Body Image

How Do You See Yourself?

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From Nicole
I am 5' 8" and I weigh 150 lbs. When I tell people what I weigh the do not believe me. Perhaps I carry it well, I wear a size 10. In high school I weighed 125, I was probably too skinny, but I ate all the time. I guess the point I am trying to make is, since I have gained 25 pounds in the last 3 years, I feel as if I have blimped out. I am constantly bombarded with thoughts that I am fat, and I don't like it.

Deep down I know that I am beautiful, I just need to have the courage to carry myself the way that I feel, if that makes any sense. I am starting to like my body more and more, my boyfriend always tells me that he loves my body, I just need to, listen to him and myself and stop looking at those horrid magazines and commercials with the "perfect" people in them. I think some day soon I will be where I need to be.

From Kymberlyn
In the black/african-american community, size has never been an issue. In fact, it's the "big girls" who have the hippest and coolest attitudes towards their size. And black men like their women to have "meat on their bones". I've got to tell you, when I was thin, I was miserable. All the pretty girls who got the attention had bodies. They had hips and derrieres and breasts and looked more like the Venus of Willendorf. I looked like a telephone pole. When my body finally played catch-up, I was so happy. I actually called my mom from college and announced very loudly that "I had tits and hips!"

Slowly, this positive outlook is changing, and certainly not for the better. Studies are showing a growing rate of bulimia amongst young black girls, especially those who live in more integrated cities.

Let's face it ladies, the average woman in America is a size 12 to 14. I'm a perfectly happy and curvy size 14. There's no excuse for feeling "fat". Haven't you checked out stores like Lane Bryant and Ashley Stewart these days? And Mattel has just released the 'Emme Barbie' based on the proportions of my favourite big girl, Emme.

As far as changing attitudes, it is up to us as women to make our voices heard. After all, it's sort of useless to complain about fashion magazines like Cosmo and Glamour, then go right out and buy them. Women must support companies and fashion houses that cater to what real women are--and we are NOT a bunch of anorexic boy-toys.

Sexually speaking, as a size 14, I feel more erotic. I look at myself in the mirror and I like the curves and the way my body feels when my lover is touching me, that there's so much for him to explore.

From Roxy
In my opinion....is all a state of mind, baby!

Honestly, it's more what's on the inside that ultimately counts anyway. But I feel regardless of your size, body type or sex, if you think your sexy and beautiful/handsome, you are. And I find that that confidence/attitude radiates from you.

It took me a long time to come to that conclusion. I, like many of you, have struggled with body image/weight my entire life (and I still do, especially after the birth of my children). But when hit college and found that men did indeed find my body attractive, well...hehehe.... I stopped trying to starve myself down to an uncomfortable weight and let my body take its natural voluptuous form.

Would I like to be a size 6...yeah, sure...usually after I finish leafing through Victoria Secret's new catalogue. But a lascivious leer from my husband *grin*, an appreciative stare of a male friend or a flattering comment from a stranger all help strengthen my attitude. I am quite happy being a 14. I'm healthy. I'm real. And I'm insatiable....(God help my husband!)

From Ms.J
What a tough topic. I think most women, and probably men too, struggle with "body image" at some time or another. I know I've wrestled with it for most of my life. For most of my life I've fought the endless battle of being overweight. For too much of that time I based my "body image" on what I thought other people saw, thought, or accepted. It took many years, and many tears, for me to grow to understand that it really only mattered what I saw and believed of myself. Since coming to that level of maturity I've been much happier. Now I enjoy being me and sharing the real me with loved ones and friends. Do I still occasionally fret about weight? You betcha! I'm only human. But I don't obsess over it. I only have to look in the mirror to see the real me...and I love what I see!

From Sascha
I'm thin. Underweight, but I try to overeat, honestly I do! I don't like my image and haven't for a number of years. It's not so much that I'm thin, that's not a problem, as the above examples have pointed out, it's that I for the longest time had no meat on my body, and having the pale skin I do, it just didn't look that appealing to me. So I figured no chick was going to pick up on that with me. I started running, lifting weights and when I do those things, my opinion of my self is very low still, but much better than mentioned. I think people put too much emphasis on self looks though.

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