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From John
Interesting that the majority of entries here are from women, and those are pro BDSM. There's a dearth of male input, and those are mostly con views. And here I am adding to the status quo: There isn't anything in the BDSM line-up that attracts me as either doer or receiver. I discussed it with my wife (married 23 years), concerned that perhaps she might be hankering for a spanking, domination (either way) or some such. Her response: "no, no, and no" to which I say thank goodness! I love this woman.

From Mary
I am definitely into it, but I don't know how to handle it. I discovered I love being spanked. The slaps go right to my clit. Not knowing when the next one comes turns me on. Most of my lovers I've been with liked or at least didn't mind spanking me. But that's as far as it goes. I'd like being tied up and blindfolded, whipped or caned maybe. I'd like to try and find out if that's really my thing. But as much as I'd like to put myself in someone else's hands, I refuse to call anyone my master. Giving away control, fine, but equality is important for me.

From Anonymous
I have just recently been interested in bondage. It took several requests for my hands to be tied before my husband would do it. I am very turned on with my hands being tied above my head with a silk scarf. Now I would like to take it to another level and have my hands and legs tied spread eagle. Can't explain why I enjoy it. Maybe just being submissive and letting him be totally in control.

From Suzie
My partner and I do not live a BDSM lifestyle, the thought of it makes me cringe. We live fairly boring day to day lives and he does far more housework than I do. If he ever tried to tell me off or punish me, I don't know what I'd do, but it wouldn't be pretty! 

But our sex is always BDSM related in someway. For as long as we can both remember we've had 'kinky' fantasies. Mine started before I was ten. I dreamed about being whipped and dominated before I even knew it was a sexual practice. That's why I know it's not wrong or perverse, it's just something in me. I'm the submissive, the masochist if you like, in the relationship. I like pain. When the endorphins are flowing I like a lot of pain; my faves are when he uses a leather flogger on my backside or pinches my nipples really hard. I love him to pull my hair too. But, to be honest, and I get the sense that this is the same with a lot of BDSM practicing couples, the pain is only so wonderful because it is part of the submission. 

I'm a wimp with a really low pain threshold in day to day life. I hate hurting myself accidentally and I take paracetamol at the first sign of a headache. And it wouldn't turn me on if he just grabbed hold of me and hurt me. The pain is only a small part of the much greater whole. 

 I don't like the thought of pain for pain's sake, or of being cut, branded or scarred in anyway as a result of it. That's not for me. But if pain is an element of my total sexual submission, then give it to me, please...I'm begging on my knees.

From Grey
I think that Bondage and S&M is unhealthy. Love making should be loving not punishing and humiliating. Just because you have sexual fantasy about it and just because it turns you on, doesn't mean it is right or good for you. Critically ask yourself why it turns you on? Why do you feel you have to be mistreated? Why do you want to punish someone else? There are other reasons that are being projected into your sexuality. Nothing beats equality in the bedroom, nothing beats tenderness, affection and love!

From Curtis
I've played for a number of years with several different women, but I have no interest in a BDSM lifestyle, I just like to play kinky games.  I've played both sides, dominant and submissive and enjoy both depending on my mood. I'm not into serious pain, nipple torture doesn't interest me, (although I think my wife would enjoy some adjustable nipple clamps).

I love spankings, giving and receiving! My first time as a submissive was in my twenties. My girlfriend blindfolded me, tied my hands, straddled my face and made me eat her until she'd come multiple times.  After her orgasms, she tied me with my legs spread and my feet up in the air and proceeded to spank me. After my ass started turning pink, she slipped her vibrator into my ass. The combination of the vibrator in my ass, and the blows from her hairbrush was mind-blowing. After my ass was bright red, and she slowed down on the spanking and started sucking my toes while she fucked me with the vibrator.  She had always liked for me to suck her toes, but no one had ever done it to me.  She finally finished me off in her mouth and then made me swallow my own cum. After she untied me and removed the blindfold she handed me my glasses and pointed to the corner of the room, she'd rented a video camera and taped the whole thing! 

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