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Playing It Her Way

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From Beth
My clit is a shy thing that doesn't like to be accosted vigorously. It likes to be invited out to play politely and with restraint. Once it trusts the playmate, it enjoys a broader range of activity. My clit is very much an extension of me.

Harder is not better. If it is over-stimulated, it gets bored and goes home. This leaves the owner profoundly unhappy, I must say.

If one game isn't working, I usually suggest another or take over the game myself. I have not yet met a man or woman that doesn't like watching a woman pleasure herself. It takes the pressure off a particular situation and actually allows both people to regroup and reestablish a sexual connection.

My clit likes tongues a lot. Sucking, licking, swirling. . .whatever. The nice thing about a tongue is it's gentle by nature and anatomy. Still, if someone tries to use their tongue like a floor polisher (too hard, too fast) I'll gently suggest altering the pace.

With my husband, if we are in a mood and I am REALLY ready to go, I will let him get nasty with it. . .a little whack perhaps. He is the only one who gets to do that because I trust him to know when that is appropriate. However, when it is. . .holy cow. . .blows my mind.

Over all, nothing beats a nice gentle finger. . .mine or someone else's. At heart and centre, I'm a simple girl.

From Misha
I find that my clit tends to be moody... in other words, it likes certain things depending on my mood. Which means that what works one day may be too gentle or too hard the next. Very hard with most new lovers which probably explains why I'm not usually all excited to try out someone new—tends to be just frustrating.

The boy I'm with now has a great technique of exploration... he tries different things and can tell by my reactions, tension in muscles, etc how I like or don't like it. Then he focuses on the ones I'm enjoying at the time. I tend to like soft at first, and then I can handle rougher. With the second and third ones I need the roughness to get results.

I do know the jingling bell one you refer to. It's like if they were trying to turn on and off a light switch with their tongue. Flick up, flick down, etc. It's especially disconcerting when there's no other contact with skin... in other words, they're just flicking the clit, not sucking on the labia, or exploring other places. And if they try to do it right at the start it almost hurts... too sensitive. I do tend to like it for the second or third one, though... but by then, I'm well warmed up and lubed and not so sensitive.

From Pisces Girl
Don, my Man, you are right on it! [see Don's entry below] Every woman is different, with different clits and "vajay-jays". The secret is knowing what you like, and what foreplay you need to get you on the verge of orgasm. And a man who is willing to help you get there.

I get very aroused from nipple play, but in my earlier years I could only come from pressing my legs together and having the guy rub my clit (I think I am on the smaller end, and my lips are small as well), or go down on me while my legs were pressed together.

After some time without a man, I learned to take care of myself, and now can fully orgasm (after intense nipple play) with my legs full-blown apart, several times, and then with g-spot stimulation, then full blown intercourse.

I am like a sex machine with the right stimulation. Girls, don't be afraid to tell your man how you like it. Every woman is different. And what worked for his last girl might not work for you. But, you know how to get your message across. Don't be afraid! Stand up for your orgasmic rights!

And, if you don't know what works for you, read this site for masturbation tips. Learn what makes you tick!

From Don
Hey guys and gals, reading this stream says one thing to me. Clits and what a lady likes done to her clit varies a lot. So guys ask her what she likes, experiment, and see what works for her. 

Gals tell him what you like, maybe even show him! If by some chance it is all new to you then experiment and give him feedback. Surely you know what works when you "do" yourself. Tell him!

From Anonymous
I love it so much when my boyfriend goes down on me.  I like it when my boyfriend gently pull the skin on my clit backward and suck it. Does any female feel uncomfortable when your boyfriend lick your clit through "down to up" motion? (cuz I do)

From Natalie
Jen, same here, my clit is too sensitive too and I can't touch it directly. [see Jen's entry below]  I got a sharp discomfort when my boyfriend pulls the hood backward and licks the tip of my clit.

From Leigh
My girlfriend's clit and pussy lips are huge. I never knew they could be so big. Her clit is almost like a little penis when it is swollen. She loves it when I lick slowly from one end to the other, teasing her clit while she is sitting on my face. I love it too, because her juices are flowing like crazy. 

Mine are petite - more hidden away. She totally knows how to get my clit and pussy wet and excited. She will simultaneously suck on my clit while finger fucking me and tracing circles near my ass. There is nothing better than coming over and over while your lover licks and sucks you.

From Rick
Years ago I learned to make my wife have an orgasm by pressing my lips together and blowing so that they vibrate against her clit. Pretty much the same as blowing a trumpet. Low frequencies seem best but you can vary the frequency by pressing your lips together harder or less. This is almost always what she wants and she has intense orgasms this way usually demanding that I penetrate her while her orgasm goes on. No one I have mentioned this to admits trying it. Surely I am not the only one to "discover" this technique.

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