him in my mouth. I love when he turns me around and pins me down by sitting on me and putting his cock in my mouth rides me.

I love him to cum all over my tits, in my mouth...I don't care. I love him...

From Lloyd
As a young 18 year old sailor back in 1961, one evening after a Saturday night movie alone, I walked to the nearby bus stop. While I was waiting for a bus back to the base, a young nice looking man stop and asked if I wanted a ride to the base. During small talk, he asked if I would like to go over to his house for a drink, of course being under age and not being able to buy alcohol, I accepted his invitation.

After several drinks, his roommate came home and went directly to his room, after a few minutes he came back into the living room wearing only a robe and sat down on the couch next to me. Before I knew it, for what reason I don't know, I leaned over and started sucking on his massive 10" cock. What was so strange about this is that I had never had sex with a man before, but it seemed to be the natural thing to do and I really sucked his wonderful dick good and long until he let go gobs of hot cum in my mouth which I swallowed every last drop.

During all of this, Bob just sat back and watched without during anything. After that night I made many visits back to their home and sucked off Tommy almost every night for the next three glorious weeks until he shipped out. During that Time I enjoyed and learned everything about sucking his lovely cock and pleasing his every wish. I never saw Tommy again and soon married the girl of my dreams.

After all of these years, I still can close my eyes and remember how his cock felt in my mouth and how his cum tasted, but never again have I had sex with another man. I think about it a lot but I could not take a chance of my wife ever finding out about my early homosexual feelings. But if anything should ever happen to her, I think I would again try finding a man that I could enjoy giving head to.

From Victor
We are in our sixties and the last time my wife gave me an enjoyable and memorable blow job was a good ten years ago despite subsequent repeated requests for some good old fashioned head. Then we went on vacation recently where, out of the blue, she gave me a bj! It was truly fabulous and she'd lost none of her great oral technique.

Quizzing her on why she'd changed her mind it transpires that when she went away with her club on a weekend conference she gave one of her fellow club members (a younger guy) a bj! She said she enjoyed being in control and swallowing his cum was a major part of the enjoyment.

I'm not complaining, I enjoy my wife going down on me two or three times a week compared to the barren ten years or so that went before. And if she is giving the guy at her club an occasional bj as well I tell myself I shouldn't make a big deal about it, given the new dimension my wife's new found love of oral has brought to our own sex life.

From Mansa
I love sucking on my husbands juicy cock. At night when we go to bed, he usually sits in bed reading novel. At that time, I dive inside the covers and rest my head on his thigh. I undo his PJs and take his cock out of underwear and place it in my warm mouth. Then he gently turns on to his side, with his cock still in my mouth and I suck it as long as he is still reading. He usually reaches orgasm in the first few minutes and I wipe his cum and resume sucking.

After 45 minutes or so , he stops reading and fucks my mouth. I am then satisfied and we go to sleep with his warm cock in my mouth. He has purchased a special sling from somewhere which keeps my head in place during sleep.

From my two cents worth from a woman
I enjoy sex and I love being able to bring my man so much pleasure. Being very short and with a very tall man, I find that my lying on my back with my head slightly hanging off the edge and him standing over my face, facing my pussy. It gives me a better angle for deep throating. It also gives him easy access to my tits and pussy or he can watch me play with myself while he is fucking my mouth. With my face being in his groin it is easy to lick his balls and ass because he standing over me.

Enjoying what you are doing is the key and paying attention to your lovers reactions. Put your lover's wants above your own and it will come back to you.

From Anonymous
I'm legally blind without very thick glasses and as a result, have a very heightened sense of smell, taste, and touch. I don't learn a lover by looking at him. I learn him by loving him.

That first blowjob is an act of learning each other. The nails dragged lightly over the flanks and belly--does he shudder, gasp, jerk back, moan? What do his hips do?

You take a man in your mouth only after you have thoroughly explored his body with all your senses, even my minimal sight. His smell, the lay of his muscles, texture of his skin, responses, the sounds he makes, how his scent changes.

And, like any object you are exploring for the first time, you certainly don't just swallow it down. What are his sensitivities a slow flicker of partially flattened tongue over the frenulum? Gentle scrubbing down the back or front of the shaft? Swirling with a small amount of friction up the shaft to finish gently caressing the head? It depends--and your partner is going to tell you.

Don't get totally focused on that penis in your face--how does he react to gentle or firm stroking or even flickering strokes down the central area between the penis and the balls. Stroke and massage his thighs, his buttocks, his belly...what touch does he like? How does he react?

The tissue in the groin is exquisitely sensitive, as is the tissue running in a 'seam' from behind the scrotum to the start of the anal ring. Tongue gently here, more firmly back to front, nip lightly at the skin of the scrotum and then cover gently with your lips and a gentle tongue. Some men who trust enjoy having their testicles slowly and gently brought into your mouth as your tongue swirls around the 'egg'. Some men like a lightly lubricated finger inserted in the anus...gentle, always gentle, when ready that tight rosebud will open to you...finger or tongue is your choice.

And, as you feel his scrotum draw up and his hips begin to thrust, and him begin to gasp and moan, take him again gently in your mouth and slowly, so slowly work your way down the shaft. Use the tongue soft and flattened, pointed and hard, remember the rim of the head, and now...now that he's ready and lost his inhibitions, slowly draw him into your mouth--let your tongue drag as you draw away from him until the head is barely touching your lips. Flick the opening of the urethra, run your tongue more firmly around the base of shaft, and now apply some suction with continuing to use your tongue...work deeper and deeper with his movements--will be moving. Move your finger if used gently in and out of his anus, hooking toward the front to massage the prostate.

When he comes it may seem convulsive, and it may seem to go on for a long, long time. Take him deeper as he comes. He may be very shaky, almost in shock when finished. Lay him back and very gently lick over the 'wet' area...pull the covers up to his chest. Go to the bathroom and bring back a warm, wrung, out towel and a tall glass of water. He'll want to clean up, and his mouth will be dry from his breathing.

This isn't the 'common' blowjob...do not attempt this kneeling before your partner in the shower, or in a vehicle. Attempt this in a situation where both of you are safe. It is not at all uncommon for the recipient's knees to buckle at or shortly before climax, some men convulse.

Everything here should work for male or female 'givers' though I'm female.

...not believing I'm writing this...

From Emma
One of my ex boyfriends used to get a thrill by doing the deep throat thing. He was always into experimenting and pushing boundaries and it was the deep throat thing that really got him going.

Typical scenario, he would be standing, I would be either kneeling or more usual squatting. Most of the time he wanted to do it while I was clothed, so sometimes this was practiced during the day, all odd times really. This was never really done in middle of the room, always a corner or back close against a wall to more emphasize the dominance.

He had a big penis, I would open wide and in he would insert, he would get it deep back off the throat, pull it out, I would gulp splutter gag on in. Would always get tears running from my eyes. True fact that he got the biggest erections from doing it, and would need relief after and if lucky I didn't have to wash my hair after.

From M
I do not know what it is about my wife, but she will very rarely even put her mouth near my cock, let alone suck me. I give her head for hours, but seem to get nothing in return. Have any other guys got this problem?

From Jef
I like a woman to suck it real hard, when her mouth pulls off the end you can see she has given it another 1/2 inch.

From Kalliannassa
Ok ladies, think about it, you hate when the guy won't eat you or does the, well, if you want like that and I get laid later thing. It took me about a year to get used to the idea, but once I started to enjoy it, wow. I got to a point that I would have to tie my boy down to give a blow job I could enjoy. While I loved having his hands in my hair, and knowing exactly how much he loved it, it was always too quick for me.

 I told a male friend once that a good blow job should start at the lips go to the knees and then settle down to business, and he thought that was lovely. I love to start just behind the balls with the tip of my tongue and draw a straight line up the bottom to the tip. Then kissing and licking interesting patterns, and when he least expects it, take him completely inside my mouth, as deep as I possibly can.

Not the biggest fan of him coming in my mouth, but have no problem with him coming wherever else he wants. Honestly my favorite thing is to have him tied down, bring him right to the edge a couple of times, and then let him loose to have his way with me..... purrrrrrrrrrrrrr

From Edwin
I've never experienced the mind-boggling blowjobs some of these guys have. I can only imagine. But, fellas, any woman who is not only beautiful, but willingly, lovingly swallows your ecstatic eruption of cumload every time she sucks you off is a keeper forever and deserves to be treated like a queen. Nothing less. Do yourself and her a favor. Love, cherish and appreciate them to death. You all are truly blessed.

From Allie
There's nothing in this world more exciting to me than meeting a cock for the first time. Each one has a different personality.

Now, I focus on my man's cock. I lick it from the base to the tip, then run my tongue all around the head, slowly, as if I were devouring wayward drips from a melting snow cone. I tease the special area on the underside, the little nerve center that seems to drive most men wild.

After a little more teasing, I bring the entire length into my mouth until I can feel the tip hammering against the back of my throat, and have at it!

From LeLane
I prefer to tease my man. When giving him head I know I have this power over him that no one has. I know I control everything he wants at this stage and I make it know. I bring him to the point of no return many times and stop and make him beg for it or just plain say, no, lets do something else now. He knows I have the power and he begs me.

I sometimes use his cock as a gear stick, pretending to change gears and makes noises. Sometimes its a joystick for spaces invaders with the eye the trigger button. pow pow pow... other times its a microphone for my stand up comedy act, but its rude to talk with your mouth full. I like to bring games and childish fun into the bed room when I am giving head to make things not so serious and bring more of a sense of fun that just orgasm.

From LeAnn
Orally gratifying a man is one of the hottest most exciting things for me. I have to agree with Cathy on a number of things including finishing the job for him. However I prefer that we be laying in the bed, he propped up with pillows. We start with kissing and then I lick my way down his neck and chest stopping to flick my tongue against those masculine nipples. Sliding down in the bed beside him lick all the way down to the base of his cock.

I prefer to lay to the side of the man on my chest but have my pelvis pressed against his leg. This position is perfect because I get so excited when the man gets aroused that I can grind my pussy against his leg while I suck his cock.

I love to suck a man off until he comes in my mouth, I've heard so many women say they cant handle that, but it is such a turn on to take them all the way to orgasm. To hear him moan and see him clutch the sheets of the bed, it gets me worked up just thinking about it.

From Richard
Wow, Cathy [please read Cathy's entry, below]. I wish I had read your excellent advice when I was still going out with my last girlfriend so I could show it to her - "he has to regroup so to speak" - or in my case lose my erection entirely. She couldn't fathom that if you're going to go 90% of the distance, you should finish the race, so to speak.

I fifth and sixth the kissing part too - my first lover would actually hold the cum in her mouth and we would swap it back and forth before both swallowing it.

Not mentioned is the "ice cube" blowjob, also a specialty of my first lover (who was an absolutely excellent cocksucker, by the way). She would put a couple of ice cubes in her mouth and the sensation of hot and cold blew my mind.

From Cathy
First, taking a man into your warm, wet, hungry mouth should be done with generosity, a giving spirit, and eagerness. You don't want to approach it like it's something dirty that you are doing just to satisfy him. It should be done willingly, lovingly, and for yourself as much as him.

I love to be able to take a soft, limp, beautiful cock into my mouth, get the whole thing in there. My lips caressing along the base of it, and feel it grow in my mouth as I start to suck lightly on the way up. The skin is like nowhere else on a man's body. When it's soft, the skin is somewhat wrinkled, yet still baby soft. To feel it growing at your touch, is a mind blowing experience to me. To know that your hand, or your mouth is causing this wonderful reaction is marvelous.

I prefer to do it sitting on the edge of the bed , him standing in front of me. Taking him in my soft, preferably warm hands, lifting him to my mouth. I try to slide my hands along his inner thighs first, spreading them a little bit apart. Hopefully, I will drive him right up the wall, and he will need that wider stance for balance.

And be careful of the teeth. Keep your lips pulled back across them, unless you are giving him little love nips of course. Some men really like this, to feel your teeth scrape across the top of the head.

Anyway, taking him into my mouth, I can feel him on my tongue, the skin warm and soft. I pull back pulling him with my lips. His cock should be expanding nicely by now, usually at that first whisper of warm breath across him. I like to nuzzle my face in his crotch, smelling him, feeling him on my whole face, my lips, chin, cheeks. His hips will surge towards you slightly when it's time to start taking him into your mouth.

As he starts to grow, I try to increase the pressure, sucking a little harder. When it gets to almost full length, I like to explore it with the tip of my tongue, or a flat wide tongue is good here. I turn my head, licking all up and down the length, tracing veins with the tip of my tongue. Sometimes I like to dip my tongue into the little slit at the tip, tasting him. Precum is rather delicious, I have found, sweeter than cum usually, and a different texture, slick, wetter. .I like to move down lower and suck one of his balls into my mouth, feeling the hard little ball inside.

Some scrotal sacks are heavier thicker than others, and you have to take quite a bit in your mouth to get to those little enclosed balls. But you will know when you find it and surround it with your mouth. It usually illicit a soft moan about now.

First one, then the other. Equal attention, you know, only fair. Then go back to licking the length. I love the feel of a rock-hard throbbing cock against my soft wet tongue. I love the way his hips seek my mouth, pushing his erection closer to me. If his hands come up and lace through my hair, I know I am doing good.

He may try to guide you at this point, wanting more. I don't like to have a cock shoved at me, actually. I like to control the pace, the depth of penetration into my mouth. If his cock gets to near the exact center of the back of my throat, look out, that is not fun. You do not want to hear her gag at this point, do you? I try to turn my head to the side slightly, so the spongy cock head hits the side of my throat, much better that way. I groan now and again, and he can feel the vibrations on his sensitive head.

Once you start this though, I think you need to be prepared to go the distance. If his hips are starting to rock towards you, he's reaching already for sweet release.

This is when you want to start getting serious. No more teasing licks, no more tender touches, but hard, rough sucking. Up and down, lips over your teeth, your lips caressing up and down as your tongue is flat along the underside of him.

One more thing before you start this part, you might want to lick that spot, just under the head, where the head curves up into the slit. It seems to be a real sensitive area for most men. They should be dripping nicely at this point. Lap it up, don't leave a single drop.

As I start sucking, I like to keep one hand firmly wrapped around the base, holding him up to me. Long smooth up and down strokes with my head. My hand sometimes strokes in time with my mouth. My other hand may cup their balls, but not too hard, it constricts coming somehow.

And if you are here, don't stop now. If your jaws get tired, use your hand the same rhythm as your mouth until it relaxes enough to go back to work. And take him as deep as you can. Tender licks are for before, not while he's trying to cum. It's frustrating to him I think to climb so far then you stop, and he has to regroup so to speak. Keep using your mouth or hand together or just your hand to push him further.

His thighs should be rock solid by now, tense and tight. His hips will be fucking you back now, his hand, if it is in your hair is clutching now. And guys, try to hold back. Don't try to cram your cock into her throat at this point. Let her control it, the depth and speed. I know it's hard now. you want to FUCK, but let her take you there.

You can feel their whole body getting tighter now as he gets ready to cum. Nothing compares to that feeling for me. Knowing my soft wet mouth has driven him to this point. Some have told me, contrary to popular opinion, there is such a thing as a bad blowjob. Too tentative, too slow, just teasing.

Your cheeks should sink in nicely at this time in the game, literally pulling the cum from deep inside him.

You want to hear him roar, don't you? His hips will push towards you as the cum starts to shoot out. I love the feeling of the cock jerking, flexing as it pumps into my mouth. I like to keep the cum at the back of my throat, tasting the salty tang. I really don't like to have someone shoot onto my face. Not real sure why, just don't. Your woman probably won't either.

But nice and deep in my throat, and I swallow as I continue to suck softly. His cock is extremely tender at this point, and he maybe quivering and legs shaking. Might be a good time to let the poor man lay down. I like to leisurely clean him up, licking softly as it starts to go down. Of course, there are some that don't, that's when you found a real good one.

Men have told me that it is an entirely different kind of orgasm. One that almost makes them feel like they will pass out its so intense. And I love bringing a man to orgasm this way. I feel he is mine, all mine at this point, I am in control of his body, and he is responding to what I do. I love it. It's such an intimate, wonderful to do to and for your partner. He will love you for it.

From scm
Yes, I love getting a " bj" but my other half doesn't do it a lot, why unclear to me, I don't ask, seriously I don't. When she does, I cherish it, she asks me not to "go" in her mouth and I don't question it for I do respect that without thought. I think its degrading to ask a women to do it. I feel if they want to they will naturally in their own way. 

In my 19 years with her, I regret to say I have asked her for one but I did later apologize for I felt I degraded her and she (with sincere look) said it didn't bother her but it did bother me. I will not ask. 

One lady ask on this site about "H job"? Doesn't matter either way for me. Prefer women shaved? No. Pubic hair on a women is precious and very beautiful!

Of the women, looks are one but the heart is another. I love to give oral on her but she does not let me she feels I guess "weird" she can't explain but I love it when she lets me . My main objective, first and for most is please her! Seriously and sincerely. Her first. If I please her that's all that matters to me. Women should be treated like a princess anyway without thought or question.

From Anonymous
The most mind-blowing orgasm my partner ever had during a blow job was when I stimulated his prostate at the same time -- it's not just for physical exams! While I sucked him I inserted a slim, curved vibrator in his ass and matched the strokes in and out with the motions of my mouth on his penis. It was awesome! 

Ladies, learn to pleasure your partner's P-spot and he will be your love slave.

From Manually Gifted
I have a question - how do you guys feel about hand jobs? I don't see a section on this site about them. I am not big into blow jobs but can give very good head with my hand and wonder if there are any opinions about this as an acceptable substitute?

From Nubia
My boyfriend absolutely loves the feel of my wet pussy on his chest and my ass in his face while I play with his cock in my hands and mouth. I can take all of him in my mouth and play with his balls much more easily. His orgasms are always much more intense when I do this. 

He also loves the fact that he can rub his hands all over my body while I'm giving him oral. And it feels great pressing my clit against his chest and my breasts on his stomach.

From Alan
My wife lets me come into her mouth but balks at swallowing saying semen irritates and creates a choking sensation in her throat like when she eats raw mussels. Mental block probably. I've sucked other men and myself off and swallowed without this reaction. 

After twenty years, the connection with my wife is real, meaningful which helps keep some perspective if any on my swallow deep-throat obsession. I know the pleasure of being swallowed. Flipping through so many comments has also helped to keep the disappointment/frustration at a bearable simmer as some say deep throat isn't all it's made out to be. But nothing's more intriguingly powerful than mystery or the unknown. The grass is always greener...

I've been at both ends of the happy prick and don't consider such dreams unfair, unhealthy or degrading. Who knows what surprises our love may have in store for us. Meanwhile, just have to deal with this tension. We both feel it and it creates a spark, something unsure, imperfect but ain't that life, anyway? Just par for the course I guess as long as we can manage it.

From Sara
As a result of an operation I couldn’t have vaginal sex for twelve weeks back in the summer and as my husband and I like our sex I knew I couldn’t keep him celibate that long so I offered my anus as an alternative, something he likes a lot while I’m not so keen, he’s big, long and girthwise, so it wasn’t always an enjoyable experience for me but a great fuck for him. 

So I suggested we swap my mouth for my ass, only problem being I’ve never been a big fan of sucking hubby off and my few attempts with him have never been successful, leaving him and me very frustrated, the two of us eventually leaving it alone as far as our sex life was concerned, although as a handsome looking and sexy 52 year old Cary Grant look alike I’m sure he’s been sucked off a few times by other ladies but he’s not going to tell me is he? 

But I was determined to get the sucking thing right and give hubby some great moments with my mouth and, of course, begin to enjoy his semen, its taste and want to swallow it all. My first attempt was a disaster, my teeth biting so hard it hurt him, my tongue flapping everywhere, and when he ejaculated I had no idea it was about to happen and actually took his cock out of my mouth to kiss its length when he shot, his cum going onto my chin and neck. 

By the third ‘bj’ I was on top of my game and knew exactly how to go down on my knees in front of him, how to mix the work of my teeth, tongue, lips, the inside of my mouth and top of my throat, along with how to hold the cock, hold his balls, how to massage them gently, squeeze them with just the right amount of pressure, how to work my finger at his anus, first stroking the opening then sliding in one finger, then two, then a third, the whole bj experience lasting longer each time so that now he can go for nearly twenty minutes before filling my mouth. 

He was, of course, most appreciative, and never stopped showering me with glowing praise. I’m now able to indulge in vaginal sex but am so impressed with my oral technique that I’m likely to go down on hubby first before he gets inside me, ‘69’ now being one of our favorite positions, and I’m now thinking wicked thoughts about putting my bj talents to good use and finding another guy to impress and ‘wow’ and hubby says ‘go ahead’ but warns me, says sucking a cock in a rubber is no fun. How does he know?!

From Kimberley
My husband tells me I really am the best. The fact that I can deep throat is what makes me so good. I can take a cock so deep into my throat and never gag....I have no gag reflex! I like to call it a gift. I have an especially long tongue as well, this becomes a very sexual tool during oral sex. Don't forget to use the hands, his balls need attention too. Pay special attention to the head of his cock, lick, suck, kiss and flick. It's been 12 years and I can still make him come in seconds!

From Anonymous
I wanted to comment about the fact that most of the women posting have said that they feel they need to give oral sex in order to receive it, and that they can only reach climax by receiving oral sex. I have had a lot of difficulty giving blow jobs and have found a technique that works quite well for me. While I go down on my husband I stimulate myself with one or two of my favorite toys. I seem to lose myself in the act and my husband finds it to be quite a turn on.

That being said I would like to add that a woman can reach climax without receiving oral sex. I used to think I needed my man to go down on me in order to have an orgasm but after much experimentation I have found other things that turn me on even more!

From Jani
There is a difference between giving a man oral sex and the guy fucking your mouth. As part of a good blowjob you will take the guy's cock into your mouth and top of the throat and then return to the head of the cock where most of the sucking, kissing, licking etc should be concentrated.

For the guy who wants to experience a good mouth fucking he will thrust his cock down your throat and that is pure porn movie and nearly always very unsatisfying for the woman. Even in a loving relationship the mouth fuck is not an ideal sex act and I try not to encourage my husband but admit that at the height of the ecstasy of the blowjob it is very easy for the two of us to go quickly to a mouth fuck, and there is of course the slut in all of us women so with another man we often like to play the whore and all too often give way immediately if the guy wants to fuck our mouths, enjoying it at the time, hating it later.

From Anonymous
I have a question for the guys out there. Or maybe I should address it to both the guys and girls. Is there an unwritten rule that you have to give oral sex to get it? I am one of those women who doesn't especially like giving blow jobs, and certainly wouldn't give one to a casual sex partner. I am now to the point where I rarely have casual sex since the guys never seem to go down on me and I prefer my sex with orgasm, thank you.

Now I am with a partner who really likes receiving and I get the sense that he resents giving me oral sex if I don't return the favor each time.

So it finally occurs to me - is there something I am missing out there? Some unwritten rule that you guys have that you won't give a girl oral sex unless she reciprocates? I guess I just thought we all had our likes and dislikes but that every guy would/should understand that women almost only come through oral sex so if you deny them that you deny them an orgasm. It never occurred to me that I should expect to have to give a blow job to get an orgasm (that sounds like scorekeeping, doesn't it? but it also sounds like reciprocation, which I read a lot about on this site).

So, I would appreciate any input and opinions. I really find the comments here helpful, since people seem willing to be honest and authentic, and seem to enjoy sex of all sorts!

From Anonymous
My wife and I have been together for over 30 years. We have been fucking a lot longer than that. Our sex lives keep getting better every day. There is nothing like a 50s year old hot looking woman that knows what the hell she's doing. She gave me a blow job before we were married and I stopped her before I came. What a mistake. We stopped for years and now are back to fantastic sex and blow jobs. It is a special occasion when she will let me come in her mouth but when she does we are both really turned on. Recently she brought me to climax twice and then the third time in her mouth. What a turn on for both of us. She comes repeatedly, she is a very hot and sensual woman. I am so in love with her and exulted at what she will do for me.

Recently she let me carry out a fantasy. I was turned on by laying her on her back with her head over the bed backwards and stroking her mouth. We have done it a few times and each time she got better at it as she started to understand what I wanted. She let me go down on her at the same time and as I came in her mouth she came in mine. I mean instantly her pussy began to throb. Now for you young guys out there that can't tell. You don't fake that one. She came hard and instantly. I was so reassured that she loved it as much as me. She is so great and how lucky can I be. 

If you find the right, one marriage and sex are both great. I have been fucking her since she was 16 and we are faithful to one another. I used to fantasize about other women when I jack off but now I think of her. I think she is the hottest thing on the planet. I am away from her for a few weeks and can't wait to get home and fuck her brains out and she is anxious for me. If you are wondering, sometime we will look up from amazing sex of all kinds and 2 to 3 hours have gone by and we didn't even realize it. Youth was fun but I wouldn't go back. She is the one in all respects.

From Jim
Yes, I feel the same, Anonymous [see entry below], and I suspect we're in the minority or perhaps men feel uncomfortable expressing such feelings. I'm married 5 years now, madly in love with my wife and I would do anything at all she asked for, sexually speaking. So I can't say I'm a prude or uncomfortable with sexuality. And I'm not going to say I don't enjoy a good blow-job. 

But I can never get past the feeling that sticking my dick in a woman's month is damn insulting, for both of us. Watching her head bob up and down with a mouth full of penis, then spraying sperm down her throat, for me, seems degrading. Notice I said "for me," so guys, don't go crazy here. I fully realize and respect 'different strokes for different strokes'.

And one more thing: porn is fiction and not at all  accurate (glad you realize that). It's designed, staged, and produced. Nothing real there, and just like any other well made movie, it's damn fun to watch good porn. But to learn from, or expect similar reactions to those in porn? No, it's a movie, not a how-to. 

Al those porn shots of girls on their knees with their mouths open for the money shot, like new born birds accepting food from their mothers. It's a male fantasy, and pity the poor young women who think they need to emulate porn stars in order to be considered sexy. sheesh.

From Anonymous
I just can't see myself allowing a girl to give me head. It is way too degrading for her in my eyes. However, I would have no conflict in giving her oral sex, because it would please her immensely from what I have read and heard as well as seen in porn (which is quite inaccurate I read as well). 

Anyway those are my thoughts on fellatio. Do any other guys feel the same about it? Let me know?

From Latin Guy
I can't tell you enough how flattering it is to me and probably most men when their partner will take their penis in their mouth and bring them to a climax. I recently had a partner who didn't enjoy vaginal sex but loves to give oral sex. On our first encounter she dropped to her knees and because I love oral sex of all kinds, giving and receiving I couldn't control myself for very long. 

Her love of giving head is definitely the secret because she wants to make me come and unbelievably has made me come quicker than any woman has been able to. We met for a picnic lunch the other day and I was so surprised by her eagerness to blow me in the parking lot that I came quicker than I have with anyone in the last 30 years. 

So if you think that it won't surprise your partner or heighten your sex life then think again, I couldn't wait to get home and return the favor. Of course the obvious is that you need to love making your partner come with your tongue and taking them into your mouth with passion. It goes both ways because I love a fully extended clit on my tongue as well.

From Peg
I am one of those women who like to get and give oral sex more than intercourse. I am 52 now and my husband has a very large penis, so intercourse is painful sometimes. I will give him a BJ everyday sometimes. I enjoy pleasing him in this way so much that I regularly volunteer doing it to him. 

He has often told me, that to him, having his cock in my mouth is the most intimate act in the world. As for the cum, I would actually rather take it in my mouth than have it all over my face.

From Pteryx
To Anonymous, who asked if there are men out there who don't like receiving oral sex. Yep, mine is just such a one. He says it feels good, but he just doesn't like having the rest of me so far away from him. 

Now, to those who asked what the one giving the blowjob gets out of it? I like looking at dick, feeling it, admiring all the detail and watching it grow. Sure the actual sex part is great, but I can't SEE anything down there. 'Specially not close up, filling my whole field of vision. So, he'll let me suck him off for a while as a preliminary, so I'm all hot and bothered for stage II.

From Julie
I often wake up before hubby in the morning to find his cock big and hard although he is still asleep. I am a total slut so cannot resist taking his head and a lot of the rest in my mouth, he eventually waking up to the joy of shooting his cum down my throat! If he has fucked me the night before then there won't be much cum in his balls in the morning but enough for a quickie 'bj' and little taster for me and something erotic to set him up for his busy day. We are both early fifties and I hope I am giving hubby the same early morning suck off in ten years time! 

From Gene
I just wish to thank all of you courageous people that love to give head to their partners. I can't tell you how much I enjoyed reading every single message.

Getting head from my lady and giving head to her is the ultimate love any couple can give each other.

From Andrea
I am a 53 year old Latino married 5 years ago for the first time. My husband is considerably older than me, but is very virile and treats me with great care to ensure I come. Up until I read this web site, I have never given him a proper blow job. I just think in my mind it is yeck. He is willing to go down on me but I feel unable to satisfy him orally. 

Two week ago he asked me if he could lick my pussy after he comes, it was such a turn on. He kisses my breasts and neck with his cum, he asked me if he could French kiss me. I couldn't resist, and now, every night I can't wait to taste him. Drives me insane, and he is now in ecstasy when I give him a blow job. I love to swallow now. It has taken me 40 years to understand what I like

From Anonymous
I was recently having a discussion with a sex therapist and she assured me that there are men who don't like receiving oral sex. I think I had assumed that all men like receiving oral sex based on my own experience. Does anyone have any statistics on this? Are there any men out there on this very liberated website who don't like receiving oral sex or know some other man who doesn't?

From Helenmarie
I loved reading all the postings, thanks Cathy for some great ideas. [see Cathy's entry below] I find that of the men I have been intimate with, oral sex has by far been the best with just one. Of course our feelings for each other and our lust of each other helps a lot, but it is his cock that inspires me the most. I love the shape, size, and the color of his flesh. I love how clean he is, there is nothing worse than a man that smells musky down there. All the things I love about his cock have helped me to enjoy oral sex so much more than ever that I cannot get enough of him. 

I was reading the postings to compare and learn more how to please us both and everyone has some great ideas. I so love when his hips begin to thrust and there is nothing I want more than to feel him throbbing inside my mouth. I do love to trace my tongue around the rim of his head and then gently suck just the tip. Then to move my way down licking down the shaft sliding with my tongue only to go back up again, and always always keeping my hands on him either the shaft his balls or both. 

And I haven't met a man yet that does not like that very sensitive spot between his balls and his anus gently stroked. I have read a lot about the tongue flicking in that triangle area near the head, I am definitely going to experiment with that. 

I also wanted to add how I love to take him orally right after he has been inside my pussy, I love the taste of "us" together and when he kisses me deeply and passionately right after giving me oral pleasure. It is so sensual and erotic and such a turn-on for us.

Thanks for such a great site.

From Jean
Yes, yes, to every thing you said, Anonymous! [see entry below] I do indeed feel the same way you do, and I have to say I'm so very grateful you spoke up (so to speak), and so eloquently. Not many women are brave enough, or secure enough, to bring this up. And isn't that truly a pity?!

Blow jobs don't turn me on, I find nothing sexy about it, I'm not at all excited or thrilled about doing the deed. I do it out of obligation, because I know how good oral sex feels. I'm also careful about how that comes off, because there's no doubt obvious discomfort is a huge turn-off. 

I read several books about fellatio to learn how to do a really good bang-up job of it. So I can get my guy off in no time flat with a good blow job. I would truly hate hate to go on and on. A good technique, besides being good for my guy, is also good for me. 

Now I have to say that my guy knows blow jobs are not high on my list of sexy things that turn me on, and also realizes that I love him and that's why I do it. He says that's what counts, the fact that I love him enough to please him. 

Would I give someone I don't love a blow job? Hell no. I think putting a man's penis in my mouth is incredibly intimate, much more so then fucking. 

From Anonymous
I've read most of the postings here and think it is great that there are so many men and women out there who enjoy getting and giving oral sex and seem to be pretty uninhibited on the topic. Now I realize that this is a self selection process so people commenting here are probably all very comfortable with giving blow jobs but I would like to ask for comments from women who aren't comfortable or don't like it. 

My own experience is that I will give a blow job to someone I love because I know he likes it but mainly I don't get pleasure from it. It doesn't turn me on. It feels like an obligation. And with someone I don't love, forget it. I don't think it is fair to think of a blow job as reciprocation for oral sex on me because oral sex is the one sure way I will orgasm and a blow job is merely icing on the cake for most men. If I am not properly stimulated fucking can be not even that interesting so I don't think that intercourse is always equally pleasant for both parties. I don't even feel like I am missing much - my preference would be to get oral sex all of the time and have great intercourse because of it, and give a blow job some of the time as spontaneous foreplay. 

I do acknowledge that the way blow jobs are viewed/portrayed in society (esp in porn) is a major turnoff to me and perhaps that is getting in my way of enjoying them, but I am not so sure. I think many women (and esp girls) give blow jobs because it is expected, they seek approval and they think it makes them more desirable or sexy. I would be interested to know if there are any other women out there that feel this way?

From Charlene
Thank you, Anthony, for responding to my post [see below]. And I understand your comments about the 'saliva thing'. Some people are into some things, and others are not, it's no big deal. I appreciate you voicing your opinion, while accepting that mine may be different.

From Anthony
Dear Charlene, [see Charlene's entry below] and all the other ladies who were brave enough to voice their opinions on this subject. Honestly speaking, I think that the sexiest thing that a woman can do to a man (and vice versa) is oral foreplay. I must say I enjoyed all the different viewpoint, especially yours Charlene, but the one thing I have to disagree with you on is a woman spitting on my dick. 

I realize that every modern day porno movie highlights this act as though it is the ultimate male fantasy. But some of us old fashioned guys prefer that a woman treat our most valued possession as though it were her own private lollipop. To treat it with tender loving care, with a light touch, making sure to give every inch of it special attention. Use her lips and tongue much more so than her mouth. 

And last but not least, make love to the head, for as we all know every good story starts from the beginning!

From Anonymous
To my beautiful wife, with the BIG brown eyes, and the most beautiful smile; the tic tacs are right next to your side table. Just missing Fridays....luv you to bits.

From Katie
I am one of the lucky women who can deep throat and hold my jaw open for a while, and personally I absolutely love to give my boyfriend BJ's. For me the easiest position is the 69, this way I can usually go deeper without gagging and receive pleasure at the same time. My man loves it when I moan, and it gives me great satisfaction to hear him moan. One of the Big things is to keep some sort of movement going, whether it's your tongue or your lips, it drives him wild leaving no dull moments. 

For some reason no matter how hard I try though I cant get him to come just through bj's. One of us usually has to jerk him off a bit after a bj, and then he enjoys coming in my mouth, and personally I don't mind it. One good secret though if you really don't like that taste, get your man to eat strawberries or any other sweet fruit, avoid garlic or onions because that will make it acidic and bitter.

Another thing I like to do is give my man one when he's sick. its a great pick-me-up for both of us and his sense of feeling is heightened so its better for him, the only downside is that the cum is acidic when he's sick so let him come on your tits or face, that is also a turn on for him.

Another fun thing is to get him when he's soft, he doesn't have very much feeling - but you can go deeper for a little bit if you can't deep throat - and the feeling of you down that far will make him moan and get him hard very quickly. Also I have tried when I am deep throating licking around his dick and licking at his balls or giving them a slight flick of the tongue, considering they are very sensitive if your bobbing.

I hope that this information has helped someone. and good luck girls and guys

From Anonymous
JS, from talking to my girlfriends, the ones who do get turned on by giving head it is because they feel sexy knowing that they're giving their man pleasure.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where men expect head and women can only hope for oral. Generally, women "know" that if they can't please a man physically he'll move on, whereas women see their pleasure as a treat rather than an ultimatum for a relationship.

As a young woman I definitely think this is sexist. I think it is essentially a matter of economics because of the sexist roots of our culture there are still enough women out there willing to give cheap head that men aren't conditioned to feel that they have to work hard to earn it.

It is lovely to see a man become aware of this issue. You can do more by talking to friends, sons, etc because a social change is needed)

From Charlene
In my own experience, I love the sight, smell, feel and taste of a nice, clean, hard dick. My mouth is small, so I can't take a really big dick much deeper than the head. My cheeks don't hurt anymore, but when I was younger and 'starting out', I could only do BJs for about 30 seconds at a time. I have a technique that works really well for me, and my men have enjoyed it a lot, they tell me.

For me, it's best when a man has just showered, and every centimeter of his member is fresh and clean-smelling. My favorite position is lying on my back with him kneeling next to me, one knee by my armpit, the other one by my head. (Guys, be careful not to kneel on our hair, ok?) He can either stay right there or get on all fours with his dick hanging down toward my face. He can reach my head, face, breasts, tummy, pussy, legs, almost everywhere. I can use one hand on his ass, back and thighs, the other on his dick, balls and chest.

I like to start out doing all the work, with him not moving at all. Stroking him gently, I lick, kiss and suck on the head, driving him crazy with anticipation. I like tasting the pre-come, it's a sticky and gooey to me. I look up at him lovingly, eye-to-eye contact, and then I slowly close my eyes every now and then, as if I'm dreaming, which tells him his dick is the most wonderful object in my world.

Worshipping your man's dick is an art. The women who wrote about that little triangle of flesh under the head, they know exactly what they were talking about; it's delicious! Pay special attention to that, because men love to have you suckle on it. Getting back to the whole dick itself, I like to get it all wet with my spit first, and then rub it all over my face. I lick the underside of it, from the head to the base of his balls, then I lick and nibble on the balls.

I take more and more of him into my mouth, moaning and/or humming as I do it.

By now I'm ready for him to join me, by SLOWLY working his dick in and out of my mouth. Some women like being fucked in the mouth--some don't, so fellas, don't assume that yours does. I like it, but only if he goes slow and doesn't go too deep.

Using my hands to guide and direct him, I can control the amount of thrusting that he does, which keeps him from going too deeply inside my throat (that just hurts, fellas). Ladies, if you place your fingertips between the small of his back and the crack of his ass, you can signal him how much pressure he's allowed to use without hurting you. Just push gently to tell him to enter your mouth, and once it's deep enough or if he goes to fast, use your other hand on his stomach or the base of the shaft to push back the other way. The man that cares about you and respects you will not want to hurt you in any way, so this usually works for me.

At this point, he usually can't control himself, and it won't be long before he's ready to shower you with his love, so to speak. Lying on your back with his dick stuffed down your throat will most likely choke you if he comes this way, so have in mind how you two will handle this. If you want him to shoot while inside, it will be fast and it will be a lot, with his dick pointing down the way it is, so be careful. If you want him to pull it out, remember your hair is right there, and we know how hard it is to rinse that stuff out. Eyes, nose, ears, mouth, tits, and tummy are all potential targets, but if you keep your hand on the shaft, you can aim his pistol where YOU want it.

Well, I've certainly written a lot more than I thought I would, and I've been a lot more descriptive than I had planned to, so I hope I haven't bored anyone. I look forward to more happy reading on this and many other subjects here.

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