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The following collection of sex guides, how-to books, and sexy sex ed videos will help you and your partner become better lovers by discovering what makes you tick and how you can tickle it.

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Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex by Rachel Venning & Claire Cavanah
Avery Trade, January 5, 2010; ISBN-10: 158333372X

The founders of Babeland, the nation's most popular sex-toy boutique, offers a real-world guide to getting satisfied, with frank answers to frequently asked questions.

When Babeland opened its doors in 1993 in Seattle, it filled the need for a "toy store" that made customers feel comfortable, and a non- threatening environment for asking intimate questions about sex. Fast- forward to the twenty-first century: taboos continue to fade, and Babeland has opened new stores coast to coast and online. Thousands of men and women have attended Babeland workshops, gleaning details on how to give and get mind-blowing orgasms. Now this core curriculum—with its spirit of open-minded playfulness—is available to everyone.

Easing anxiety about bodily pleasure, Moregasm is for women of all ages and the men (and women) who love them. Detailed and comprehensive, it's an exuberant and friendly manual of modern sex, filled with stylish photographs and illustrations, questions, suggestions, personal stories from real people, and easy to follow advice.

More fun than any other sex guide and offering the most in-depth, up-to-date information, it's a must-have for anyone who's ever done it, wants to do it, or wants to do it better.
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The Guide to Getting It On, 6th Edition by Psy.D. Paul Joannides
Goofy Foot Press; 6 edition (January 20, 2009): ISBN-10: 1885535333

Explicit, encyclopedic, and totally accessible, Guide to Getting It On! is regarded as one of the best how-to books on sex ever written ­ and certainly the most fun to read. This new commemorative edition doesn't disappoint. Along with the tips, techniques, positions, inhibitions, photographs, and slang terms from earlier editions, it includes over 100 new pages on a wide array of topics.

With 15 new illustrations, five new chapters, 48 additional pages and 2,753 updates, this fully revised and expanded 6th edition of the Guide To Getting It On is the best ever. You will be hard-pressed to find a single page of this down-to-earth sex book that doesn't bring a smile, a blush of crimson, or a moment of awe. Few books on sex are as satisfying. No topic is too verboten, no question too stupid, no hang-up too weird ­ it's all here, presented with a joy and acceptance of all aspects of human sexuality that puts readers at ease and ready to get it on.
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Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage by Jenny Block
Seal Press (March 1, 2009); ISBN-10: 1580052754

Finally, a book about open marriage that grapples with the problems surrounding monogamy and fidelity in an honest, heartfelt, and non-fringe manner. Jenny Block is your average girl next door, a suburban wife and mother for whom married life never felt quite right. While many books on this topic presuppose that the reader is ready to embrace an “alternative lifestyle,” Block operates from the assumption that most couples who are curious about or engaged in open marriages are in fact more like her — normal people who question whether monogamy is right for them; good people who love their spouses but want variation; capable parents who are not deviant just because they choose to be honest about their desires.

Open challenges our notions of what traditional marriage looks like, and presents one woman's journey down an uncertain path that ultimately proves open marriage is a viable option for her and others.

"Block skillfully blends her story with research on sexuality, momogamy, adultery, and divorce . . . This honest and compelling memoir should spark a respectful dialogue about the underground status of open marriages . . . Buy it. Read it." —Library Journal
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The Anal Sex Position Guide: The Best Positions for Easy, Exciting, Mind-Blowing Pleasure by Tristan Taormino
Quiver (May 1, 2009); ISBN-10: 1592333567

Often considered the most intimate of sexual activities, anal sex is gaining mainstream acceptance as the ultimate in alternative intercourse. This guide takes the intimidation factor out of anal sex and shows heterosexual couples the best positions for pain-free pleasure.

Introductory material discusses how to experience anal sex safely and pleasurably, hygiene and safety, bringing up the topic with a partner, and the use of sex toys and accessories. Subsequent chapters are position-specific: positions for first-timers; positions to spice up your repertoire; and advanced positions. A perfect companion to Tristan's Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, this guide focuses on a diverse group of positions, their pros and cons, and how to get the most out of them, including an entire chapter on strap-on positions for fans of pegging!

All the tips and techniques are illustrated with gorgeous full color erotic photography, created originally for this book. It's the ultimate anal sex coffee table book!
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Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing by Sadie Allison
Tickle Kitty Press (July 2004); ISBN-10: 0970661126

Here's the penis instruction manual that should come with every guyall the highly orgasmic touches and techniques that'll rev up your passion, rekindle his intimacy, and spark the reddest hottest lustiest sex ever. Sexy and inspiring...honest and provocative...candid and exciting, Tickle His Pickle informs, entertains and reveals the penis secrets women long to know.

Want to reveal YOUR inner penis genius? Then come discover...

• Over 50 sizzling techniques to master oral lovemaking
• Dozens of ways to turn your hands into living sex toys
• How to fulfill his biggest erotic fantasies (so he'll beg for more)
• Arousing sex toy tricks that'll supercharge his orgasms
• More than 100 fun, tasteful, titillating illustrations to guide your learning process
• Secret touching tips for the "Male G-Spot" & other pleasure zones
• Plus many more turn-onsfor both of you!
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Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty by Joan Price
Seal Press (January 9, 2006); ISBN 1580051529

Better Than I Ever Expected is a warm, witty, and honest book that contends with the challenges and celebrates the delights of older-life sexuality. It asserts that women over sixty are at the top of their game when it comes to enjoying sex.

Joan Price's woman-to-woman straight talk transcends the self-help style of other books in this field. Yes, there are challenges to sex after menopause and beyond, says Price, but there are also creative solutions. She is on a mission to let women her age and older know that they can, in fact, have the best sex of their lives. Price gets personal and stays positive, combining her own story with candid comments, tips, and sassy tales from sexually seasoned women. She acknowledges the gritty issues that older women confront in their sexual lives, noting that it's not easy, but it certainly isn't over.

At age 61, Price is newly engaged to the man she's been looking for her whole life. Her discovery of how great "well-seasoned" sex can be was the inspiration for this book. Sidebars present candid and friendly sex tips; fitness, exercise, and lifestyle information; and women's erotic vignettes-both real-life experiences and fantasies.
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The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (2nd Edition) by Tristan Taormino
Cleis Press; 2nd edition (February 9, 2006); ISBN 1573442216

Revised and updated throughout, including all-new chapters specifically for beginners and for women giving anal pleasure to men, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women is a comprehensive and creative guide to anal pleasure. Tristan Taormino offers the kind of informed reassurance that can encourage even an absolute beginner to explore this nerve-rich part of the body, either alone or with a partner of any gender. Anal sex enthusiasts may need no encouragement, but will welcome Taormino's sense of adventure and her detailed discussions of toys, fantasy play, and positions. 

Beginning by dispelling common myths about anal eroticism, Taormino goes on to illustrate anatomy, give tips on building trust and communicating desires, and provide reliable, easy-to-understand information on safety, preparation, hygiene, and much more. This new edition has been substantially expanded and revised to include new information on masturbation, anal health, BDSM and anal sex, and many other topics. In a new feature, Taormino answers actual reader questions.
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The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus by Violet Blue
Paperback - 150 pages (April 2002) Cleis Pr; ISBN: 1573441449

Many people enjoy giving and receiving cunnilingus, but where do you turn when you want to learn more about oral sex or ways to introduce it into a relationship? The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus is a resource for people who are looking to expand their expertise or are simply curious. In her clear, concise, and informative text, sex educator Violet Blue provides step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman, as well as accurate and up-to-date information on female anatomy and response. In her friendly, witty tone, Blue dispatches fascinating facts and discusses games for lovers, positions, safety, a variety of techniques, erotic book and video recommendations, and tips for effectively communicating with a partner.
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The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue
Paperback; Publisher Cleis Pr; ISBN 1573441511; (October 2002)

With wit, expertise, and an enthusiastic approach, the author of The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus dispels myths and delivers concise information on going down on a man. Featuring a complete resource guide to books, videos, illustrations, and websites depicting fellatio, every tip, trick, and technique for giving skilled and unforgettable fellatio is provided. From talking to your partner about fellatio to male pleasure spots and sexual response, Violet Blue covers rimming, shaving, positions, oral sex games for couples, flavored lubricants, sex toys, and a plethora of oral techniques. Original, unpublished erotic vignettes by Alison Tyler are sure to get readers in the mood for trying out these tips.
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A Different Loving by Gloria G. Brame and William D. Brame
Paperback (January 1996) Villard Books; ISBN: 0679769560

A Different Loving challenges our preconceived notions of sexual normalcy. It is welcomed by the practitioners of dominance and submission and is an indispensable book for all people who are interested in sexual and sociological mores, values, and trends.

Until now, there has been a dearth of candid discussion on alternative sexual lifestyles, "A Different Loving" fills that gap in a deeply considered, comprehensive and insightful way. It is an iconoclastic, literate and informative work destined to be widely read and endlessly debated...."
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Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: 
The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller, Molly Devon
(July 1995) Mystic Rose Books; ISBN: 0964596008

The authors cleary explain not only the how, but also the why, of sadomasochism and do it in an honest, sexy, and fun way.While being chatty and certainly insight, Screw The Roses enthusiastically covers all aspects of S/M. There's explanations and detailed tutorials for "safe, sane, and consensual", solid advice, safety measures, steamy suggestions, plenty of black-and-white photographs, useful and humorous drawings, an extensive glossary, and over 900 entries of S/M clothing and equipment vendors, publications, computer bulletin boards, and organizations worldwide. For those interested in S/M, this is a highly recommended book.
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Expert Guide To Anal Pleasure For Men
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

Welcome to the world of anal pleasure for men! Anal sex expert Tristan Taormino busts myths and challenges stereotypes about male sexuality as she sheds light on one of the most important erogenous zones for men. Let her guide you step by step as she teaches an informative workshop packed with tips and techniques for safe and pleasurable anal sex. Then watch as three sexy couples with great chemistry explore this intimate activity and experiment with different toys, and positions.

YOU’LL LEARN ABOUT:
• anal anatomy, hygiene and lube;
• butt plugs, vibrators, anal beads, dildos and prostate toys;
• strap-ons: how to choose one, how to use one;
• finger and toy penetration tips;
• the best positions for prostate stimulation.
Discover how to combine anal pleasure with oral sex, have fantastic strap-on sex, and give your partner an anal orgasm. A revealing look at one of the sexiest, most intense ways for couples to take their sex lives to the next level.
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Expert Guide to Rough Sex
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

Penny leads a workshop where she teaches and demonstrates with the help of Mia Lelani. She covers:

• how to communicate, establish consent, and set limits
• which parts of the body can be roughed up and which can’t
• how to choose an effective safeword
• tips for spanking, face slapping, and hair pulling in a safe way
• three different kinds of slapping techniques
• dominant/submissive and psychological roleplay

Then, watch as Penny and Derrick Pierce deliver a compelling performance. No one has ever seen Penny this rough, dirty, and nasty on film. Her fans will be surprised to see her scorching, one of a kind scene. Says Penny: "Although I like it in my personal life with the right person, I've never had rough sex on camera before. I hand-picked Derrick, who I really trust, for my scene. We felt really comfortable, and I went to a place I've never gone before. It's one of the best scenes I've ever shot."

Next, dirty talking Aiden Starr takes charge in a dominant/submissive roleplay with Devin, a popular male performer from Kink.com. Watch as he submits to her will, becoming her sex slave; at one point, she literally has him barking like a dog!

Mark Davis and Lexi Belle do the most provocative scene in the film. An experienced player, Mark really pushes her buttons, physically and emotionally, with roleplay, spanking, and face slapping. Lexi's reaction is raw, real, and very intense.
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Expert Guide to Threesomes
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

Have you ever dreamed about what it would be like to have a threesome? Let sex and relationship expert Tristan Taormino help make your erotic wish come true as she dispels myths and misconceptions and gives concrete advice about how to have safe, responsible, and fun threeway sex. You'll learn how to negotiate for what you want, choose a playmate, set boundaries, communicate, and build trust.

After Tristan's lesson, see her tips in action as Jack, India, and Haileey get together for a steamy ménage a trois. Both India and Haileey are curious about girl-on-girl sex, and this is their opportunity to explore their attraction.

Daisy is a girl who knows what she wants, and her guy Derrick is more than happy to help fulfill her fantasy by asking his pal Christian to join them for a sexual adventure. As they experiment with different positions, Daisy becomes the center of both men's attention and affection—which is exactly how she likes it. Penny, Harmony, and Justice quickly get into a groove where each person licks, sucks, and fucks, simultaneously giving pleasure to one and getting it from another. Their intense chemistry makes these three an uninhibited, explosive combination.

Delve into one of the most popular fantasies of all time as you get specific information and answers from sex expert Tristan Taormino about threesomes, then watch as three diverse triads turn this fantasy into blistering reality, demonstrating why three can be a magic number.
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Expert Guide to Positions
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

Experimenting with different positions is fun for both new partners and couples who've been together for a while. If you are just beginning a sexual relationship, trying out different positions is a great way to learn about each other's bodies and what each of you likes. For long-term partners, exploring new positions can break up your routine and add to your sexual repertoire.

The cast demonstrates 18 different positions which vary from "slow and sensual" to "fast and frenzied."
Topics include clitoral and G-spot stimulation; anal pleasure for him and her; increased friction or deeper penetration; and powerful thrusting or the need to delay or intensify orgasms.
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Expert Guide to the G-Spot
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

Sex expert Tristan Taormino teaches a G-spot workshop for couples where she reviews female sexual anatomy, dispels myths about the G-spot, and offers explicit advice to improve and enhance G-spot stimulation. With fingers and toys, co-hosts Donna and Sarah demonstrate various techniques as Tristan narrates; workshop participants watch and ask questions.

We meet Faith and Alec, who begin slow, sensual foreplay, followed by a spirited illustrating of different positions and stimulation techniques. When Alec brings out a vibrator with a special G-spot attachment, it sends Faith over the edge into ecstasy.

Next we meet Penny and Evan, a passionate couple who love toys. Evan warms up Penny with his mouth and fingers, then tries out a unique curved G-Spot vibe. At the start of intercourse, Penny is already on the edge of climax as Evan explores the best positions for a G-spot orgasm... on stairs, standing, where the perfect angle brings Penny to her knees - literally!

Kylie shares her G-spot experiences, which for her frequently lead to female ejaculation. Her partner Derrick knows just how to get her turned on enough to squirt. As they hit the "spot" with glass dildo and cock, she squirts until the couch beneath them is soaked!

Delve into the world of G-spot orgasm with sex expert Tristan Taormino, and her sexy, demonstrating couples, as you learn, experience, and enjoy this unique form of pleasure... led by the experts who know it best.
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Expert Guide to Oral Sex Part 2: Fellatio
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

This is one of those fabulous sexy sex ed films that's explicitly porny. A fun way to learn, that's for sure. Women attend a fellatio workshop lead by sex expert Tristan Taormino, where she teaches about male sexual anatomy and offers explicit advice and detailed examples to improve and enhance their oral sex skills. Tristan and her co-hosts Roxy and Christian demonstrate various techniques, discuss thoughts about oral sex and share some of their tips and tricks for maximum pleasure.

Demonstrations are enthusiastic, illustrating the benefits of different positions and stimulation techniques. Learn how to experiment with different ways to hands and mouth for stimulation and earth shattering orgasm for him.

There's plenty for the novice and advanced in oral sex skills, including deep throat techniques. Discover more about prostate stimulation, fellatio on an uncircumcised penis, and safer sex tips in the mini-features included as extras on the DVD.

Delve into the world of fellatio, taught by sex expert Tristan Taormino and demonstrated with knowledge and skill by enthusiastic couples. Learn, experience, and enjoy oral pleasure, by experts.
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Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Cunnilingus
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

This is the second release of Tristan's sexy sex ed for a new generation. Justine Joli leads a group of couples in a hands-on workshop on cunnilingus, where she teaches about female sexual anatomy and offers explicit, personal advice on a topic she knows inside and out. Using her mouth, tongue, fingers, and toys, Justine demonstrates different positions and stimulation techniques with her co-host Ariel as the crowd watches and asks questions.

After the workshop, we meet Kelly and Richard, a couple who's been together for more than a decade. They discuss their thoughts about oral sex and share their favorite positions, tips, and tricks for maximum pleasure. Richard takes his time, relishing a long, sensual oral session and giving Kelly multiple orgasms.

Next, we meet Cindy and Jack, a hot couple with a vast range of know how and expertise. Jack reveals his passion for giving oral sex, and explains what he thinks are the most important ingredients for a satisfying experience. Beginning with a sexy shaving scene, Jack explores every inch of Cindy's body as he shows off his amazing oral talents.

All in all, it's an educational introduction into one of the most intimate erotic activities one that can be a surefire road to orgasm for many women. Delve into the world of cunnilingus, demonstrated with knowledge and skill by enthusiastic couples and narrated by sex expert Tristan Taormino. Learn, experience, and enjoy oral pleasure, by experts.
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Expert Guide to Anal Sex
Director: Tristan Taormino
Studio: Vivid Ed

With this debut volume of the Vivid-Ed "Expert Guide" series, Tristan Taormino and Vivid-Ed developed an innovative new format: you can watch the sex scenes with or without instruction (it's like getting two movies on one disc). There are also two mini-features: an anal enema how-to and a safer sex demonstration. Plus, in a bonus sex scene, see what happens when Lorelei and Ariel finish what they started in the workshop. All in all, it's an educational introduction to the most intimate of erotic acts packed with information as well as heat and sensuality. Learn, experience, and enjoy anal pleasure by the experts.

Description:  Village Voice columnist and anal sex expert Tristan Taormino leads a group of couples in a class about anal pleasure. She covers anatomy, lube, tips, techniques, and toys. She welcomes her co- hosts, Lorelei and Ariel, who share their thoughts on the subject as well as some advice. Then they demonstrate various techniques for the crowd as Tristan narrates what they are doing. The workshop participants watch and ask questions about the G-spot, lubrication, and pain. Then, Tristan and Lorelei surprise Ariel with a very special anal toy.

After the workshop, we meet Ricki and Marcos who talk about their experiences with anal sex and share their favorite positions, toys, and tricks. Ricki tries anal beads for the first time, and the twosome have a bet about how many she'll take. Next, we meet Adrianna and Manuel, an experienced young couple with a vast range of anal know how who are also eager to demonstrate their anal style. They play with butt plugs, dildos, and vibrators and try out many different positions. Their session culminates in an intense, extended orgasm that leaves Adrianna exhausted and very satisfied.
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