Do Passionate Kisses Ignite Your Libido?

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From Vi
My husband is not much of a kisser, but whenever he puts his lips to my lips or his lips to my ear I'm gone, lost. So yes I guess it does do it for me (at least one of the things).

From Jim
Oh Yes! Often, you must go without before you realize what you are missing.

I have been married almost 30 year now. A violent, alcoholic father abused my wife emotionally and quite likely physically. I have tried everything I can think of to help her get past that horror, but to no avail. She shuns any outsider intervention in the family, particularly any professional help. No doubt this is because of her feeling of embarrassment at her father's antics. She is all about closed blinds and nobody seeing what's going on inside the home.

She has always despised intercourse and even snuggling. Intercourse hurts. Kissing and even snuggling tickles.

For most of our marriage, she has limited sex to me going down on her monthly or less often and only at her initiation. Initiation meaning she says, "Do you want to have sex?" During "sex" she just passively lay there and enjoyed the orgasm I gave her. There was NEVER any reciprocation.

About five years ago, I finally hit my limit. Despite understanding what made her that way, I felt used and abused myself. I couldn't bear to go on with the charade, knowing how terribly far it fell from real loving. I told her I was no longer able to continue the flawed relationship we had. I tried to explain why, but to no avail. We have had no sexual contact since.

I feel so starved for affection. I would be in pig heaven if we could do nothing but kiss and cuddle and care about one another.

Since my shutdown, she has come to realize what she is missing. But her past is just too powerful a driver. No way will she consider that we should take any meaningful steps to end the impasse.

From Momcat
Do you mean that intense kisses can do anything other than ignite passion? Are you kidding?

The first time my lover kissed me was over 20 years ago, and I can still remember grabbing the door for support. He stumbled off a little shaky too. Heck, we both lose all sense of time and space now when we kiss.

Yes, a passionate kiss ignites my libido and fires him up, too. I can't imagine going without. T'ain't natural.

From Ceit
God yes! I also miss nights just cuddling on the couch and kissing, smooching, necking... I remember the first time my husband kissed me, and wish I could get get that a bit more often... oh well, moving on with life, I guess

From Cathy
Ah, kissing. It is the beginning of everything. I judge a man by his mouth and how it joins with mine. I know as soon as our lips touch if he will have the honor of touching me anywhere else whether it's his mouth or other things.

I don't like sloppy but I want to feel the wetness of him. I want to be kissed gently 1st, no tongue then slowly probed, darting around almost like a dance. Bite me lightly, even lick me. How can this be bad? Do you remember parked in a car as a teenager making out? Talk about HOT! I still go do that once in awhile and my teens have passed many years ago. And if you're lucky and your mouth will put you pass go and you won't even need to do the 3 bases. Remember them?

There is not enough kissing in the world. We become adults and forget the magic of the windows in the car steaming up. We don't think about how we got past the kissing only where it took us.

Hey, people, I got a bet, do you think you can only kiss and do nothing else? Try it one night. You'll be turned on the next night. Oh, I gotta go, there is someone nibbling my ear.

From Teresa L
Am I the only one who doesn't like kissing? Maybe so. It just makes me impatient. People take it so seriously, too, like it's an audition for fucking. Hey, you got the role a long time ago -- time's wasting!

From Tara
Although I respect the opinions of all, I think Gary's ego is quite misguided. To become a master of kissing does not start with sopping her face with saliva, like a dog would. Maybe some women like that, but then again, some don't. I personally don't allow any man to lick my face as if I were an ice cream cone. I'd prefer that kind of attention on my pussy.

Most women, I believe, like soft sensual kissing to start, as opposed to getting hit in the face with a wet mop. Tongue kissing shouldn't start unless you've placed slightly moist lips on her ears, cheeks and lips first. Sensuality is the key to kissing. Not an egomaniacs power trip. Unless of course you like to have women who don't mind just laying there feeling they can't insult you or push you off of them. Thank god I know the difference.

Editor's note: Gary's entry is a witty, tongue-in-cheek (so to speak) take on the very worse in kissing, and hardly a serious essay on the art of kissing. Or at least we hope not...(just kidding, Gary).

From Kalliannassa
Oh, dear God yes, I'm all for passionate kisses... A good kiss builds like a slow burn... starts very soft, very sweet, and builds... from a kiss to a nibble, to a consuming fire that takes over my whole being... yum. A really good kiss will make and me purrrrr. A good kiss can also travel, resulting in good.... well if your good enough it results in good whatever you want. At the end of good kiss all I can think is I want more... and I'm probably going to do whatever it takes to get it...

I still remember one time before I lost my virginity, when the only thing that kept me from losing my virginity was the fact that neither of us had any idea what to do other than keep kissing...god what a lovely afternoon...

From Anonymous
GARY--you are one SICK man! [see Gary's entry below] First of all, if I wanted to have slobber on my face I could just play with my dog! And the whole sucking boogers thing? TOO NASTY!!! Are you sure you have lots of girlfriends? I mean, every name you pick off a website doesn't always love you!

Editor's note: Gary's entry is a witty, tongue-in-cheek (so to speak) take on the very worse in kissing, and hardly a serious essay on the art of kissing. Or at least we hope not...(just kidding, Gary).

From Firemermaid
Ahhh...kissing. One of the most wonderful things about being human. When going through a dry spell, the thing I miss most is kissing. I can cuddle w/ friends; I can treat myself to any number of orgasms, but kissing is not a DYI activity.

Nothing is more intimate, & with the right partner, nothing is more delicious. Kisses have opened my heart...& my legs. If a potential lover & I don't speak a similar language of kissing things generally fizzle. When I am thinking too much during a kiss, it ain't magic. When my body begins to turn to melted butter, & every cell is buzzing...or when a short, sweet greeting or goodbye reminds me of a loving bond, &/or echoes more passionate moments, I'm grateful to own a pair of lips. Tom Robbins is an author who gives kissing the respect it deserves-- especially in his book "Still Life With Woodpecker".

Some favorites-- slowly pressing our lips together for the first time...gentle sucking of the upper or lower lip (very Tantric)...slowy swirling our tongues, one around another...deep, varied, exploration & drinking in the taste, sent, rhythm & feel of my lover...& I haven't even begun to write about all the places those kisses can go...

From Jane Lane
Kissing is one of the most intimate and erotic things that two people can share without making love. You can chart need and desire all on the intensity, the softness of their lips and how the kiss makes you feel. Kissing energizes me, I can tell how much a man wants me from his kiss, if you come up for air, and then go back down for a bit more, its like climbing the steps to passion. Kissing passionately stimulates the body and mind. such exchanges of intimacy are very private, but a public show can be very very arousing. I've always found that if I go without kisses, I feel very alone and sad, I could live off of kisses, to a certain degree...

Bad kissers are the ones that slobber all over you- whose tongue wriggles inside of you like a fish out of water.

From Anonymous
Kissing seems to be a very emotionally-charged activity for me. I find that my enjoyment of kissing slides on scale depending how excited I am by the man kissing me. This is true whether he's a great kisser, or just a mediocre one. How I feel about him influences how well I'll enjoy kissing him, in other words.

I've only ever experienced one truly BAD kisser. Kissing him was like kissing a goldfish...you know the way they move their mouths as they swim around...that's how he moved his lips when he kissed me. We'd only had a few dates, and his bad kissing was the reason I chose not to go out with him again. I had begun to doubt it would work out anyway, so that was the final straw.

As to what I think about while kissing, if I'm really turned on and into it, I'll just be hyper-aware of every sensation, the texture of his lips, the feel of his teeth, the way his tongue moves around and explores me. If he has taken his time and gotten me into the right headspace, the kissing is an incredibly sensual experience that is as much an important part of the overall love-making as the actual sex is.

If the kissing is just a kind of idle thing, a bit of playing around before getting to the rest of it, sometimes it bores me and I find my mind wanders to wondering what will happen next, or wishing he would touch me in a certain way. I also find at those times that I focus very intently on what I'm doing with my own mouth. Like...being very deliberate and trying to kiss well. Thinking about what I'm doing, rather than just enjoying it and going with the flow.

Kissing is an incredibly intimate activity for me. When my marriage started to fail, I was amazed to discover that I was less willing to kiss my husband deeply than I was to have intercourse with him. Kissing felt wrong then...it was too special a thing to share with him anymore at that point...it felt really wrong. Somehow though, fucking was somehow more tolerable. The only way I can explain it is that kissing is a very up-close, face-to-face, emotionally intimate activity, while fucking can be more dis-personal when you want it to be. Maybe that's why you hear that prostitutes often won't kiss their customers.

I'm not sure if you can reliably judge how good a lover will be by his kisses. The man I'm seeing right now is a very good kisser, technically, but his lovemaking is mediocre. He uses kissing as an opening move to get to the other stuff, and once he gets to the other stuff, the kissing stops. I don't think he'll last long.

From Helena Settimana
I love kissing. I miss kissing. I would have a fling for the kissing. Honest and true.

Kissing is the biggest, the best, turn-on for me - if it's done in a way that 'works' for me. Unfortunately the last two significant men in my life were not great kissers - this includes my S.O. But he has compensations. (smile). If you're into face-licking, he's your man. We don't kiss - better to stay right away from that. The guy before him wouldn't kiss at all - his standard, there. I think it was a cultural thing - you kiss your wife but fuck anything that moves. Go figure. Wouldn't want to give the impression he was attached to me.

But seriously, the turn on is in more than the kiss itself, it's in the anticipation of it, the delivery, the execution...

Unlike Anonymous, I've found the best kissers I've known have typically been the best company in bed, unafraid to use their talented mouths in many and varied ways. Often it's a compensation for an otherwise short fuse, but boy, what a compensation. Kiss me, (do it right) - I'm yours...lol

From Shep
Now this is a topic to brighten up a gloomy overcast NY day. I suppose I have been lucky in that most of the people I have kissed were at least good kissers, but most of the people I have kissed have been women. The worst kissers were a couple of guys, but don't know if it had more to do with the whole "I am a lesbian and like women" than the fact that they were just bad kissers. I did find that women would spend much more time enjoying kissing than men did.

As sexy as a great kiss is, I must admit I think I find even sexier that moment right before the kiss when the passion, hunger and need have built up. Those few seconds before the lips meet are heaven.

Fom D.L. Tash
Great kissing, in my opinion, is a sure sign of a great lover.

Taking time, teasing, playing, slowly becoming more involved, more intimate a kiss is a microcosm of this person's way of approaching sex.

Kissing can be an art form in itself spending hours kissing, touching, slowly awakening one another's mind and body until every touch is electric, every movement almost painful in its intensity.

Then, finally, the transition from that intimacy to others...

At least, that's my idea of a great kiss.

From Bob
Kissing! Kissing is better than fucking.

Cripes, is that the sound of a hundred jaws dropping?

I will endeavor to explain myself. Kissing is the most intimate sexual act. Everything begins or ends with that kiss. Everything that follows is lust and desire, but a kiss is magic. I'll wager more people recall their first kiss more fondly than their first fuck.

A kiss - and I'm talking as a guy - is the moment when you lean into the wind, stick your neck out, and expose your heart to all the possibilities, which of course have to include rejection and disappointment.

So you can't start with a Rhett-and-Scarlett lip-crusher.

Uh-uh. You are tentative at first, just a brush of your lips to hers. If she doesn't tighten her jaw, or worse, turn away, you're okay. Better even if she parts her lips just a bit. So now you plant a gentle kiss to her lips, you feel her respond. Your arms close around her waist, and you venture a little lip nibble.

Keep your tongue to yourself (learned that early on). Perhaps she'll trace the rim of your lips with the tip of her tongue. Now she's given you permission for both your tongues to make their acquaintance.

BTW, you're in heaven at this point. You ain't thinking about anything. And, while tongues are fun to play with, it's those devouring lip kisses that ignite the fires that will lead to inspired sex.

And don't forget ... a kiss (and I'll toss nibbles into the mix) can go anywhere. They can travel along an elegant neck, tease a pretty earlobe, trail homage from her tailbone to the nape of her neck and back again. A kiss can anoint an ankle, and tickle a thigh.

Ahh, kissing. Gawd, I love kissing.

From Gary
I too am a master of kissing. Here is my technique and it never fails. Take the girl or boy of your dreams in your arms thus, as though you were about to tango. You may bend her spine a bit, so that her hair brushes the floor. Then, gazing steadfastly into her eyes, protrude your tongue to its fullest and methodically, teasingly, begin licking her face. Her entire face. From top to bottom, or should I say from chin to hairline. Flatten your tongue while licking so in effect it becomes a shovel.

Practice this technique on the back of your hand until you have it perfect.

I don't just lick slow. After a while I will bark, like an excited cocker spaniel, and lick hurriedly, using a lot of saliva, and if my salivary glands should dry up, I use beer, or at a push, diet Pepsi. Once licked all over, I will tweak my partner's nose tip and then bite it and try to insert my eager, loping tongue as far up her nostrils as humanly possible.

Trust me fellers, it never fails. I call this Power Kissing.

Thank you for listening. I have lots of girlfriends.

From Sandaidh
If I'm thinking when I'm kissing, then one or both of us is doing something not right.

From Sweet Sexy Stormy
To me kissing is better than fucking, I can come  just by a deep passionate kiss. I could kiss for hours. But that is me and it is really hard to find a man that wants to do that, just kiss and kiss and well kiss. When hubby and I was first seeing each other, we would kiss for seem like hours, this was before we were actually doing the deed. I miss that.

From Amanda Earl
At this point, I'm kissing only my husband, but my usual thoughts when I was dating went from the bad breath type thoughts to ah he's slipped his tongue in, guess that means we're going to bed.

My thoughts now are mostly just basic yes this feels good and let's go to bed.

From Tresart
Oooooh I like this! For me, when babydoll and I are passionately kissing, I am just focused on her. Our energy together, our touching. With us, kissing always seems to lead to something else...hey, I ain't complaining. I prefer to be sitting when we kiss. Yes, my knees feel weak, I can feel my body tremble...which she loves. I can't imagine becoming bored kissing her. Hell, I can't imagine being bored around her, period!

From Jordana
Good question. I don't actually know what I think about. Probably nothing. Just enjoying the moment and all that good stuff. Next time I kiss my boyfriend I'll be sure to pay attention to my thought process.

Kissing....done right? Hmmmm...If only. I have had many bad kisses and too few really great kisses. I'm sure we all have stories like that though. I think a great kiss also happens with someone you really dig because there are feelings there but maybe that's just the hopeless romantic in me.

From Raven Li
If I'm thinking about anything (depends on how aroused I am--coherent thought tends to go out the window pretty fast with me) then it's usually how good if feels and/or my technique.

>>Do you find that after you've been with someone for a while that the kisses, I'm talkin' the really good ones, stop? Is kissing just part of that 'I'm tryin' to impress' stage of a relationship?<<

Nope. Now, I've only had one long-term relationship, so take that with a grain of salt. Plus my husband and I are very much into physical displays of affection--constantly holding hands, kissing, or touching in some way--so that probably has a lot to do with it, too.

From Blix Dubrille
It's been a while, but I still remember how to ride a bike too.

I feel that if and when you kiss a potential sex partner, you are given lots of information about how that person makes love. Wet and sloppy? Prissy and thin- lipped (bet that one isn't going down)? Bitey and ultra-physical? Sensual and slow?

And I think, based on that kiss, we decide if we want to make love or not (or fuck if that's what's on the table). Besides kissing, dancing with a person will tell you plenty as well.

So instead of breath odor and other such things, I was appraising my kissing partners abilities to see if I wanted to go any further.

Once I made that decision, and it was only "yes" if he or she was a good lover (because sex is like tennis -- you should only play with those who are as good or better than you are), then the kissing was less about advertising and more about reinforcement and that "added value."

From Anonymous
"...because sex is like tennis -- you should only play with those who are as good or better than you are"

There is a paradox here...if you should only kiss/make love to or play tennis with someone who's as good as or better than you...how does that serve those who are better than you? They're doing it with someone who's not as good as they are. Hmmm. I'm thinking too much this morning.

From phlye
I have always been partial to women with full lips for the very reason that, to bastardize the adage normally associated with derrieres, 'the bigger the cushion, the sweeter...' <~ well, you get the idea. Soft, full lips that bounce back when ya press against 'em...much like the feel of full, naked breasts mashed hotly against your chest...and the feel of a full bottom cupped greedily in hand...it all starts with a kiss. A perfect kiss that, not to discredit an agile tongue, but with lips that could buoy a sinking sailor, I say SOS! Goin' under. Resuscitate me, with passion!

From iris
Thanks for sharing, Bob. Your shared thoughts are about as insightful from a man's point of view that I've ever heard or read.

In addition to the traveling kiss of yours, they are also very portable and accessible at any location such as in the public venue as well as private.

Being consumed in a deep kiss of passion amidst a crowed street, beach or mall has got to be one of the biggest turn ons of all.

And thinking? Geez, what's to think about except for the moment and the passion that surrounds you? If my mind went off to making my grocery list I'd give serious thought to whom I was kissing.

From Christine
Interesting questions. I don't tend to think about whether my breath is okay, because I chew gum so much. I also don't usually think at all when I'm kissing. Normally, I feel and respond, if we're talking about the really good kisses. I have had one kiss where I felt my knees go weak, and I stopped it to suggest sitting down, at which point I was rewarded with him telling me he would hold me up.

That one kiss, where my knees went weak, did not happen in the beginning of the relationship. It was after a couple of years of being with that person. So, I do not see that the really good ones come only at the beginning.

I also want to say that it all depends on each person. I mean, many do not care about kissing. They see it as a means to an end kind of thing. These people do not get very far with me.

From Cervo
Kissing is the basic way of conveying sexual yearning along with looking. You can tell what a girl wants from the way she applies, opens and operates her mouth, dances with her tongue and in some delightful cases, the way she smirks and wipes her mouth with her sleeve during a pause before reaching for a new part of your person. Kisses come before any other sort of "real" touch and work better than words which are really about refining the meaning.

In a proper kiss, you can taste the other person's mouth and inhale their warm breath. It envelopes you in their scent which might include bad breath (not good and possibly unhealthy) the aura of their hair (yum yum unless they smoke and then yech yech). You can smell their skin, what they like to eat (hoping you are on the menu) and how they want to be fucked including which preliminaries are first in her mind right now. Women have very informative mouths. Women have the usual barometer of interest pressing into their tummies but of course that is not always a truthful indication of interest. Some men are trying to be polite by diverting an instant reaction. They try thinking about concrete mix or amortization but it never works very well. Some women appreciate that. Others find it irksome. You can feel them checking for the hard-on. That can be a nice game that might be called, "Where's the Bunny, Honey?"

Men have all sorts of indications from what is pressed against them to where and how it gets there. Most of all the kiss precipitates the embrace, which enflames that kiss, creating the next kiss; so you grab each other harder making each other breathless, and so you start to fall down and keep kissing while grabbing each other rudely here and there and on and on and on. Tongues get into the act. Your other tongue cannot be far behind in searching for her other lips while your hands search each others' behinds. Things go as they go from there.

I like kissing, a lot of kissing, long kisses, wet kisses, sloppy kisses, lewd kisses, rude kisses (which I supply as a sort of sudden surprise here and there), but they all have a time and a place in a progression. If you have just opened the bills and are about to call your insurance agent, wet sloppy kisses will need more build up than a sudden slosh of warm, soggy lips. I like the taste of lipstick. I kiss someone whose lipstick tastes like grape jelly. I thought I would faint the first time I found that taste on my lips though I would not eat the actual stuff for a large sum of money. She, on the other hand, would be very tasty.

Women should expect to be interrupted in an insistent doggy way if they paint their toes sitting on the bed in a slip and no panties. It is tantamount to a demand for immediate vigorous oral sex followed by other kisses. No woman should expect to get her toes painted under those conditions. Toes are too cute. You will have to same problem if you bend over to pick things up in small, tight panties though the kisses will be applied elsewhere. Some women find these compulsive kissing assaults annoying. They are nuts.

The curse of kissing is the peck. Don't kiss if you won't kiss. Don't kiss to be nice. Don't ever, under any circumstances kiss to get it over with. Kiss when you feel like it. Kiss when you mean it. You don't have to make a big deal out of it for it to be a big deal.

Recent events have shown me that at times we develop a short-hand that can make us blind to each other. A peck is shorthand for what would have been "a real kiss." If you get in the habit of speaking in shorthand, you will think in it. Think in lifeless snippets, and you will act that way.

What it boils down to is this simple reality. We spend endless amounts of time searching for ways to make all sorts of things quick, short, and simple so we can be efficient and add to the endless list of tedious, meaningless, arid, pointless, feckless, tasteless shit that we do to make life faster, easier and less demanding. What you want to make quick, short and simple is your own hanging. Kissing is not that sort of activity.

If you want fast, easy, effortless kisses, give your lover, husband, inflatable playmate or triste, a peck. In less than a day that is what you will be getting back. Pecks then replace the kisses we want and really need. Remember we are a sloppy, wet, hairy, fragrant and oddly sensitive species with an enormous number of physical sensitivities, weaknesses and stress points. Why else would be spend such a VAST amount of time grooming ourselves as opposed to other animals?

Finally, don't confuse a peck with a baby kiss, ladies and gentlemen. A row of baby kisses moving down the spine to ever more engaging spots is not pecking. Chickens peck. Chickens are fine souls but they are not romantic. Watch a chicken fuck. It's just not that endearing and its hard to kiss with a beak.

So kiss and mean it because it's worth your time more than anything else you have on your agenda. Cervo, known to some as Lush Lips (in a drunken sort of way).

From Anne
Kissing is the most sensual act that can be displayed in public (legally anyway) and it is an incredible thing to experience a really GOOD kiss. I have been fortunate enough to have had an amazing kisser in my life. His style is just like mine: intense, fully physical, and a bit bitey. 

Kissing as an act is incredibly sexual, it is amazing to feel the man you're kissing become hard due to nothing more that your lips and tongues meeting. It often ends in much more, but that's what you were hoping for - right?

From Sabrina
Absolutely! For me, it's an introduction to what's ahead. I recently went on a date with a nice young man at a noisy Thai restaurant. Had a marvelous time. He gazed at me intently while I talked and smiled. He then asked if he could sit next to me. I gave my consent. Sparks started to fly at that point. He started stroking my hair, smelling it. I immediately felt a rush between my thighs. Then he gazed at me with longing. "you want to kiss me don't you?" I asked, stating the obvious. "I'm trying to restrain myself", he replied.

I don't know what happened after that, but I remembered the kiss. It was soft, sweet, electrifying. His tongue caressed my lips slightly. I fought the urge to not moan out loud but then again we were at a restaurant which noise levels superseded any noise we might make.

I knew we couldn't go further than kissing but it felt so fucking good! I wanted more, he wanted more obviously. For the first time in a very long time I have experienced a kiss that passionate and that gentle in my life!

I felt like a sexy woman that night. I can't wait to feel his lips on mine again!

From Lellie
The feeling of a good kiss is amazing and the anticipation of one is indescribable. When I go out with my boyfriend it is almost too much to resist each other, small kisses in public still last too long to be deemed modest.

That's the test, any kiss that makes you forget time is always worth it. But the kiss, in private, an embracing take your breath away kiss, any couple must make sure never goes out of a relationship.

And the words afterwards, while you are waiting for your breathing to return to normal, that makes it so much better....'you don't know how long I've been waiting to do that'

From Wynn
Of course passionate kisses ignite the libido and can lead big time to loss of self-control! I was at a party not so long ago, dancing with this guy who went from some gentle kissing and caressing to a very passionate kiss. I was off guard and completely knocked sideways by his kiss, in that split second at the same time I was both un-sure what to do while also responding with passion. I melted and really wanted the guy to fuck me! Fortunately, by the time we found somewhere private my passion had subsided and I came to my senses.

From Anonymous
I have a question for which I'd like to have some male and female perspectives. My mother, who was a college student in the '70s, feels that you should make out with whoever you want to, and be considerably pickier about who you go to bed with. 

Now although as a student I do like to make-out at parties without the pressure of sex, I do feel making out is essentially foreplay and it is not good to make out with guys you don't think you'd sleep with, as it sends mixed messages and guys may get frustrated. 

So readers, do you agree with the previous poster that making out has crossed the line where you're heading for bed, or with my mother who thinks making-out and sex are totally different things?

From Louise
Of course passionate kisses ignite the libido! Two people kissing passionately indicates their advanced interest in each other, their desire for each other, and can only lead to one direction - bed and sex. 

Kiss your man passionately then pull away from him as if to say 'no more', and you've got one very frustrated guy, especially if you've been with the guy for most of the evening! You shouldn't have let it get that far! If we were at a party and I saw hubby passionately kissing another woman I'd be very alarmed, just as he would be if I was doing likewise with another man. 

Even when I'm not with hubby at a party my rule is simple - some mild flirting and gentle kissing is permissible but there's an imaginary line over which I will not cross unless I intend to follow through, and for me that means he's got to be one helluver guy!

From Kristina
I like the passionate kissing (kissing one's lips softly then do a little tongue). Then it would lead into blowing into one's ear whispering, "I love you." Then we would both begin to kiss each others necks, as we begin to sweat. I like to be able to suck on each other's necks then when we kiss softly his hands rubbing against my body then sliding down to my vagina really ignites my libido. 

I had those experiences with two ex boyfriends in High School, now that I'm married it never happens. Also when a guy kisses my inner thighs then kissed my vaginal area really turns me on. I love it!

From Anonymous
Cervo, that was so hot! [read Cervo's entry below] You can assault me with kisses whenever you wish.

Personally, I don't mind open-mouth tongue, full-on kissing, but my mouth just is not as sensitive as other areas he can "manipulate." Kissing the back of my neck, for instance, makes me feel somewhat submissive and so hot.

From Paige
I'm a bi-sexual female in her late 30s, presently unattached. I love kissing so very much, mere words can't describe it. I've had much more satisfying experiences kissing women than kissing men. I like really wet, sloppy kisses with lots of tongue and lots of saliva.

From Dina
On the sweet subject of the kiss, I always remember Kevin Costner's line in Bull Durham about how he likes to play baseball and how he likes long, slow, deep, wet kisses that last 3 weeks—and all that Susan Sarandon's character can say in reply is 'oh my!'. Oh my indeed!

A kiss is a prelude to what happens next—a good kiss, a great kiss can lead almost anywhere (from the lips down to the hips and then some!) Ah yes! There ain't nothing like it!

From Anonymous
I just recently spent the night with someone new and things took a huge turn thanks to kissing. It has been awhile since I've done anything with a man and this was essentially going to be a one night stand. 

Well at first we were hanging with some friends and I was getting impatient and worked up and so I kissed him and it was the most slow passionate expressive kiss I've ever experienced. I began to look at him a little differently and we continued to kiss throughout the movie we were watching. When the movie ended and everyone else went to bed we began to kiss again and that progressed slowly into more but I discovered that he was a slow passionate and considerate lover and my body was tingling before he got half way down my neck. 

When it came down to actual penetration I stopped him cause we were forgetting something as you all know what I mean. It wasn't his place so he had no idea where they were so we spent the rest of the night talking and kissing and we ended up becoming a couple instead of just having sex and splitting ways the next morning with an "I'll call you." If his kiss hadn't moved me so things would have went differently.

From Cathy
If I'm giving hubby a bj then he's sucking me and if he's on song (most times) then he'll have my clit and be working it with his teeth and tongue, me screaming out in ecstasy in between sucking him. When he finally creams in my mouth the last thing on my mind is spitting his stuff out, it's all part of the lovemaking, the enjoyment and satisfaction, swallowing his cum is a major part of the overall excitement created by our lovemaking. 

Would I swallow another guy's cum? I don't know. We've been married for 15 years and have been talking seriously about a MMF threesome, hubby wanting to see me suck another guy off (among other sexy things) and me swallowing the guy's stuff would be a big thing for him. Maybe me too!

From Swordofwords
I love the kiss that shoots electrons right into my cock as it makes it hard. I don't get that sensation from everyone I kiss, just a selected few. I love the sensuality of the foreplay kiss, not just sexual, but also sensual. The teasing, the tempting. The ones that make you yearn for that little probe. The probe that invites me in to marry the tongues. The gentle kiss on the nape of the neck, the one that reminds us, that this is one of the best parts of being a human...a man...a woman or both. 

When a woman kisses me just so, I can just imagine the feel if my lips were the labia of a woman...and it makes me gasp! In wonder! And you can't help but lose your thoughts, other than This is right! This is now! And if I want...and I want...I can just surrender and just let it happen...now! like a fresh brush stroke of paint upon a canvass.

The best word that comes to mine is exquisite. Did you almost just feel that right now? With me. Me too. Who brought this up? Good work. 

From Anonymous
There is nothing more sensual than kissing. Lips parting just enough to be locked together. Moaning and kissing, breathing in to his out, his breathing out to my in. Moving our heads slightly and listening and feeling our entire bodies. Kissing and kissing and kissing loudly just to hear and feel our lips together. I could kiss all night, fully clothed and orgasm again and again and again.

From Anonymous
Absolutely! The first touch of his lips on mine, then a warm, light probing of tongue on tongue, gets me wet instantly. I love sex, all of it, but I could easily sit on his lap and make out for hours and just get off on that.

From D
Any kisses from him, do me in. I could orgasm alone on his kisses. He does it for me like no other. Lucky me!

From Sarahlynne
I love to be in control, and when I met my boyfriend, I let him know that. We were watching a movie the other night, and out of nowhere, he passionately kissed me. It was so unexpected and hot that I was instantly turned on. The movie was turned off. Wow.

So, back to the control thing, when he says something I don't like (we're talking minor stuff here) I kiss him but then bite his lower lip. Luckily, he's a bit masochistic so we're good!

From Christin
I just want to comment on Bill's story about how he and his wife enjoy a healthy and loving relationship in their seventies. It really is so inspirational and wonderful to know that Bill is such a considerate man to understand his wife's little hang-up about open-mouth kissing. May you enjoy many more wonderful years of love and passion. This truly is a beautiful story.

From Kat
My fiancée and I have been together about a year. He calls himself a Neanderthal, and he's not entirely wrong; he isn't romantic in the faintest. He's sweet, considerate, and protective and I love him with all my heart, but if a moment begins to get slightly romantic, he somehow ruins it. His version of foreplay is saying "lets f****" or "I'm horny, you wanna do something about it?" 

If I mention, "I'm horny" he'll just smile and ask me how long I've been on this site that day (we always end up messing around after I'm on here). Sometimes he'll tell me later. But if I'm really serious about wanting sex, I just walk over, bend down and give him a long, passionate kiss. No tongue, and bite on his lower lip. Sometimes I throw in a little moan while I do it...anyway, one kiss and he's half hard. I straddle him, keep kissing him and boing!

It's the closest thing to foreplay I get.

From Anonymous
Nothing says I want you and delivers a message like a long soft deep passionate kiss.

From Roxanne
I love kissing. It gets me hot faster than anything. It takes me back to a more innocent time when kissing was all I could do, so I had to make the most of it. And, a man whose tongue is good to your mouth is likely to know how to use his tongue in other places. Plus, it takes a real gentle and romantic lover to indulge in kissing and not take a shortcut to intercourse. I like to start with kissing and work up to the other sexual acts.

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