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'09 Authors Insider Tips

Everything About Epublishing
by Angela James
Digital Publishing & Print
Common Myths of Epublishing
Ebook Formats and Devices

by Louisa Burton
Compelling Characters
Point of View, Part I
Point of View, Part II
Learning to Love Conflict
Story Structure
Keep ‘em Guessing
Keep it Simple
Keep Your Writing Real
The Importance of Pacing

Literary Streetwalker
by M. Christian
New World of Publishing
To Blog Or Not To Blog
Meeting & Making Friends
Thinking Beyond Sex
Selling Books
Walking the Line
e-book, e-publisher, e-fun
Still More E-book Fun

Shameless Self-Promotion
by Donna George Storey
Our Journey Begins
Pitches and Bios
Websites, Blogs & Readers
Publicists, Press Kits and...
Viva the Internet
Adventures in Cyberspace
Promoting In the Flesh
Make Your Own Movie
Bigger is Better
Looking Back, Planning Ahead

Two Girls Kissing
by Amie M. Evans
Questions to Ask Yourself...
Tough All Over

The Write Stuff
by Ashley Lister
Practice Makes Prefect
5 Books for Fiction Authors
Poetry In Motions
Six Serving Men
Ashley Lister is Anal
Stealing Ideas
Celebrating Poetry

2009 Smutters Lounge

Ashley Lister Submits
by Ashley Lister

Cooking Up A Storey
by Donna George Storey
A Year of Living Shamelessly
Adultery, Exhibitionism ...
John Updike Made Me Do It ...
Story Soup: Forbidden ...
Lessons from Amazon
Naked Lunches ...
Erotic Alchemy
Secrets of Seduction
Are You a “Real” Writer?
Don’t Fondle My Sentence

Cracking Foxy
with Robert Buckley
The Passionate Taphophile
Havens on Earth
A Knight Without Armor
Magic Carpet Rides
Getting Hammered
Keep It Quiet
Hang Around for a Spell

Get All Worked Up
with J.T. Benjamin
Worked Up About Why
Worked Up About Why, Part II
All Worked Up About Porn
The Catholic Church
Purity Movement
The National Crisis
The Future
About Homosexuality
Public Indiscretions

Pondering Porn
with Ann Regentin
Premature Ejaculation
Auctioning Off What?

Sex Is All Metaphors
by Jean Roberta
Who's Who Around the Table
Ritual Sex
Mixed Legacy
The Spectrum of Consent
Drawing the Line
Marriage without the Hype
The Distracting Smirk
Innocent Guns
Gardens of Earthly Delights

Provocative Interviews

Between the Lines
with Ashley Lister
Anneke Jacob
D L King
Kristina Lloyd
Lisabet Sarai
Mitzi Szereto
Portia Da Costa
Shanna Germain
Sommer Marsden
Susan DiPlacido

Guest Appearances

Marketing a Self-Published Novel
by Jeanne Ainslie

The Write Stuff

by Ashley Lister

Ashley Lister is Anal


Several times this week I’ve had people say the word ‘anal’ to me.  I’ve even had people pay me the ultimate accolade and say, “Ashley Lister is anal.”

If I was of a different disposition, I suppose it would be possible to construe this as a worrying sleight on my personality.  The term carries connotations of ‘anally retentive’ and it can often be used as a contraction to describe someone possessing the symptoms of such neuroses.  However, I choose to believe that those people who have described me in such a way are simply saying: Ashley Lister is as much fun as bum sex.  And, because I know bum sex is a lot of fun, I consider that be quite a compliment.  

(Could American readers please note here that the word ‘bum’ in this context refers to the English usage of the word and implies an individual’s rear or bottom or derriere, rather than a homeless person or vagrant – although it’s conceded, in consensual situations, that sort of bum sex can also be satisfying).

I think the first time I was called ‘anal’ this week occurred whilst I was re-alphabetising my T-Shirt collection.  Technically, I know, these should all be filed under T (for T-shirt).  However, since colour-coding the collection (to the inverted rainbow system) I have taken to subcategorising them alphabetically dependent on the wording of the logo/design emblazoned across the front.  This small chore necessitated my being in the bedroom and so, when my partner mumbled the word, ‘anal’ I merely saw it as a polite invitation for a bum sex nooner.

Yes.  I admit that I do have a tendency to over-organise some aspects of life.  But this is only because I’m incredibly lazy and want to take advantage of every time-saving device at my disposal.  Alphabetising books, CDs, DVDs, T-Shirts and alphabetti-spaghetti means that I don’t have to waste unnecessary time searching for things.

To illustrate, I should explain that my library is divided into two separate areas of fiction and non-fiction.  The fiction is alphabetised by author and then title but it’s also broken down into two discrete sections of good books and those written by Dan Brown.  The non-fiction is divided into categories based on the Dewey System with each category alphabetised by title and then author.

It’s an orderly system and time-saving too.  It’s so time-saving that many people have commented it must leave me plenty of time for bum sex.  At least, I think that’s what they were suggesting.

A lot of people use the word ‘anal’ as though it’s a bad thing.  Admittedly these people are usually the ones who couldn’t find their arse with both hands and a flashlight.  But somehow, the name and its negative connotations tend to stick as an insult. 

Whenever I’m writing a lengthy novel, I take the time and trouble to make notes about each character’s physical description.  This means, when I return to that character 50 pages later, I can be sure that they have consistent eye and hair colour and that their important statistics remain the same throughout the story.  Is this anal?  Possibly.  However, it’s saved me from the embarrassment of wandering eye-colour and a few other afflictions that can cause acute suffering to authors who leave these details to the fallible resource that is human memory.

Similarly with submissions.  Whenever I send a submission to a publisher or editor, I make a note in my diary.  I make a note of what I sent and when I sent the item.  I also make a note in my diary for six weeks after the submission’s deadline date so I can issue follow-up correspondence if the need arises. 

Does this make me anal?

Of course it does.  However, as this afternoon’s bum sex nooner has once again proved: anal doesn’t always have to be negative.

Ashley Lister
September 2009

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"The Write Stuff" © 2009 Ashley Lister. All rights reserved.

About the Author:  Ashley Lister is a UK author responsible for more than two-dozen erotic novels written under a variety of pseudonyms. His most recent work, Swingers: True Confessions from Today's Modern Swinging Scene (Virgin Books), a non-fiction book recounting the exploits of UK swingers, is his first title published under his own name.
Ashley’s non-fiction has appeared in a variety of magazines, including Forum, Chapter & Verse and The International Journal of Erotica.  Nexus, Chimera and Silver Moon have published his full-length fiction, with shorter stories appearing in anthologies edited by Maxim Jakubowski, Rachel Kramer Bussel and Mitzi Szereto.  He is very proud to be a regular contributor to ERWA.
Email:  Ashley Lister

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'09 Movie Reviews

Blame It On Savanna
Review by Byrdman

Cry Wolf
Review by Spooky

Review by Spooky

Heaven or Hell
Review by Oranje

House of Wicked
Review by Diesel

The Office: An XXX Parody
Review by Spooky

This Ain't The Partridge Family
Review by Spooky

'09 Book Reviews


A Slip of the Lip (ebook)
Review by Jean Roberta

Best Women's Erotica '09
Review by Lisabet Sarai

Bottoms Up
Review by Ashley Lister

Enchanted Again
Review by Victoria Blisse

Review by Kathleen Bradean

Girls on Top
Review by Ashley Lister

In Sleeping Beauty’s Bed
Review by Ashley Lister

Libidacoria (Poetry)
Review by Ashley Lister

Licks & Promises
Review by Ashley Lister

Like a Thorn (ebook)
Review by Lisabet Sarai

The Mile High Club
Review by Ashley Lister

Nexus Confessions: Vol 5
Review by Victoria Blisse

Nexus Confessions 6
Review by Victoria Blisse

Oysters & Chocolate
Review by Kristina Wright

Playing with Fire
Review by Ashley Lister

Sexy Little Numbers Vol 1
Review by Ashley Lister

Up for Grabs
Review by Lisabet Sarai


A 21st Century Courtesan
Review by Donna G. Storey

The Ages of Lulu
Review by Lisabet Sarai

Amanda’s Young Men
Review by Kristina Wright

As She's Told
Review by Ashley Lister

Bedding Down
Review by Victoria Blisse

Review by Ashley Lister

Brushes & Painted Dolls
Review by Lisabet Sarai

Cassandras Chateau
Review by Ashley Lister

The Edge of Impropriety
Review by Kristina Wright

Review by Kathleen Bradean

Free Pass
Review by Ashley Lister

The Gift of Shame
Review by Victoria Blisse

Kiss It Better
Review by Ashley Lister

The Melinoe Project
Review by Lisabet Sarai

Mortal Engines & The ...
Review by Ashley Lister

The New Rakes
Review by Ashley Lister

Ninety Days of Genevieve
Review by Victoria Blisse

Obsession: An Erotic Tale
Review by Kristina Wright

Sarah's Education
Review by Ashley Lister

Seduce Me
Review by Lisabet Sarai

Lesbian Erotica

Lesbian Cowboys
Review by Kathleen Bradean

Night's Kiss
Review by Jean Roberta

Where the Girls Are
Review by Jean Roberta

Gay Erotica

Animal Attraction 2
Review by Kathleen Bradean

Boys in Heat
Review by Vincent Diamond

Review by Lisabet Sarai

The Low Road
Review by Jean Roberta

Personal Demons
Review by Jean Roberta

Ready to Serve
Review by Vincent Diamond

The Secret Tunnel
Review by Kathleen Bradean

Review by Kathleen Bradean

Review by Vincent Diamond


Best Sex Writing '09
Review by Kristina Wright

The Big Penis Book
Review by Rob Hardy

Erotic Encounters
Review by Rob Hardy

The Forbidden Apple
Review by Rob Hardy

Hollywood’s Censor
Review by Rob Hardy

Lady in Red
Review by Rob Hardy

Licentious Gotham: Erotic...
Review by Rob Hardy

Live Nude Elf
Review by Rob Hardy

Live Nude Girl
Review by Rob Hardy

The Other Side of Desire
Review by Rob Hardy

Scripts 4 Play
Review by Ashley Lister