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Single Syllable Steve 
By Sam Thorne
Single Syllable Steve
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The fella ain't for talking

The Contract by Tonya Kinzer
The Contract
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The Executive Decision Boxed Set
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Backbone by Kayleigh Sky
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Enslaved by love and fate

How To Writer Erotic Fiction by Ashley LIster
How To Write Erotic Fiction
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Amorous Woman
Amorous Woman
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An erotic trip to Japan

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Sex Guides

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The following collection of sex guides, how-to books, and sexy sex ed videos will help you and your partner become better lovers by discovering what makes you tick and how you can tickle it.

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The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty by Joan PriceThe Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty by Joan Price
Cleis Press, January 2015; ISBN-10: 1627780963

“Sex changes with aging, but for every problem, there is a solution,” says Joan Price, “senior sexpert” for the over-fifty population. Her definitive guide to sex and aging has it all: medical challenges, loss of libido, loss of intimacy, dating, elusive orgasms, erectile dysfunction, vaginal pain, self-pleasuring, sex toys, kink, and more. The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty delivers solid, practical information in a friendly, accessible style to help all genders and orientations, partnered or unpartnered, enjoy their sexuality for the rest of their lives.

Joan Price is best known for Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex, which won Outstanding Self-Help Book 2012 from the American Society of Journalists and Authors and Best Book Award 2012 from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Her first senior sex book was her sexy memoir, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty.

People over fifty who hunger for real information from an age-appropriate author will appreciate Price's savvy advice, personal candor, and humor. Whether you have a vibrant sex life or an unfulfilling one that you’d like to fix, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty will be a valuable resource.

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Partners In Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long-term Love by Mark A. Michaels & Patricia JohnsonPartners In Passion by Mark A. Michaels & Patricia Johnson
Cleis Press, March 2014; ISBN-10: 1627780289

Most of us long for intimate relationships, and though texting and emailing may keep us superficially connected, it ultimately cannot create the kind of intimacy necessary to sustain a deep, fulfilling, and lasting partnership. With the divorce rate reaching a staggering 50 percent in 2013 and the breakup rate among unmarried long-term couples even higher, it appears that the more we tweet, the more disconnected we become. So many of us believe that new is better, hotter, and more intense, but love at first sight isn't really love, it's chemistry. Developing the connections and intimacy that everyone craves takes time and skill. In Partners in Passion, Michaels and Johnson provide readers with a fun, step-by-step guide to discovering true, loving, and romantically sexual relationships that will last for decades.

Comprehensive and inclusive, Partners in Passion is original and provocative, drawing on a variety of sources: cutting-edge science, psychology, the authors' background in tantra, and personal experiences as teachers and as a couple. Partners in Passion invites couples to design their relationships and to choose consciously, and is replete with how-to suggestions and exercises, including interviews with couples from diverse backgrounds, relationship styles, and orientations who are enjoying erotically vibrant partnerships.

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Kissing: A Field Guide by Violet BlueKissing: A Field Guide by Violet Blue
Cleis Press, March 2014; ISBN-10: 1627780408

Kissing is an art form. A great kiss can stop traffic, start a five-alarm fire, and feel like Times Square on New Year's Eve. Get your smooch on with all the different tricks and tips in this handy guide. Bestselling author and columnist Violet Blue helps readers choose — and perfect — their very own unforgettable kissing style.

Learn how to time a kiss perfectly, how to deliver (and receive) a first kiss, and how to ask for kisses with body language. Recognize when someone wants to kiss you, when to build tension, and when to take your kiss to the next level. Discover all the secrets and foolproof techniques for the perfect kiss in this indispensable guide to an overlooked sensual art.

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50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino
Cleis Press, March 2014; ISBN-10: 1627780300

Tristan Taormino can tell you everything you want to know about the world of kink, and more! Operating on the pleasure principle, 50 Shades of Kink is a truly helpful how-to that is the perfect beginner's guide to the realm of kinky sex and can also serve as a wonderful refresher course. Whether readers want to get up close and personal with blindfolds, crops, and paddles or are just looking for some inspiration to keep things fresh in the bedroom, 50 Shades of Kink is ideal for everyone and their lover(s). Included are techniques and creative ideas for bondage, spanking, flogging, sensation play, and rough sex; lessons on how to eroticize power, cultivate deeper connections, and incorporate kink into one’s sex life; and role-playing fantasies from the popular to the taboo.

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The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian
Cleis Press, February 2013; ISBN-10: 1573449040

The “discovery” of the G-spot opened up an era of sexual expansion for millions of women. Just as G-spot exploration forever transformed women’s experience of orgasm, The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners offers men erotic pleasure beyond what they imagined possible. Men who may not feel confident exploring anal play will be empowered to claim the prostate as an erogenous zone ripe for exploration. And men who already enjoy prostate play will find much to learn from sex educators Charlie Glickman, Ph.D., and Aislinn Emirzian, whose wisdom and warmth will be both reassuring and inspirational to readers.

The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners supports all men who want to explore this powerful source of sexual fulfillment—both curious and seasoned adventurers who are ready to put their ass on the line for erotic enjoyment.

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The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino (Editor)The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino (Editor)
Cleis Press, March 2012; ISBN-10: 157344779X

The Ultimate Guide to Kink is the first major guide to BDSM in a generation—a bold and sexy collection of essays that run the gamut from expert how-to tutorials to provocative essays that delve into complex questions about desire, power, and pleasure. The book brings together diverse voices from the kink community in an unprecedented way: each chapter is written by a different sexuality/BDSM educator. Divided into two sections, the first section features thorough, thoughtful pieces—on everything from flogging to bondage—packed with techniques and beautifully illustrated with original images from artist Katie Diamond. The second section is dedicated to role-playing fantasies and personal manifestos.

From age play to masochism, these chapters cover some of the edgiest, most taboo and controversial elements of kink in depth. The Ultimate Guide to Kink features the expertise of renowned educators writing passionately on their favorite subjects, including Patrick Califia, Midori, Laura Antoniou, Barbara Carrellas, Lee Harrington, Jack Rinella, Lolita Wolf, Madison Young, Hardy Haberman, Felice Shays, Ignacio Rivera, Sarah Sloane, Mollena Williams, FifthAngel, and Edge. It will educate, inspire, and challenge both newcomers to the world of kink and experienced BDSM players.

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fBig Big Love, Revised: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them) by Hanne Blank
Celestial Arts; Revised edition, september 2011; ISBN-10: 158761085X

Review by Kitty Stryker:  Many sex guides expect the reader and their lover/s to have a slender, athletic body, and their tips are offered accordingly. But what if you have a soft belly, rounded thighs or a plump behind? These guides can often offer frustration in place of titilation if you're built for comfort. Thankfully, there is a new, revised edition of Hanne Blank's book "Big Big Love: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them)" to give everyone else sex advice they can really use.

On top of the excellent advice and information ranging from health to navigating the dating world, this edition has a bunch of fresh new interviews from body-acceptance activists to fatshionistas, along with some brilliant new illustrations and hundreds of new quotes from fat folks and those who care about them. Ranging from practical advice (sex positions and toy usage) to emotional support (building confidence and myth-busting), it's a full-figured resource. This is not just a book for plus-sized people, however, and there's a great, thoughtful section just for fat admirers on how to be a supportive lover and ally. The revised "Big Big Love" proves itself to be just as indispensable as it was when it first came out.

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Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women by Mikaya HeartThe Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women by Mikaya Heart
Cleis Press, August 2011; ISBN-10: 1573447110

Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first and most important steps toward ensuring our own fulfillment.

The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women is an unflinchingly honest, responsible, and thoroughly comprehensive exploration of female sexuality. Topics include: The physical types of orgasm, such as electrical, flying, pounding, deep, waves, and blips; orgasm as an emotional release; the "elusive orgasm" and why some women have difficulty having one; how often we fake them and why; masturbation; multiple orgasms; the male-female dichotomy; penetration and the G-spot; defining the erotic; and the joy of sex toys.

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Guide to CunnlingusThe Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus by Violet Blue
Cleis Press; Second Edition, November 2010; ISBN-10: 1573443875

Truly the bible of oral sex for today, The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus gives excellent advice, encouragement, and helpful instruction for those who want to expand their expertise or are simply curious about the finer points of cunnilingus. Award-winning author and sex educator Viloet Blue did extensive research and scoured the science and literature of female pleasure to provide step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman. She presents accurate and up-to-date information on female anatomy and sexual response. Featuring erotica by Alison Tyler and helpful illustrations, this is the essential, in-depth guide to giving and receiving oral pleasure.

Violet Blue is like the trusted best friend you can ask anything - but with the expertise of a sex educator who has advised hundreds of thousands of people.

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How Sex WorksHow Sex Works: Why We Look, Smell, Taste, Feel, and Act the Way We Do by Dr. Sharon Moalem
Harper, April 2009; ISBN-10: 0061479659

Why are women biologically driven to find Mr. Tall, Dark, and Handsome? Can more sex help ensure a safe pregnancy? What effect does pornography have on a man's fertility?

In this compelling follow-up to the New York Times bestseller Survival of the Sickest, Dr. Sharon Moalem takes us on a trip from prehistory to the forefront of cutting-edge medical research, and through a bedroom or two, to tell the story of how human sexuality has developed over time. How Sex Works challenges common perceptions about our bodies and provides astonishing discoveries from the frontiers of science as it traces the transformation of sex across species and through time to its current role in human societies.

Find out the answers to such provocative questions as:

  • Can the birth control pill influence the type of men women are attracted to?
  • What do men and honeybees have in common when it comes to sex?
  • Why do hourglass-shaped women tend to be especially fertile?
  • When are women most likely to cheat?
  • Can twins have different fathers?

From the composition and function of human sex organs to the fascinating biochemistry behind sexual attraction, How Sex Works presents captivating new ideas and surprising answers to questions about contraception, fertility, circumcision, menopause, STDs, homosexuality, orgasms, and more. This is an entertaining, comprehensive exploration of culture, biology, and history that takes us far beyond our common understanding of sex.

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The Guide to getting it onThe Guide to Getting It On, 6th Edition by Psy.D. Paul Joannides
Goofy Foot Press; 6 edition (January 20, 2009): ISBN-10: 1885535333

Explicit, encyclopedic, and totally accessible, Guide to Getting It On! is regarded as one of the best how-to books on sex ever written, and certainly the most fun to read. This new commemorative edition doesn't disappoint. Along with the tips, techniques, positions, inhibitions, photographs, and slang terms from earlier editions, it includes over 100 new pages on a wide array of topics.

With 15 new illustrations, five new chapters, 48 additional pages and 2,753 updates, this fully revised and expanded 6th edition of the Guide To Getting It On is the best ever. You will be hard-pressed to find a single page of this down-to-earth sex book that doesn't bring a smile, a blush of crimson, or a moment of awe. Few books on sex are as satisfying. No topic is too verboten, no question too stupid, no hang-up too weird, it's all here, presented with a joy and acceptance of all aspects of human sexuality that puts readers at ease and ready to get it on.

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Anal Sex The Anal Sex Position Guide: The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure by Tristan Taormino
Quiver (May 1, 2009); ISBN-10: 1592333567

Often considered the most intimate of sexual activities, anal sex is gaining mainstream acceptance as the ultimate in alternative intercourse. This guide takes the intimidation factor out of anal sex and shows heterosexual couples the best positions for pain-free pleasure.

Introductory material discusses how to experience anal sex safely and pleasurably, hygiene and safety, bringing up the topic with a partner, and the use of sex toys and accessories. Subsequent chapters are position-specific: positions for first-timers; positions to spice up your repertoire; and advanced positions. A perfect companion to Tristan's Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, this guide focuses on a diverse group of positions, their pros and cons, and how to get the most out of them, including an entire chapter on strap-on positions for fans of pegging!

All the tips and techniques are illustrated with gorgeous full color erotic photography, created originally for this book. It's the ultimate anal sex coffee table book!

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Tickle His PickleTickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing by Sadie Allison
Tickle Kitty Press (July 2004); ISBN-10: 0970661126

Here's the penis instruction manual that should come with every guyall the highly orgasmic touches and techniques that'll rev up your passion, rekindle his intimacy, and spark the reddest hottest lustiest sex ever. Sexy and inspiring...honest and provocative...candid and exciting, Tickle His Pickle informs, entertains and reveals the penis secrets women long to know.

Want to reveal YOUR inner penis genius? Then come discover...

  • Over 50 sizzling techniques to master oral lovemaking
  • Dozens of ways to turn your hands into living sex toys
  • How to fulfill his biggest erotic fantasies (so he'll beg for more)
  • Arousing sex toy tricks that'll supercharge his orgasms
  • More than 100 fun, tasteful, titillating illustrations to guide your learning process
  • Secret touching tips for the "Male G-Spot" & other pleasure zones
  • Plus many more turn-onsfor both of you!

Available at: Amazon

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