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Playing It Her Way

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From Bob
A couple of techniques that have worked for me:

- Man behind woman (usually sitting on a pillow or a bed rail); goes into vagina and reaches around to play with the clit.

- Woman lays on back, man at 90% angle; man enters and plays with the clit from the side.

- Just lay alongside and play with the clit; when she comes she can jump on you.

- Edge of bed: you can put her up on pillow if bed is not high enough; she plays with the clit, you enter and use your hands to stroke everywhere else.

My wife likes a circular motion around the head of the clit. She says thats her favorite motion. She also likes the fact that my fingers are bigger than hers and that the experience is more random than when she does it.

Women are like the most exquisite musical instruments ever invented; all instruments require practice the more you practice, the better you become and there is no instrument more fun to practice on! Don't worry if you don't get it right away she'll tell you

From Carly
I have a rather large clit and I love to have it sucked - really hard. It then swells up even bigger and at the end of a really good sex session will protrude beyond my vagina lips. As I never wear knickers - this is really sexy and my partner likes to feel it in public!

When having sex, my partner likes to suck on my clit while ass-fucking me with his fingers. When he judges that I'm ready for the really big "O" (after loads of little ones!) he shoves 4 fingers in my ass and bites down on my clit! I go through the roof and the orgasm can last for ages. The amount of cum I produce is amazing.

From Prairieyoni
My clitoris, which is about average size, is entirely covered by the hood and it never protrudes unless I pull the hood right back. I like a variety of different touches, including a circular motion right on the exposed clitoris and a stroking action very much like jerking off, starting at the base of the clitoris and rubbing upward and downward with a finger on either side of my clitoris. But my favorite is very hard rubbing on the left side of the hood. 

Sucking is exquisite, and a tongue flicking over my exposed clitoris is also very pleasurable. Sometimes I use a vibrator during masturbation, usually with my hood pulled back and my bare clit against the vibrator, and my clitoris certainly responds, but the orgasms just aren't as good as when it's fingers or a tongue. Since I got my vertical hood piercing it has become possible to sometimes reach orgasm just from stroking my inner lips or rubbing my vulva vigorously.

When I'm not getting what I need I sometimes use fingers to guide my partner, or other times I simply ask, saying something like, "That feels okay, but could you try THIS, please?"

From Beth
My clit is a shy thing that doesn't like to be accosted vigorously. It likes to be invited out to play politely and with restraint. Once it trusts the playmate, it enjoys a broader range of activity. My clit is very much an extension of me.

Harder is not better. If it is over-stimulated, it gets bored and goes home. This leaves the owner profoundly unhappy, I must say.

If one game isn't working, I usually suggest another or take over the game myself. I have not yet met a man or woman that doesn't like watching a woman pleasure herself. It takes the pressure off a particular situation and actually allows both people to regroup and reestablish a sexual connection.

My clit likes tongues a lot. Sucking, licking, swirling. . .whatever. The nice thing about a tongue is it's gentle by nature and anatomy. Still, if someone tries to use their tongue like a floor polisher (too hard, too fast) I'll gently suggest altering the pace.

With my husband, if we are in a mood and I am REALLY ready to go, I will let him get nasty with it. . .a little whack perhaps. He is the only one who gets to do that because I trust him to know when that is appropriate. However, when it is. . .holy cow. . .blows my mind.

Over all, nothing beats a nice gentle finger. . .mine or someone else's. At heart and centre, I'm a simple girl.

From Misha
I find that my clit tends to be moody... in other words, it likes certain things depending on my mood. Which means that what works one day may be too gentle or too hard the next. Very hard with most new lovers which probably explains why I'm not usually all excited to try out someone new—tends to be just frustrating.

The boy I'm with now has a great technique of exploration... he tries different things and can tell by my reactions, tension in muscles, etc how I like or don't like it. Then he focuses on the ones I'm enjoying at the time. I tend to like soft at first, and then I can handle rougher. With the second and third ones I need the roughness to get results.

I do know the jingling bell one you refer to. It's like if they were trying to turn on and off a light switch with their tongue. Flick up, flick down, etc. It's especially disconcerting when there's no other contact with skin... in other words, they're just flicking the clit, not sucking on the labia, or exploring other places. And if they try to do it right at the start it almost hurts... too sensitive. I do tend to like it for the second or third one, though... but by then, I'm well warmed up and lubed and not so sensitive.

From Pisces Girl
Don, my Man, you are right on it! [see Don's entry below] Every woman is different, with different clits and "vajay-jays". The secret is knowing what you like, and what foreplay you need to get you on the verge of orgasm. And a man who is willing to help you get there.

I get very aroused from nipple play, but in my earlier years I could only come from pressing my legs together and having the guy rub my clit (I think I am on the smaller end, and my lips are small as well), or go down on me while my legs were pressed together.

After some time without a man, I learned to take care of myself, and now can fully orgasm (after intense nipple play) with my legs full-blown apart, several times, and then with g-spot stimulation, then full blown intercourse.

I am like a sex machine with the right stimulation. Girls, don't be afraid to tell your man how you like it. Every woman is different. And what worked for his last girl might not work for you. But, you know how to get your message across. Don't be afraid! Stand up for your orgasmic rights!

And, if you don't know what works for you, read this site for masturbation tips. Learn what makes you tick!

From Don
Hey guys and gals, reading this stream says one thing to me. Clits and what a lady likes done to her clit varies a lot. So guys ask her what she likes, experiment, and see what works for her. 

Gals tell him what you like, maybe even show him! If by some chance it is all new to you then experiment and give him feedback. Surely you know what works when you "do" yourself. Tell him!

From Anonymous
I love it so much when my boyfriend goes down on me.  I like it when my boyfriend gently pull the skin on my clit backward and suck it. Does any female feel uncomfortable when your boyfriend lick your clit through "down to up" motion? (cuz I do)

From Natalie
Jen, same here, my clit is too sensitive too and I can't touch it directly. [see Jen's entry below]  I got a sharp discomfort when my boyfriend pulls the hood backward and licks the tip of my clit.

From Leigh
My girlfriend's clit and pussy lips are huge. I never knew they could be so big. Her clit is almost like a little penis when it is swollen. She loves it when I lick slowly from one end to the other, teasing her clit while she is sitting on my face. I love it too, because her juices are flowing like crazy. 

Mine are petite - more hidden away. She totally knows how to get my clit and pussy wet and excited. She will simultaneously suck on my clit while finger fucking me and tracing circles near my ass. There is nothing better than coming over and over while your lover licks and sucks you.

From Rick
Years ago I learned to make my wife have an orgasm by pressing my lips together and blowing so that they vibrate against her clit. Pretty much the same as blowing a trumpet. Low frequencies seem best but you can vary the frequency by pressing your lips together harder or less. This is almost always what she wants and she has intense orgasms this way usually demanding that I penetrate her while her orgasm goes on. No one I have mentioned this to admits trying it. Surely I am not the only one to "discover" this technique.

From Louise
One sure way to enjoy clitoral stimulation, for myself, is when my husband takes his time stimulating my clit. He uses his mouth and fingers. Once my clit is swollen and hard, he holds it with his thumb and middle finger and jerks it off. These type of orgasms are without a doubt the most intense I've ever experienced.

From Patty
If I'm masturbating, I like to rub my clit, covered by the hood, back and forth with the index and middle fingers of my right hand, feeling the hard shaft under my fingers. If I press down hard I can kind of make the shaft "snap" as I rub back and forth. If I keep doing that for long I'll explode into orgasm. I love to rub it back and forth like that, and I can literally do it for hours. It's easy to keep the sensation at the right level that I want it, to slack off or make it more intense so that I can start my orgasm. 

I also like to pull the hood back and gently touch the head with my wet fingertip, rubbing gently back and forth. As soon as my fingertip (or his tongue) first touches the head, I'll let out a long sigh because the feeling is so intense. I can't last long doing that until I have an explosive orgasm. 

I like for my guy to also suck my clit, covered by the head, into his mouth and lightly chew on it. I'll groan from deep in my chest as he does that until I scream bloody murder as I come. Sometimes I just beg him to chew on it and not stop until I explode.

From Cindy
My clit is easily accessible once I have played with my nipples. It sticks out and I can touch it thru my pants or just push my shorts or skirt to the side and let it jut out to get rubbed. I like to do this often and I do, sometimes getting carried away in semi private settings outside. I come easily, but getting there secretly stroking my clit and nipples is such a thrill. My G spot is not as easy to get to, but I like that too, laying down. I guess I like my clit best, it swells and looks and feels so good when big and hard.

From Cindy
I love to have my clit played with a lot. I recently got some clit jewelry with beads hanging from it and love to get my clit super hard and sticking out, slide that clit clip over my swollen clit and just enjoy the erotic waves of pleasure. I either play with myself while doing porn or my husband does. I wear it during the day alone and horny. 

We both appreciate the fact that my clit not only stays huge and sticks out so much it is easily seen, but I start to come each time it is teased. Worn all day will drive me crazy, and worn in public is tricky, just walking around I am so horny. Especially in public. But I love it. The body rush is so good. The orgasm is almost too strong. Touching my nipples during the long time I am wearing the clit clip makes me throb, I think my clit thickens. It is insane, but wonderful.

From Ms Suzie
Ladies, be careful! Think twice and get full disclosure before piercing your clit. Like Soraya, [see entry below] I had my clitoris pierced 5 years ago, but my experience was the completely the opposite. It was extremely painful for a very long time, and once it healed, my clit was partially numb and still is to this day. I removed the ring after 8 months, and still my clit is partially numb. 

Now it takes considerable clit play before I start to feel anything much. Pity I couldn't leave a perfectly lovely clit alone, I had to go fuck it up with a damn piercing. Oh well, live and learn.

Anyways, back to the topic on hand - I like it when my guy rubs my clit on either side, pulling the lips a bit also. It's so very nice when he pays attention to my entire vagina area, not just my clit. 

From Soraya
I agree with Iris! [see iris' entry below] I got my clitoris pierced 10 years ago for my 37th birthday and I LOVE it! Just to be absolutely clear, it is actually my clit that is pierced, not my hood. It was incredibly painful for about 1 second when the needle went through my clitoris, but after that it just a tolerable ache. However it was sensitive - almost unbearably sensitive for the first month - but after it healed, the sensations settled down to being merely exquisite.

And like Iris said, just walking can be a thrill if I focus my thoughts. I usually feel at least a little tug, twist, or pinch when I sit down, and that is nice! It is nice to get a little erotic reminder during the humdrum work day!

I have a rather prominent clit, and I wear a rather thick 10 gauge ring in it (which is equivalent to a bit less than 1/8" thick). I love to have it pulled and twisted aggressively (that is how the hole got stretched from its original 18 gauge, which is about 1/32"). Tugging it really gets me going!

It is hard to describe the sensations during clit play other than WOW! I like to have it tugged, and also love the sensation of having the ring rotated back and forth through my clit. It is like having your clit massaged from the outside AND the inside at the same time.

It is the best sexual aid ever!

From Barbra
I don't know if I am a lesbian or what. I have been with guys earlier, no problems with that. But lately I don't know what happens with me. From this lovely sites of Erotica I found out that I really enjoy reading participants experiences. And what's excites me more then anything else are those written by women.

Can I be frank? What they say they do with their clits, big or small excites me more then ever. So, I masturbate while I read them. And my imagination have no limit at all. If I could watch it fore real would be heaven. But I am satisfied with reading. This make my day worth living for. No harm in that?

My clit really likes when I pull my hood forth and back. I simply like to do this better then have anything inserted in my pussy.

From Anonymous
Whoever posted that one about the wet tea bag is an absolute legend! ooohhh! Just like a real tongue. I used a teabag in long strokes then got quicker and quicker on my clit, until I came.

From Anonymous
I like to masturbate laying face down. I rub my clit through my knickers and open and close my legs quickly and repeatedly as this intensifies the pressure. I absolutely love tongue though. I love it when my girlfriend slowly licks my clit. I like her to spit so there's lots of saliva, but just concentrating on the clit getting faster. Mind-blowing. Has anybody used a warm wet teabag on their clit? That also does the trick it feels like a tongue when I'm desperate.

From Anonymous
My clit needs some time. Use long, languishing strokes on my lips until I'm squirming and moaning. Then and only then, touch my clit. And please don't tongue it - suck it. That's the best thing for me. Same with my nipples - don't tongue it (why do guys always want to tongue things?) - suck it. It is so much more pleasurable!

From Anonymous
To all you girls who join this lovely Erotica Reader & Writers Association: I read that many of you have as me, an oversized clit. Lovely! I use my two fingers when I masturbate. I have my index under and my thumb over my erect clit (like a little penis) moving my hood (jerking) it over my clit gland. I can press my blood inside my erection to the tip and the feelings are just wonderful. Then I work my hood faster until I reach my climax.  It works wonderfully for me.

From Jessica
I really like to masturbate lying down on my stomach. I really can't get off rubbing my clit directly, although when my husband and I have sex I love to rub his dick on my clit, because I get so wet, it really gets me off. I can't get off from regular intercourse either, not even with rubbing my little clit with my hand while we're doing it. My clit is small, but responds to the right stimulation.

From Stiletto Heel
As I get older and more familiar with my clit I find better ways to please it. I examine it and watch myself masturbate in the mirror. I pull back the hood to intensify my self-stimulation and the orgasm to follow. 

My clitoris responds in a variety of ways to so many different forms of stimuli. I think this the benefit that women have over men when it comes to sexual climax ­ a plethora of different orgasms each one slightly different. Anyway, I can almost anticipate the intensity and duration of a clitoral orgasm just based on the form of stimulation whether it’s water, a vibrator, my fingers (standing laying down), a pillow or my partners fingers. 

With that said, I’ve surely developed a preference for the form of stimulus I like the best ­ because I know it the best and have perfected it for myself. My index finger and middle finger rubbing with a moderate amount of pressure in a circular motion over the very tip of my clit while the palm of my other hand rests on the top of my vagina as the fingers pull my lips and skin taut. By holding the skin taut the hood is pulled back to reveal the source of incredible pleasure and an intense orgasm will follow. Ahhh, it’s a good thing. With that done I’m ready to face the day…now off to work.

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