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From Ms. M'ville
I'm 46, been married twice, and had a new lover show me my g-spot for the first time in my life last night. I never come the first time I am with a guy (too nervous/self-conscious?) and I have never come from oral sex before. We began making love last night with him going down on me. (I used to tell my ex not to bother; it didn't do anything for me.) I began shaking immediately, like I had lost control of my nervous system. When he rubbed my g-spot on top of the oral sex, I thought I was going to go through the ceiling. I had an orgasm that lasted over five minutes. I don't recall anything I said or did during the first few minutes of that orgasm. He said I was screaming and humping his face (which, he added, he enjoyed immensely).

Girls--don't settle for sex w/out your partner paying attention to your g-spot.

Guys--if you don't know where or what the g-spot is or what to do with it, you can google it (the topic, I mean) and learn everything you need to know after spending 5 minutes on the Internet.

From Lost In Pleasure
I am a bit confused. How do I find the G Spot on my wife. I have always heard of the G Spot but thought it was a myth. After reading from your site I see I was wrong. I want to give my wife Max pleasure. If some one could help I would appreciate it.

From Lisa
I can only speak for myself but for me what puts me over the top is a well-timed increase in speed and force. The right position also helps. The best way I've found is for me to lay on my stomach with my husband on top of me from behind. He'll locate my G-spot, and spend some time just sliding his cock over it until it gets swelled and sensitive. Then, when I'm at that point, he lifts his body above me and starts hitting my G-spot directly, thrusting down quickly and hard. This gets me there every time. And the great thing for me about G-spot orgasms is I can have multiples fairly easily. Once I've had an orgasm we just start the process over again!

I can also be brought to a G-spot orgasm with manual stimulation but that's a little bit harder for me (it might be easier for some people). But then it's still the same pattern that gets me there - gently stimulation until I'm primed and sensitive, then firm, rapid stimulation to make me come.

From Susie
I discovered G-Spot orgasms when I was in my 30's. At first, I wasn't sure that's what it was because it is different from a clit orgasm. But with time and lots of practice, I can now achieve a G-Spot orgasm with just about anything. My preference for a quickie is my husband's fingers. He can come up behind me while I'm doing dishes, stick his fingers in and send me flying.

While I enjoy sex almost anyway, G-Spot orgasms are a quick way for me to instantly be interested. They also keep going. I don't feel a beginning and an end with them. I could keep going all night and not feel like it was time to stop.

Yes, clit orgasms are great. G-Spots are too, they're just different.

From Meri
I've been having g-spot orgasms for quite a while and mine, as I've seen indicated by other women, easily doubles in size with any kind of sexual stimulation, so it's impossible to miss. It's definitely hard to do manually by myself, because my fingers just aren't long enough to get the job done. I find the best kind of manual stimulation with a partner is with him sitting in front of me (ie sitting between my legs) and sliding two fingers in, curved up, then building speed with an in and out motion. 

During sex, it seem to be best if done from behind, or missionary with my legs up, over his shoulders, or with my butt lifted. I hear a lot of women say they can only have a g- spot orgasm when they're on top, but I find I have to lean really far back and it's tough to get the hard and fast thing going that way. 

Overall, g-spot orgasms are so rapid (immediate and ongoing as long as the stimulation continues) for me, that if I had no clit stimulation at all, I would still be totally satisfied. On a related note, I don't believe it is necessary to see a woman ejaculate fluid to be convinced that a g-spot orgasm has occurred. I've never actually ejaculated and I can feel them in every nerve ending in my body. At any rate, I'm sure your wife won't mind if you keep trying!

From Carla
I once met a man who had diabetes, which prevented his penis getting hard enough to fuck. But, he had found the secret of stimulating the gspot with his hand. I swear, I had never come so hard in my life! Squirting across the room scared me, till he explained it was a normal reaction. 

I immediately fell in love with this man! Or was it what he'd done to awaken my body? Anyway, we only saw each other once after that, and the explosion didn't happen again, which was an extreme disappointment. I think internally, I realized I was not physically attracted to him to continue the relationship. But, I will never forget my 'first' time. 

I have, however found a lover who stimulates my 'spot'. He loves for me to sit on him, facing him, he clenches his dick and makes me ride it hard, until my gspot screams for relief! All the while he encourages me to 'squeeze it out'...awesome!

From Tamara
I have had several sexual partners, but the one I'm with now is the only one who has been able to give me a G-spot orgasm. We discovered it by accident one night, but I knew exactly what it was because I've heard so many people talk about how it feels (urge to urinate, bear down, etc). And now I have them every time we have sex. 

I find that the best position is with him on top, and my legs wrapped around his waist. If he comes down really close, so that our chests almost touch, and thrusts really fast and deep, the pleasure builds really fast. So then I raise my hips towards him, and I can have g-spot orgasms that seem to last forever. Try it - it works for us every time!

From Vic Secret
I have had a couple of orgasm from that lovely spot! I have an awesome vibrator, and I sit in a chair upright and put the revolving dildo in me, with the clitoral vibrator on my clit. It's awkward, but holy crap...I gush with wetness! The dildo spins around in me hitting the "spot". Now remember I am sitting up, with a little slouch, and I put the vibrators base on the chair so my hands are free so it is basically in an upright position, and well u need to try it! WOW! Toys are great "cummers" for the g'spot!

From Anonymous
My husband and I recently discovered the joy of Gspot play. He will usually give me one or two clitoral orgasms, then when I'm good and "ready", he'll spread my legs, sit in front of me, insert two fingers and play, play, play. 

He'll stroke and press my gspot until it responds by swelling and filling with fluid, this feels so good, the orgasms from this feel like waves of pleasure just washing over me, non-stop, I'm literally in another dimension and can't think about anything except the intense pleasure he is bringing me. 

My gspot literally doubles in size from the swelling of fluid, and gets so sopping that he just needs to intensely thrust against it with his fingers and I spray all over him, this drives him wild. This can sometimes take up to 1/2 hour or so, but it is so worth it. It takes time, love, a man that knows what he's doing, but if you can manage to have a gspot orgasm, you're blessed.

From Nica
I find that the G-Spot orgasm takes forever to achieve. As I can achieve a clitoral orgasm in 2 minutes, the G-Spot one maybe take 10. I only have gotten it twice, but I must admit, I haven't tried all that often. Why not? Because it takes very much energy, time, and wrist muscles. The orgasm is great though, I haven't yet found very many differences with the clitoris one, though the pussy convulses and tightens and releases much more fluids. How a guy could take the time to do this for me, it is amazing.

From Ninad
my experience with my girlfriend clearly shows that there is only clitoral orgasm. In the last 3 years that we are together, I have been able to give her a g spot orgasm only once. I clearly remember it. We had gone on a romantic getaway.

That night I had managed to build up the tempo really well. I was doing everything possible with my tongue around her pussy. After maybe 30 minutes, I managed to insert almost the whole of my tongue inside her opening and then gave her some powerful thrusts all the time ensuring that there was no contact with the clit. After maybe a about 40-50 thrusts, she came .That's an understatement. she really orgasmed very hard. Since I hadn't touched her clit, I think it was tongue having its magic on the roof of her vagina where I believe the g spot is located.

After that night, I tried this with her several times, but no luck. We still have great sex, but it's always the clitoris that gets her going now.

Can anybody out there relate to my experience ? Please do write back as I honestly want to give her a g spot orgasm again (not that she is bored with clitoris orgasms).

From Anonymous
I am very lucky to have a lover who pays extra attention to my clitoris and g- spot giving me an increasingly strong series of orgasm.. With clitoral orgasms the focus of sensation is definitely in my clit and I can keep having them all night as opposed to a vaginal orgasm which tends to finish me off.

We ran into an article somewhere several years ago about the clitoris and how most of it is inside you. For me the G-spot seems to be the inside end of my clitoral shaft. When my partner stimulates this area while sucking the exposed part of my clit it seems like he is working the whole length of my clitoris. It drives my to multiple orgasms. It seems analogous to giving a man a blow job by sucking the head of his cock and the top of the shaft, while working the base of his cock with my hand.

In fact sometimes I ask my lover to suck deeply down on the base of my clitoris and find that I respond by sucking at the base of his cock at the same time. It certainly seems like we are feeling the same thing!

From Dave O
I love to pleasure my girlfriend orally before I even consider intercourse. I begin with cuddling, kissing, soft talk and eye to eye contact. I then enjoy moving down her chest, touching and sucking her erect nipples and soon begin to slowly tease her by moving my tongue up and down each thigh, coming so close to her magical area yet saving my treat of the taste of her wetness for later. I try to let her senses guide me as I watch her eyes, listen to her sounds and feel her movements.

As her movements and her sounds increase, I slowly let my tongue tease her clitoris, just enough to graze the tip and I wait and then slowly move back into her arms to tell her something special and sometimes we just use non-verbal communication. I want to hold her close.

Then I move downward and begin to very gently at first lick up and down both sides of the labia with just a glancing blow to the clitoris with my tongue. As her wetness increases I begin to treat the clitoris as my object to pleasure; softly and then increasing the pressure of my tongue on it. I try to pluck it from its hood completely with my lips using a sucking motion and slowly move my fingers one at a time to the entrance of her vagina inserting one and then two to satisfy her pleadings by now.

The G-Spot I don't always find the exact spot in her soaked vagina but when I do combined with clitoral stimulation, Kathy can wake the neighbors up, and we live out on a farm. My penis is rather thin so we have discovered, as I am thrusting in her, I can gently slide my middle finger in on top of my penis and then turn my finger upwards as if pulling on the wall of the vagina. I can also ease backwards allowing the increased angle of my penis to increase the pressure on of my finger. Taking my thumb, wet with her juices, I can use whatever motion she prefers to allow her an intense orgasm/s.

Enjoy your evening and pleasure the one your with; not only with your body but with all your senses.

From OTE
My current lover of the last 5 years is the first to allow me to play long enough to find her g-spot. And now there is no going back.

First of all, make sure your fingernails are trimmed short and clean. Plenty of foreplay and some clitoral orgasms will make the search for her g-spot enjoyable for both of you. Her physical pleasure and your ego pleasure. You get to watch her cum.

The g-spot is just inside the front wall of her vagina about an inch or two (depends on the woman). It feels bumply under your fingers.

Before you go sticking any fingers in, grab the lube and get you middle finger nice and slickery. Once you find the bumpy area, use a finger motion that looks like "come here". Her first sensation will be one of pressure like she needs to go to the bathroom (good idea to go to the bathroom beforehand so she'll know it isn't that need). Continued motion will soon take her out between the stars to dance in the ballroom of the gods.

Once her orgasm starts, you can keep her going for a long time with wave after wave of orgasms.

Another neat method is to perform oral sex from the side and with your lubed finger stroke her g-spot at the same time. When you need a breather, just raise your head away to watch her cum and rotate your thumb to make contact with her clitty which should already be slicked up with lube. By now, you can use your middle finger or two like your penis and thrust. Each time letting your thumb either bump against her clit or rub along side it.

Sometimes the woman will squirt (occasionally several feet) and other times just a steady ooze that gets the bed wet. It doesn't smell or taste to any degree unless she has a yeast infection in which case you may have been the cause with unclean fingers. Both of you get treated for the yeast infection.

If you will keep it up long enough (several minutes), she will beg you to stick your dick in. Now it gets real interesting. Once a woman has had several orgasms, her PC muscles will make her have vaginal contractions with every orgasm. The orgasms can and do happen at several per minute. With a lots of experience, these contractions will become so tight that it feels like your dick is caught in a tightly closed, hot and incredibly slick fist.

For actual penetration, we use a Wedge from Liberator.com and her favorite position and a fave of mine is the plow. Male superior with her legs together and supported by my shoulder. This allows the head of my dick to smack against her g-spot with every thrust. Another position with this Wedge is doggy style with her legs together and between her man's. Again there is the rubbing across her g-spot. In either position, you can modify the position to allow you to separate her legs and then use your lubed fingers or thumb to rub alongside her clitty. Another technique is to use your fingers to tap on her clit with each thrust.

Yes I'm totally spoiled now and so is she. There is no going back to just sex. The key to always having an eager sex partner is to be the absolute best she could ever imagine. Then practice, practice, practice to become better.

From Alchemist
I'm addressing the question Slohand had about his wife. One of the things I've found with my GF is that she needs to be aroused sufficiently and building erotic tension before beginning g-spot stimulation.

I find that it is good to start with a sensual massage increasing whole body arousal gradually moving into stroking the upper thighs and yoni increasing erotic tension. It's important to build a good strong base. As arousal grows stroke the inner labia and clitoris, again building the tension. Don't move too fast to clitoral orgasm. Bring her to the edge and back off a number of times, then start working the massage into the yoni, stroking all the various areas. I have found that there are often several very sensitive areas along a whole crest. Different little areas "popup" that will be very arousing. Keep building erotic tension. Some spots are best lightly stroked, others stimulate with pressure. At some point there is often a sudden urge to urinate from stimulating these points. If that is followed and the stimulation on the g-spot area(s) is maintained the orgasm follows.

Now I find it very effective to alternate attention between the clitoris and the g-spot. If she starts to orgasm on clitoral stimulation, keep that going with a very light touch until it either runs out of steam or her clit becomes too sensitive. At that point turn your attention back to the g-spot. Often at that point she will suddenly have a g-spot orgasm. And we go through multiple cycles of orgasms, using everything from fingers to tongue and lips to penis. At a certain point she starts cycling though multiple stages of orgasm with different muscle groups doing various things; ie tenting, clenching, push-outs.

There is a sequence of different fluids. First there is a really slippery thin liquid. Then surges of a thicker lubricating liquid, then a surge of watery non-lubricating sweet (flavored like honey or maple syrup) from multiple outlets within the vagina simultaneously and NOT from the urethra even though it comes with the urge to pee and all characteristics of g-spot orgasms. She doesn't squirt but she sure does flood. A lot of fluid is released over the course of several hours.

In any case, building to a sufficiently high base before you do the gspot massage can help.

From Cathy
I'm one of those very lucky woman. I can come from a variety of things that have nothing to do with body parts. But between the g-spot & my clit I can't decide which is better. They both have different levels and it's up to me a lot of the time on where I want it to go. The bad thing is I can't do the g-spot to myself though I've taught it for others to do to me.

I think that the intensity of the g-spot is stronger especially upon the release of fluid. It's almost like an itch that you can't scratch but you just Have to. My clit I can have small controllable orgasms building up until I can't breath. I have passed out. It's finding a suitable partner for all this playing around that's hard because some men are threatened by this. Right now I'm alone and though I do masturbate I enjoy sharing this part of my life with someone.

From Sue
I have read so much about the G spot, in magazines online etc. But I don't know where it is exactly and how my husband can trigger it. I think clitoris is highly sensitive and I get my high through it but I would like to be put on the path of discovery of the G Spot, so do tell how.

From Dick
My wife seems to love it when I fuck her "froggy style" (from behind, only crouching on flat feet, not kneeling). This would seem to put penile pressure on her G-spot, as I'm thrusting vigorously against her "forward" wall.

She seems to concentrate more on her clit when she masturbates, though.

Hope this helps some...

From Ann 
Who needs what varies, but with most women, the clitoris is it. That's the most sensitive part of our anatomy. However, combining clitoral stimulation with other things will send at least me into orbit. It makes everything better, like an amplifier, as well as being interesting in and of itself. So if G-spot stimulation is almost but not quite enough, pay a bit of attention to her clit. One will get you ten that you'll have to scrape her off the ceiling when you're done.

From Meghann Esoteromuss
In my experience, what pleases me the most is clitoral stimulation in addition to the G-spot. However, from what I have heard, not many women respond to the G-spot alone. I guess I would be one of them because unless I am receiving clitoral stimulation, I cannot achieve an orgasm.

From Kassandra
Normally the only way I can achieve orgasm is through clitoral stimulation but I have found that if I'm receiving clitoral stimulation and G-spot stimulation at the same time, once I orgasm, if the clitoral stimulation is stopped, I can continue with multiple orgasms on the G-spot alone. The motion would be continued stroking/rubbing/pressure on the G-spot area. I hope that makes sense?

From Crystal
I've been out of pocket for several days, but wanted to respond to this. For me personally, I used to think that clitoral stimulation was the only way that I could have an orgasm. But after trying different things, I've discovered that I can have an orgasm from my g-spot, direct clitoral stimulation, nipple stimulation and having my neck bitten. I love a combination of clitoral stimulation and g-spot stimulation. But after I have an orgasm, my clitoris is very very sensitive and I actually prefer having an orgasm from g-spot stimulation because I can come over and over. For one thing, it seems to last longer and it's almost like having a continuous orgasm from one to the next.

From Julia
A couple of good stand-by books that you might find helpful, both with chapters dedicated to G-spot exploration, are "Pucker Up" by Tristan Taormino (available at Amazon.com and Amazon UK) and The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex. (available at Amazon.com and Amazon UK).

Every woman's sexual response is different. Some women come solely from G-spot stimulation, some like to mix in sometimes, some are indifferent, some absolutely hate it. Personally, G-spot stimulation worked in with oral sex is my sexual caviar. And I like caviar...

If your partner enjoys how it feels but doesn't feel G-spot stimulation is leading toward orgasm, you might want to add in clitoral stimulation or whatever else normally gets her off and give her a few orgasms with the added sensation. Then experiment from that point forward.

Good luck! Getting there is definitely at least half the fun.


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