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'09 Authors Insider Tips

Everything About Epublishing
by Angela James
Digital Publishing & Print
Common Myths of Epublishing
Ebook Formats and Devices

by Louisa Burton
Compelling Characters
Point of View, Part I
Point of View, Part II
Learning to Love Conflict
Story Structure
Keep ‘em Guessing
Keep it Simple
Keep Your Writing Real
The Importance of Pacing

Literary Streetwalker
by M. Christian
New World of Publishing
To Blog Or Not To Blog
Meeting & Making Friends
Thinking Beyond Sex
Selling Books
Walking the Line
e-book, e-publisher, e-fun
Still More E-book Fun

Shameless Self-Promotion
by Donna George Storey
Our Journey Begins
Pitches and Bios
Websites, Blogs & Readers
Publicists, Press Kits and...
Viva the Internet
Adventures in Cyberspace
Promoting In the Flesh
Make Your Own Movie
Bigger is Better
Looking Back, Planning Ahead

Two Girls Kissing
by Amie M. Evans
Questions to Ask Yourself...
Tough All Over

The Write Stuff
by Ashley Lister
Practice Makes Prefect
5 Books for Fiction Authors
Poetry In Motions
Six Serving Men
Ashley Lister is Anal
Stealing Ideas
Celebrating Poetry

2009 Smutters Lounge

Ashley Lister Submits
by Ashley Lister

Cooking Up A Storey
by Donna George Storey
A Year of Living Shamelessly
Adultery, Exhibitionism ...
John Updike Made Me Do It ...
Story Soup: Forbidden ...
Lessons from Amazon
Naked Lunches ...
Erotic Alchemy
Secrets of Seduction
Are You a “Real” Writer?
Don’t Fondle My Sentence

Cracking Foxy
with Robert Buckley
The Passionate Taphophile
Havens on Earth
A Knight Without Armor
Magic Carpet Rides
Getting Hammered
Keep It Quiet
Hang Around for a Spell

Get All Worked Up
with J.T. Benjamin
Worked Up About Why
Worked Up About Why, Part II
All Worked Up About Porn
The Catholic Church
Purity Movement
The National Crisis
The Future
About Homosexuality
Public Indiscretions

Pondering Porn
with Ann Regentin
Premature Ejaculation
Auctioning Off What?

Sex Is All Metaphors
by Jean Roberta
Who's Who Around the Table
Ritual Sex
Mixed Legacy
The Spectrum of Consent
Drawing the Line
Marriage without the Hype
The Distracting Smirk
Innocent Guns
Gardens of Earthly Delights

Provocative Interviews

Between the Lines
with Ashley Lister
Anneke Jacob
D L King
Kristina Lloyd
Lisabet Sarai
Mitzi Szereto
Portia Da Costa
Shanna Germain
Sommer Marsden
Susan DiPlacido

Guest Appearances

Marketing a Self-Published Novel
by Jeanne Ainslie

Ashley Lister Submits

                                       Diary of an Erotic Fiction Writer



Ashley Lister at Graduation

I’ll warn all readers now this month’s column contains nothing erotic and has only a tenuous link to writing.  I’m not saying that to be deliberately cryptic or intriguing.  I’m just offering an honest warning that I’ve gone off-topic with my diary this month in a moment’s pure self-indulgence.

Yesterday I graduated.  By the time you’re reading this, yesterday will have been last month (or earlier) so the official date of my graduation was July 8th 2009.  I’m now Ashley Lister BA(Hons).  [Bachelor of Arts with Honours]

This is the paragraph where I expect you and I, dear reader, are now alone.  The other readers will have dismissed this month’s diary and it’s just you and me alone here.  Good.

I was studying for a combined honours degree in English Language, Literature and Writing.  I got a decent first.  And a letter from the university congratulating for me scoring a first in every module.  Apparently that’s not a common occurrence.  I already have a big head so a letter telling me I’m a rare occurrence has made me nothing short of unbearable. 

(It occurs to me now that some of you may already be aware of this through reading the wonderful Donna George Storey’s column.  Donna got the online scoop on my graduation and posted a blog [Honoring Ashley Lister] that I have printed and framed.  After the achievement of graduating I was absolutely bowled over by the accolade of being the focus of Donna’s blog).

ClipsThe graduation ceremony took place at a fairly prestigious location.  We were in the Empress Ballroom at Blackpool’s Winter Gardens.  I got to wear the cap, hood and cape of an academic and I have photographs where my head looks like some strangely shaped sex toy.  I’m thinking of contacting a manufacturer of sex toys to ask if they can model a new butt-plug on the shape of my head in a mortarboard and market it with the byline: take your pleasure to the next degree.  Not only could it prove profitable but it would make a nice memento of the day.

The course had been absorbing, satisfying and fulfilling. 

Even though I’m a writer by profession I’ve never been a language maven.  Ask me whether a sentence works or not, and I can point out its problems.  But, if you’d asked me where the adjectives were, I would have made an excuse and left the room.  Now I can discuss stylistic analysis, deviant orthography and the balance of the dysphemistic against the euphemistic.  However, I still struggle a little with identifying adjectives.

The literature was even more absorbing.  Approaching literary theory for the first time in my life was a life-changing experience.  I’d previously thought feminist criticism was nothing more than women saying they didn’t like most books.  After three years of studying I now know it’s about women saying why they don’t like most books.  And it turns out they have a damned good reason. 

I’ve oversimplified matters in that last paragraph for the sake of comic effect.  In truth, I’ve been absorbed by the ways books can be interpreted and my respect for feminist authors has grown exponentially. 

And I’ve been writing too.  I’ve written academic articles and poetry: subjects that are normally outside my safety zone as a writer.  Not only have I written these pieces but I’ve seen many of them published – although I blame that on my natural drive as a writer to always work toward publication. 

And so, yesterday, after three years’ of challenges and learning, I graduated. 

I don’t come from a university background.  The ‘School of Life’ and the ‘University of Hard Knocks’ were highly revered by my elders when I was growing up.  Consequently, I was one of the more mature members of the class when I finally graduated and this was the first time I’d been to a graduation ceremony.  Obviously I’ve seen such events in movies and on TV shows but I’d never attended one.  I have to admit, walking out of the ceremony beneath a haze of red, green and blue lights, I felt as though I was in the final scenes of the horror movie Carrie and half expected John Travolta to pour a bucket of pig’s blood over my head. 

Fortunately, he wasn’t there and that didn’t happen.

ClipsTo add to the pressure of the day, I’d been asked to read the ceremony’s closing speech to an audience of more than 2,000 tutors, lecturers, professors, fellow graduates and their families.  Fortunately the day was incredibly hot.  This meant, when I was perspiring freely inside my hood, gown and cap, I could blame my excessive sweating on the sweltering weather conditions.  (I managed to blame the nervous flatulence on passing strangers).

The whole day was an enormous success.  The speech reading went as well as can be expected.  And I graduated with my first class honours degree. 

I know I’m bragging a little bit, but I feel justified.  And the reason why I mention my graduation here is because I wanted to bring the spotlight briefly on one of the most important things I’ve learnt over the past three years: something that’s important to all writers.

In the closing speech I described my fellow students as ‘a class of great and innovative thinkers whom I shall always treasure as friends.’  This was only partly true.  Some of them are great and innovative thinkers but there were also others in the class who couldn’t be trusted to safely hold a pencil.  For every individual who had a genius insight into the flaw of a particular theory, there would be someone else trying to tell me that D H Lawrence was a woman.

However, the friendship and support offered by everyone from the class has been inspirational.  Working alongside intelligent people; studying toward a common goal of success; and ultimately achieving that ambition, has shown me how important it is to have a network of friends and colleagues who can sympathise with your ideals.

I could conclude this article with a tenuous link to writing and explain how important a network of peer-support is to any solipsistic author.  However, I’ve made that point in previous columns and that’s not exactly what I’m trying to say here.  As I stated at the start of this article: this month’s column is pure self-indulgence and I just wanted to take a moment to bask in my own accomplishment and make mention of the triumph of my fellow graduates.

Kudos to the class of ’09 – and good luck with all you future endeavours.  It’s been an absolute pleasure earning your friendship.

Ashley Lister
August 2009

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  Read more of Ashley's Diary of an Erotic Fiction Writer in ERWA 2009 Archive.

"Ashley Lister Submits" © 2008 Ashley Lister. All rights reserved.

About the Author:  Ashley Lister is a UK author responsible for more than two-dozen erotic novels written under a variety of pseudonyms. His most recent work, Swingers: True Confessions from Today's Modern Swinging Scene (Virgin Books; ISBN: 0753511355), a non-fiction book recounting the exploits of UK swingers, is his first title published under his own name.
Ashley's non-fiction has appeared in a variety of magazines, including Forum, Chapter & Verse and The International Journal of Erotica.  Nexus, Chimera and Silver Moon have published his full-length fiction, with shorter stories appearing in anthologies edited by Maxim Jakubowski, Rachel Kramer Bussel and Mitzi Szereto.  He is very proud to be a regular contributor to ERWA.
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